Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. On today's video I want to talk about how
do you get a girl to chase you a little bit. This concept can be kind of confusing for
some guys. I know there are a lot of guys out there who are chasing women. And they
know that they don't like to chase. They don't like to be begging and convincing. They want
to flip the script a little bit. On today's video, what we're going to be going over are
certain phrases, certain words that you can say that make this happen. I know this concept
can be kind of confusing for some people. It's like how do you get a girl to chase you
while you're still being the guy to be assertive and take the lead and make it happen? It's
like you can't just walk outside and hope for girls to chase you. No, you have to be
the one to go over start conversation, get things flowing, flirting with the girl, all
those good things. Let's pretend you're talking to a girl, you meet her, you guys are talking,
you're in person or maybe you're on a date and she says something that you disagree with.
There's a playful way to make her chase you by saying these words. You're going to say,
I totally disagree. You're gonna say to her, I totally disagree with that. But the way
you're going to do it is going to be in a playful way. You're going to be smiling while
you say it because if you say, I totally disagree on something she said, she's gonna go whoa,
I offended him, something bad happened. Unless she actually does offend you. But either way,
in this situation, you're doing it more playful. Saying to her, saying the exact words I totally
disagree with you. I know this is very counterintuitive. We always want to be people pleasing. We want
to agree with the person that we're talking to. We don't want to create any tension between
the person that you're with. A lot of guys and the "nice guys" what they do is they agree
and they nod their head and say yeah yeah with everything that the person they're talking
to says. That is what you think works, but actually the counterintuitive way is to disagree.
I'm not saying to lie. If you don't disagree with something that she says or something
that she likes or anything that you guys are talking about, don't say that. I'm saying
to you, if you do have a moment in conversation where you do disagree, take that as an opportunity
to tell her, I totally disagree with you. What that does is it shows first of all, that
you have an opinion, you have a personality, and makes you more unique. And it does create
tension and build tension, but in a positive way. Instead of her being unattracted, really
what ends up happening is because that tension is built, there's a spike in emotion. And
she realizes, oh, wait a minute, we're not completely alike, which will then cause her
to seek validation from you. You're not giving her the validation that someone needs it like
oh, yeah, I agree or yeah, totally yes oh me too. I like that also. Because she's not
getting that, she's going to start to chase for that. And that's where the chasing happens.
That's where she starts to try to get you to like her based on the things that she's
saying, based on the things that you're saying. Again the line here is I totally disagree.
Do it with a smile. Here's another one. This is more for when you first meet someone off
of a cold approach. Let's say that you go up to a girl, you're talking to her at a bar,
maybe you go to a girl on the sidewalk, or the street or somewhere public and you guys
are in a conversation with each other. A really great tease (maybe you've heard me say this
before, I've said this on a few past videos) what you do is you say oh my gosh, you know
what you and I are never going to work out. This is similar to saying you disagree, but
you're not going to say I disagree. For example, let's say that she says she likes something
or she's from somewhere or she has an opinion or whatever. You just stop you go hold on.
Really? You know what, you and I, this is totally not going to work out. You're doing
this in a playful way and what you're doing is you're basically disqualifying her. You're
saying to her, that this is not going to be a thing, but again, you're doing it with a
smile so it's obvious that you're teasing. But a lot of guys don't do this. A lot of
guys are really afraid to create any sort of tension or say anything that is meaning
that you two are not a good match. Being that disagreeing my last example and this one that
you two will never work out. Don't be afraid to do that. Because you're doing this to get
her to chase you a little bit, to tease, to create some tension and be playful and show
her that you are not so easy to get. What most guys do is the complete opposite. A lot
of agreein,g a lot of yeses, a lot of nodding heads, a lot of validation, lots of over complimenting,
making her feel good, making her feel like oh he likes me and it's over. I know this
sounds very gamey like this is very manipulative, but you have to understand this is going to
help you balance out you doing the other side which is even more manipulative. You being
a people pleaser, nice guy agreeing all the time. That's super manipulative because that's
not you being you. That's just you agreeing and doing nice things to get someone to like
you. What we're doing here in this video is we're balancing it out in trying to push you
over to the other side of the pendulum here so you're not so agreeable all the time. And
what is this going to do? It's going to make her chase you. Another example is
an example of what I call dominance. When I say dominance, I mean you taking the lead.
