Hello…
Welcome back to Most Amazing Top 10!
I am Rebecca Felgate and today I am doing a very special collaboration with Mr Ron Mackenzie
Lefurgey, a host of one of our sister channels Top Ten Gaming!
Ron: ….intro self REB: Today, we thought we would take inspiration
from the gaming world, where you can catch things like Pokemon, and see if we can apply
it to everyday life.
RON: That’s right – today we are talking about the Top 10 Ways to Catch a Cheater.
REB: Any experience catching a cheater, Ron?
RON: Response
REB: Okay, coming in at number 10, we have take note of their behaviour.
Snooping on a spouse or partner is a huge abuse of trust, so you shouldn’t be trying
to catch a cheater without reasonable suspicion that they are cheating.
Are they acting aloof?
Are they distant?
Are they less interested in sex or affection?
Are they hiding their phone or acting weird about it?
Are they regularly removing their browsing data?
Are they talking about another person a lot?
Or are they talking less….?
Are they avoiding making plans in the future?
Are they staying up later or getting up earlier?
Are they changing their physical appearance?
Individually these signs probably are harmless and just suggest your partner is having a
bit of a rough time…but three or more of these signs in one suggests something is going
on.
The first way to catch a cheater is definitely to look for the signs.
RON: Exactly…don’t be too hasty.
Of course I don’t condone doing this, but at number 9 of our Top 10 list of How to Catch
a Cheater, we have read their messages.
These days people’s phones are an extension of their lives.
Emails, text messages, What’sApp messages and Facebook messages hold a lot of clues
as to a person’s true feelings.
If your partner has set up a new password on their phone, it’s a warning sign.
If you are worried about a cheater and can access the phone, then perhaps a message snoop
will bring you answers, although you may not like them.
REB: similarly, coming in to number 8 we have a good old social media search.
A savvy cheater may be using less obvious ways to communicate with the person they’re
cheating with.
For example, Instagram messages, Twitter Direct Messages or snaps on SnapChat.
They also may be liking facebook pictures and instagram pictures of one person in particular.
While liking somebody else’s pictures on social media is not a sign of cheating, the
frequency of likes and the content they are liking might be…for example, if my partner
was liking more provocative images from a person on social media, I would be pretty
upset.
There is no need for my boyfriend to be liking busty cleavage snaps from other ladies….
Also, social media auto complete is your friend when catching a cheater.
They may have deleted messages from their accounts, but they probably didn’t think
to clear their data history.
Try typing the first letter of the person you are concerned about into their social
media search bar.
If their name immediately comes up, you have cause for concern.
RON: Coming into number 7, you can catch a cheater by using the Find my iPhone app.
If your partner has Find My iPhone set up, and you are able to access their iCloud, then
it would be very easy for you to find out exactly where they are when they say their
at work, the gym, out with their friends or whatever excuse they’ve cooked up.
If they don’t have Find My iPhone or even an iPhone altogether, you can still check
their app history.
A quick browse of Google Maps can allow a person to view travel history, if turned on….or…checking
Uber histories can also be pretty revealing.
REB: Getting kind of gross at number 6, we have check the trash.
One girl I know caught her husband cheating when she found a used Condom in the rubbish
bin…which seems like a bit of an idiot move on his behalf.
Gross.
If you don’t want to get your hands dirty immediately, first check their pockets and
wallet for receipts.
If you didn’t go out for dinner and there’s a receipt for food for two….you may have
some questions.
Although do not confront them until you are certain there is foul play…if not you’ll
sound pretty crazy.
Still REB: Coming in to number 5 we have the classic move of turning up unexpectedly.
SURPRISE.
Oh…who’s this…?
You say you need to work late, or your coming back from a trip later than you are actually
coming back…then you turn up to wherever they are.
This only really works if you’ve established a pattern of being true to your word when
you say you’re working late or going out or whatever, but when your partner gets comfortable
with your schedule, they may use the opportunity to meet up with the person they’re cheating
with.
Many people have caught cheaters by the ‘ol surprise turn up.
RON: Moving on to number 4, you could talk to their friends.
If they’re good friends with your partner and less so with you, they may not be willing
to throw their friend under the bus, however if they’re your friend too, you could start
by asking if your partner has been acting weirdly around them.
If they know about what is going on, they may feel sorry for you and let you in on the
truth.
If they don’t, maybe examine their behaviour too…if they’re acting sketchy…maybe
ask yourself why.
Still RON: If that fails…maybe try number three…hound them til they admit it.
(Ron explain the Bugs Bunny Effect) Eventually they may get so tired of your suspicion
and hounding that they just admit it…which really would be best for all involved.
REB: Coming in to number 2, we have create fake online accounts.
Sign up for Tinder and see if your partner is using it, or cheating sites like Ashley
Madison.
A bit of sleuthing goes a long way!
RON: Exactly….which is why you may want to consider our number one way to catch a
cheater….hire an investigator.
While this is definitely the most expensive option, it may be the easiest.
Sleuthing around yourself can be emotionally and physically exhausting, so why not leave
it to a professional…plus that way you wont get caught snooping.
Investigators can get pretty in depth too, for example some offer forensic infidelity
tests.
I have no idea how it works, but an investigator can give you a pretty definitive answer.
REB with RON: So, that was the Top 10 Ways to Catch a Cheater … but of course do not
take these steps if you are simply paranoid.
For me the best course of action would be to straight up ask my partner if I thought
they were being unfaithful.
RON: yeah, honesty is the best policy ! REB: So…Ron, what is more fun….catching
a cheater or catching a Pikachu?
RON: some kind of game related call back REB: So guys, make sure you check out Top
Ten Gaming where you can see more of good ‘ol RON here…..
SIGN OUT.