Have you ever looked through my DMs?
We’ve had full-blown arguments via Whatsapp.
Yeah, full-blown.
Yeah yeah, nice.
Across the room from each other.
You - are - so - annoying!
Silent, it’s like a silent rave.
No but they didn’t ask are you married, they didn’t say can I marry you…
But obviously you know - ….they said, you look good!
What d’you say to that?
If it’s a guy then…
“Thanks”?!
Or…
“Tell me more”?
We’d been, I don’t know how many dates it was but it was a few dates in and I was
scrolling through and I saw the picture of you in your underwear -
You must have been so stressed I saw the picture of you in your underwear
and I was like - what?
Yeah I remember the mesh, the black mesh with the really…
Oh yeah!
You told me…
The jeans.
Delete that!
Delete that one.
Yeah.
I actually did.
And I was like, “What do mean delete it?
I’m having fun in Miami.”
One day I posted a picture of me in my Calvin Klein bra.
And she lost it.
And mine is always like PG…
It’s not - PG suggestive nudity, hers is always like
she’s definitely butt-naked.
I’m not definitely butt… awh…
It’s always like, there’s like some strategically placed…
It’s like a…
Plant!
There was, uh, a guy who would always be like, “You’re sexy.
You’re sexy.
You’re sexy.”
People would always DM me about my jewellery and be like how can I purchase whatever whatever
and then- They’d be flirting
Can we make - would you like to meet - do you do consultations…
And then I blocked him and then I said to Karl…
But I first told Karl “Yeah, he always…” and Karl was like, “Yeah that’s fine!
Nothing wrong with that!
He’s just telling you that you look nice.
What’s the problem?”
And I’m just like… do you want the jewellery, or do you want the jewels?
Cause the one’s available, one’s not.
I’m doing it, how come you’re not doing it?
I think, like, it is kind of heated because I take it kind of personal.
Like, I’m putting you out there, all my friends know about you.
Like, I’d see everyone posting their partner and I’m like, “Okay, so when’s my turn?”
I was the first person to post you on social media and it was literally...
it must have been, like, our fourth date or something.
Yeah.
It was really soon.
He went away on a long, like, trip for a month.
Yeah I was doing my challenge.
Yeah, you were on a challenge
And then you got gassed when you got your personal Instagram and its bare mushy.
Yeah and I was like, posting…
Most loving.
Posting.
Most caring.
Posting.
Bare like love hearts and shit.
Like, I’m not that mushy when I post.
And then I saw a post!
I was like, “Wow!”
I remember that as well.
Everything’s changed.
Yeah.
That was… that did break the…
And you called me your Julie!
Yeah.
My Julie!
Yeah.
Yeah you were on your Facebook and I was looking at your tagged photos.
Aw.
And there was just a stream of you and your ex, like, camping holiday…
I would love to know who you were with, but most importantly…
Yeah.
I would love for you to let me know.
Not Facebook, not Twitter…
Yeah true.
Not Snapchat.
I had a lot of relationships on Facebook, but not on Instagram.
Me and Karl were the first Instagram… one that I put on Instagram.
So with Facebook, I just deleted the pictures.
I would say clear out all your social media before because it can be, it can be a bit
painful
CHECKING YOUR PHONE
When we first started dating, it’d be like we’d be on a date and you’d be like…
What, just like?
“Sorry, I have… sorry.”
If we’re watching a movie and she’s on her phone, I’ll just be like… um...
I usually just pause the movie and be like, “I’ll wait.
Shall we wait?
Let’s wait for Liv.”
And then I’m like, “No!
No!
Uh, No!
No!
I’m here!
I’m here!”
There’ve been times where I’ve been too concerned about what’s going on social media
and less about us.
Yeah.
And that’s kind of allowed there to be a space.
At the end of a long day, um, if we’re in bed, it’s automatically no phone zone.
Yeah.
So I just feel like making sure there’s always that connection, always that talk and
always that communication, keeps that bond.
We were together for a few months, I can’t remember how long, and her laptop was at my
house, and I was just on her user, just using her laptop.
And my iMessages were just popping up, so she just had to take a look.
I was like, just a little click.
“Click!”
Obviously, you can be secure in a relationship, but there’s been times where I might think,
“That’s a bit odd.” and I’ll want to look deeper into the thing.
We don’t actually go on to our Facebook accounts and actually look up our messages,
because I feel like if you don’t trust the person, like, why are you going to do that?
No, but then even if I felt odd, which obviously...
we’re humans…
He wouldn’t.
There could be times…
He wouldn’t look.
I would never take somebody’s thing and look through it.
If you’re at a point where you’re going to take someone’s phone and break that privacy…
yeah, going through someone’s messages…
It will hurt.
Yeah.
It will hurt someone.
It’s breaking a boundary you don’t want to break.
It can be a scary place…
It can be.
To take your relationship to.
When I see the constant, like, “We’re happy.
It’s constantly good”, then I know that they’re kind of telling a little bit of
porkies, you know.
Because you know what a real relationship…
I just know what real life is.
Even if your partner is not into it, just make sure that what you’re going to do on
social media, it’s comfortable for her or him.
If you love someone, if you care about someone, it’s important to see how they feel about
things and, like, to listen to them.
Yeah.
Because otherwise, it will become a thing.
You want more human connection, maybe less social media in certain times, you know.
Dinner.
Movies, you know?
Sitting around chilling.
Just must make sure that you’re mindful of the future as well.
You can’t just live in the moment and just post, post, post, post what’s going on now,
because your circumstances change.
If you’re with someone that, you know, their social media presence is more valuable to
them than what you guys have, then you need to think about your worth and whether you
should be in that position, because your partner should be able to tell you, “I feel uncomfortable
with you doing this” and you should be able to listen.