I talk about this further and go way into depth in my program called Hooked
which you can check out at www.getherhooked.com. That is a whole program that's going to teach
you how to be more dominant, more alpha, more attractive with women so you can meet them,
get them attracted to you and then have a very active and fun dating life. I'll put
a link in the description down below to Get Her Hooked dot com so you can go there and
get the program so you can dive deeper into this topic of dominance. But I'll give you
an example right now of what dominance looks like. It gets a girl, not necessarily chasing
you, but at least following you, which is a similar idea. Here's what I want you to
say, the next time that you're planning a date with a girl, and this can be over text,
this can also be in person, either way, what you're going to say is this. You're going
to preface it with these few words, you're going to say all right, here's what we're
going to do..... You're going to say, here's what we're going to do and then after that,
you're going to give the plan of what you guys are going to do on a date or you're going
to go or what you're going to do, anything like that. But I like those words right there.
It's very powerful and this is going to help you get into the rhythm of leading, of being
more dominant of taking action. This is very attractive to women. Women want you to lead
them. This is a very masculine trait, to be leading, to be dominant. You're going to say
alright, here's what we're going to do. For example, you can say maybe you're setting
up a date over text. You say, here's what we're going to do, you and I are going to
go to this place at 8pm and get the best sushi ever. Doesn't matter what it is, but you're
going to preface it. Here's what we're going to do. Again, more on this topic in the Hooked
program, which you can check out at www.getherhooked.com where I give you more examples of what it
means to lead a girl from the moment you meet her all the way to the bedroom and all the
way to a relationship. So remember, think dominance, think taking the lead. Let's go
to the next one. This is powerful. I know a lot of guys aren't doing this. Again, I
only want you to use these words and what I'm about to say here if it's true. If it's
not true, don't say it. But I really hope it's true for you and that's this. The words
are this; I can't that day. I can't that day. This is again, in the context of you setting
up a date with her. A lot of guys will completely move their schedule and do everything they
can because they're desperate to go on a date with a girl that they like. And so I'm telling
you, I don't want you to do that. This is going to in turn, it's gonna make her chase
you, but it's also going to make you more true to who you are. It's gonna make you more
true to who you are. Because you're not going to be just doing everything you can and be
at every beck and call for every single woman that you ever talked to. If you can't hang
out on a day, if she says, you know, I can't on Friday, can you hang out on Monday? And
you can't hang on a Monday, I want you to say I can't that day. And watch as she chases
you. Of course, she might not respond to that. You can't just say I can't that day and then
leave it completely open ended. After that, pick another day, but I don't want you to
be too available all the time. Hopefully you're actually not available all the time. My goal
with this phrase is that you truly mean it, that you have things going on in your life.
Maybe you're going on dates with other women, maybe you have other things that you're doing
after work, maybe you have more work to do. Maybe you're hanging out with a friend, it
doesn't matter. But I want you to make sure that you are only available to hang out with
a woman when you're actually available. Get into that habit. I don't want you to be the
guy who's gonna be desperate and needy. If you start right then, if you start right at
the beginning of a dating relationship with a girl and you're already moving things around
and making it so you are completely available, I promise that is going to be the habit and
the routine that you're going to get into for the rest of this relationship with this
person. So start immediately and remember, you're busy. All you got to say is I can't
that day. The whole idea here about getting a woman to chase you is that you are not being
needy. You're not chasing her. You're not being too available to her, you're not like
I said earlier over complimenting or doing all this stuff for a girl to like you. Get
out of your head this idea of I gotta get her to like me. I need to impress her. I need
to do things to get her to like me. Instead reverse this, completely reverse this. It
should be you, being you having fun, being the dominant alpha masculine guy that you
are with another girl and then seeing if she's good enough for you. Once you flip that in
your head, once you change that mindset, everything's going to change. You got to get to that point,
to the point where you are qualifying her. Is she good enough to be spending time with
you? Don't think the other way around. A lot of guys are trying to do this thing where
they convince. We're talking about words that generate attraction. Here's a word that we
need to remove from your vocabulary and especially in your mind. It's the word convince. We're
not convincing women to like us. We're just getting a lot of women in the funnel. Meaning
you're meeting lots and lots of women and you're doing you and then the best one survives.
Meaning the best one, the one you like the most sticks around. Think about it that way.
Don't forget if you want to learn more about how to tap into this mindset and generate
attraction with all of the women that you meet and learn how to do it step by step,
check out the Hooked program. That's at www.getherhooked.com. Link is in the description below. I hope this
helps. Let me know which one you like the most, write it down below, and let's hear
from you. I'll see on the next video.