have you been everybody Jonathan here
and in this video I'm going to talk
about a topic that often gets ignored in
personal training that is essential in
sex in personal training all right now
it might 102 personal training videos
two rules personal training videos write
it I say never mix business with
pleasure
alright and an understanding in the
media personal trainers don't
necessarily have the greatest reputation
as being morally you know high morally
you know on average at least in America
perhaps it's not the case you know
overseas but one reason is let's be
honest and I'm not going to sugarcoat it
I'll be able to see straight in personal
training you're you know touching a lot
you're being very complimentary and
you're essentially selling your body you
know you're selling a drink you're
selling you know an ideal fitness you
know image alright and this is often a
situation where a lot of your clients
and I'll speak as a male trainer that
turns a lot of female clients from what
I've seen after speaking to them for an
extended period of time getting close
with them factors but oftentimes it's
it's a case where people are getting
personal training not just to get in
shape they just want to get noticed they
just want to feel beautiful then just
you want to look appealing and then when
you get into a situation where you're
constantly you know giving people you
know encouragement it kind of telling
them how great they look and you're just
you know a picture of fitness because
one of the reasons they hire them is
because they like doing look it's not
hard for us not to come on to you and
then you can engage in some kind of
sexual relationship with your client
without many strings attached alright
it's easy a personal trainer let's just
put it up that's what it is now I'm here
to tell you that this is a bad idea in
personal training to mix business with
pleasure
why because yes although it may be great
for your ego I one of the books I like
to read is 102 laws no 42 the 40 laws of
power
I'll talk about
but one of the main rules is your
reputation is everything
guard it with your life now you may
think that it's a great thing to have a
reputation as a hot stubby trainer in a
gym that all the women want but you
completely alienate yourself from the
guys and I mean that in the sense of
you'll have no idea how often I would
get approached by guys and say Jonathan
I want you to train my way all right
when you have a good reputation of the
gym as any trainer of morally high
standard it is a it's great for business
all right a lot of times husbands not
they don't want you to train the wives
not because they can't afford it because
they don't want you touching their wives
they don't want you know taking
advantage of their wives and in some
cases they're threatened in rightfully
so oh I need some sons tend to be a
little bit out of shape you know they
want their wife to get in better shape
or they're you know or they just don't
under her wife straight away with you
all right
so yes while it may be flattering to get
hit on a lot as a trainer
it doesn't do your business any look any
good come on plane is flying by and also
work gets around in the gym all right
there are going to be you know some
clients that may want to come to you
because you have that type of reputation
but I think there will be far more
clients that we turn off body because
you have the reputation of the guy that
will sleep with anything that moves all
right so um you know listen I'm not
passing judgment on anybody for your
morals or whatever you want to do if
that's what you but that's less than
having that's not a lifestyle to live
that's great do it at another gym don't
do it at the gym that you work all right
because you know people often ask you
know is this guy any good or people just
notice you know your dynamic with your
client will change once you engage in
some kind of sexual relationship with
them it's just it can't not and
everybody will know all right moving
forward there was another point that I
wanted to make oh so but you can tell
how you feel about somebody all right
so for instance yeah alright anybody can
walk in at any time there was this one
girl who I actually we had to do all
right but the best way that I went about
it I essentially waited until cos I'd
give up you know a month you know at a
very discounted rate I essentially
waited so that month was over and if I
was gonna ask her out I had to make sure
that she was no longer my client if you
care about that person enough or if you
let them that much you can't train them
and date them at the same time all right
mom you can't take money from them and
have them be your significant up the
responsible thing to do would be to you
know if you can't control yourself you
know just make up an excuse that you
can't train them and pass them off to
another client all right or just decide
that okay you're not gonna be my client
anymore you know and then we'll work out
together we'll do the whole buddy-buddy
thing whatever I don't care but the
point is guard your reputation with your
life because we will follow you wherever
you go and I can't tell you how many
trainers
I've seen that have got out of the gym
sometimes called walked out in handcuffs
because I got to the wrong kind of
relationship with their client you know
text messages were sent calls were made
people talk and before you do it that's
when it was out of a job if you want to
take yourself seriously you want people
to take you seriously you have to put
yourself in a very high standard you're
going to have high visibility and be in
front of a lot of people trust is gonna
be a major issue
you're gonna want those guys to say hey
I want you to train my wife you're gonna
want those women to say hey I want you
to train my dog
you're gonna want those people to say
hey I want you to train my mother so
don't cut these people are just because
you want a little ego things if you want
to do it go to a bar go to another gym
do your own thing you're probably in
great shape you can probably you know
pick up you know matter whatever you
want but ask your money make sure you
keep your pockets full all right so I
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