- I've noticed that the less attached I am to anything,
the more free I am to be myself and therefore
the more good results come.
But anytime I am overly attached to anything,
whether that be the way someone thinks about me,
attached to outcome of how something happens,
attached to a person, attached to a belief or a label
of a way I define myself, anytime I've been attached,
it has been something that I infused resistance into my life
or into that experience.
And when I've let go of attachment,
that's when all the results have come.
And that's because attachment, as Buddha said,
is the root of all suffering.
So attachment and desire is the root of all suffering
and when you look at magnetic energy,
you having magnetic energy and you attracting
that which you want while also,
don't be afraid of this, by the way,
don't be afraid of repelling that which you don't want.
That's something that sometimes when people are in a pattern
where they care or they're attached to outcome,
sometimes people will have this desire to get everyone
to like them.
And when everybody likes you,
it means you're probably playing a little bit too safe.
You're not showing the true, authentic you,
because when you're at your core,
you are going to both have,
you may be a little bit of a polarizing,
but you're going to attract the people
that would really resonate with you at your core
and you're gonna repel people who wouldn't.
The more authentic I've become in my own frame,
the more I've repelled people
that I don't necessarily want to come into my frame.
And it's a very interesting perspective when it comes to
magnetic energy.
But in this video, what I wanna do is share with you
the magnetic formula for having love chase you.
Having love coming to your life easier than ever.
These are things that allowed me to attract love
easier than ever, and really allowed me
to also let go of old patterns that were blocking
different areas of my life.
But this is a like practical step-by-step process
to values and qualities that you can begin
to wire into yourself that changes absolutely everything.
And I promise that by the end of this video,
you will have those values or that formula
for attracting love easier than ever.
Now for this journey for me,
there was a part of me that was, you know, it's funny.
I was working at a, I remember when I worked at Nordstrom's,
there was this one guy and I used to always think that
like, you had to look a certain way
in order to attract love.
There was a certain way that you had a look
and back in high school, especially,
I was like such a nerd in high school.
I was in band and I was just like, you know,
also at the same time, I was really caring
what other people thought of me.
I had braces, I had horrible acne.
I had to take something called Accutane,
which is like this stuff that dries out your skin
has horrible side effects, do not recommend it at all.
But I took that when I was a teenager
and I had a very low sense of self worth.
Even if you look up like on Louise Hay,
you know, the it's like you can heal your life.
It shows the different meanings of different like,
diseases and ailments and stuff like that.
And acne, it has to do with self hatred
and I realized that as a kid, as a teenager,
I definitely hated myself.
And I could tell, I mean,
I had a lot of blocks to love growing up
because I had such a low sense of self-worth.
And I remember when I was working at Barneys New York,
there's this one guy there.
And not to be judgmental or anything, but I remember
looking at him and just like,
he was somebody that would attract some of the most like,
beautiful woman.
Now, of course, there's, you know,
there's outer beauty and inner beauty and all that.
But he had a consistency
to where anytime he was dating someone,
it was like, somebody that looked like
they were way out of his league.
But then I realized that it was his energy
that was what was attractive.
His energy, he had this non-needy energy
to where he was just confidently himself.
He was funny.
He had personality and it then made me realize that,
you know, looks have very little do with attraction
because attraction is energy based.
Yes, attraction can give you the first on cleanse of,
of somebody, but attraction and love in general
is vibration based more
than just appearance, especially nowadays.
People want sustenance, they want vulnerability,
they want depth, not just the surface level look.
And if, tell me if I'm right, by the way,
like this video, if in a relationship
you want that of depth and connection and vulnerability
more so than just the stereotypical looks.
Now, when I met this guy,
I could see that that was his energy and that's,
and it made me think like, what is that?
What is it about him that allows him to be so easy with that
lovin' his life.
He always has somebody.
Now he's got, he's like married to,
married with kids and it just looked like
that was an easy area of his life
and maybe it was his childhood, maybe part of it
was he had like, you know, his parents
that like nurtured him a certain way.
And he had a high sense of self-worth.
But in general, that's when I realized
that love in general is not just,
it's not looks.
It's not like if I could look better,
if I could get into better shape, you know.
Me recently, I got into better shape
because I gained like 20, 30 pounds.
But it wasn't that I got into better shape
that was the key.
It was that I felt better about myself.
So think about that.
It's not the looks, it's not the appearance.
It's the, it's the energy.
I've met people before that. I get to know them
and I'm like, wow, this is a very attractive person.
I've met people before that,
on the surface look a certain way
and I'm not attracted to them at all,
even though maybe everybody else is because of their energy
because of their personality.
It's the same thing.
So realize first off,
this has more to do with your vibration
and you can be in a magnetic frame by owning it
and realizing that people feel what you feel.
People feel what you feel.
Now one of the first components of this
is understanding that the magic,
that magnetic formula for you being magnetic is first off,
non neediness, non neediness.
The less you need validation from other people
and the less you need other people to validate your frame
or the less you need, you know,
people do respond to you a certain way,
the less you need love, the less you need a partner,
the more you will be in the vibration of having it.
Think about it.
Desire and attachment is the root of all suffering.
You say, I want love, you are saying, I lack love
because if you want it, you lack it.
If you have it, you just naturally have it.
You naturally are it.
So this is also about realizing that that wanting
is because you don't currently have it.
So the vibration of having it
is really the vibration of being it.
How can you be in that non-neediness.
The degree to which you are attractive
is the degree to which you are not needy.
The more needy you are or codependent you are,
the more people feel that and the more
it literally pushes them away.
For a long time in my love dynamic relationships,
I would focus on the other person,
how can I change myself to help them?
I would find myself like wondering,
when are they texting back?
I would, and I realized that this also,
this had to do with a childhood wounding.
Many of us have an abandonment wound,
which means as a child,
we felt emotionally or physically abandoned.
And now we feel like we have to change ourself
in order to please other people.
Really, by the way, what this means
is we are losing the sense of self to help and give to other
so that the other can give us what we think we need,
which is validation.
And the key to this, by the way,
is anytime we felt abandoned as a kid,
it means that we then abandoned ourselves
to make others happy.
Think about that.
Isn't that crazy?
And so the key is not abandoning the self
and bringing the energy back to self,
back to confidence, back to
'cause when you're in yourself, you're not needy
and when you heal the abandonment wound,
when you do the inner shadow work
and you start to feel worthy and you let go of shame,
that's normally around the identity.
Shame that we're not good enough,
shame that we're broken,
everything in your reality will change as a reflection.
And that's why also today is a, just so you guys know,
today is the last chance to join
the Magnetic Love Challenge,
which starts July 1st to July 21st,
we are gonna be going through 21 days
of becoming the most magnetic,
high vibrational versions of ourselves.
And what we're gonna be doing is letting go
of codependent patterns,
letting go and becoming more secure
in what is called our attachment style.
We're gonna be feeling worthy, whole and complete.
We're really letting go of the past stories we have about
love and intimacy and wiring in a new magnetic us
that is not needy, that is more in our frame
and that has magnetic energy that both
is magnetic towards what we want
and repels what we don't want.
And I'm bringing on amazing coaches
and dating experts to help with this.
But it's a 21 day live event.
What makes this different,
that this is accountability process.
It's a process you go through for 21 days.
And what happens is at the end of each day,
there's homework to do or something to do
to wire in this new you and to let go of the old you.
And over the 21 days, you will become a more magnetic you.
We are gonna be doing the calls,
the live calls are gonna be at 9:00 a.m.,
Pacific Standard Time, July 1st to July 21st.
If you can't make the lives, it's okay.
You will get the videos to watch that same day afterwards
so you can watch it on your own time.
You can always go back to it.
And meow is the best time to join.
It's the, now is the best time to join
because it starts at a couple of days.
So click the link below.
Join the Magnetic Love Challenge
if you haven't already.
We've got over 2000 people
that have joined and you'll also become a High Viber,
which means you'll have access to a soul family tribe
and you'll have an app for it.
It's really cool.
So anyways, I'm excited for this and we start soon.
So that's one of the first parts
is releasing co-dependent patterns,
releasing feeling needy and understanding
that when you let go of that attachment,
you become more magnetic.
Now the other aspect of this is one non neediness.
That's part of the magnetic formula.
Two is that of your authentic frame,
being in your authentic frame.
This means you being the ideal vibration of yourself.
And what this means for me is
I've said this story many times,
but I noticed that any time I would
I was working a nine to five job I hated,
the girlfriends I would attract in my life
were also working nine to five jobs they hated.
We were equal reflections to each other.
When I started doing what I love,
I then met people that were doing what they love
and that's who I would date.
And it's, it's just your vibration changes.
And that's where now I've attracted love
from somebody that does something very similar to what I do
in a way like, it's into the same type of things,
has a similar vibration and it doesn't have to be
something that does exactly what you do by the way,
not at all.
But the key to this is understanding
that when you are in your most authentic frame,
when you're being yourself,
that's when you're the most attractive.
And if you're being someone that's inauthentic,
if you're looking for validation,
if you're doing a job that you hate,
and you're just kind of like, you know, making ends meet,
then you're not being the true you.
So how can you be putting out a frequency?
Think of your frequency as kind of like a mating call.
Now, if you are putting out the frequency of,
I work a nine to five job that I hate, then guess what?
You're going to attract somebody else that's like,
I hate my nine to five job too, you know.
It's not the most authentic version of you
and also being in your own frame.
This is key because in your own frame means
you're leading in your life.
You're leading, you're able to be vulnerable,
you live by your own values.
So in my old neediness, co-dependent patterns,
I valued people's validation over just about everything.
Values are like clusters of beliefs, it's what,
it's the virtues we live by.
When you start to be in your authentic frame,
what becomes more important is authenticity.
It's vulnerability.
It's connecting and realizing
that you're already whole and complete.
And it's you doing what you love
because you feel empowered because you feel confident.
You live by a different value system
and basically in that 21 day Magnetic Love Challenge,
we're letting go of the old values and we're wiring in
a new philosophy, a new way of being.
Not doing, not thinking, a new way of being
to where we show up differently and will literally,
this will change every area of our life
because you'll find that
when you are being the most authentic version of you,
your business, your finance, your job,
everything just continues to go up because you are in more
alignment to your frame and you're also,
it's easier for you to set boundaries.
So this is all an energetic relationship-type dynamic.
The magnetic love formula is simply non neediness
plus you being in your authentic frame,
you being in it unapologetically,
and then you doing that and then wiring that in.
And for 21 days, we're gonna be wiring that in
and like I said, now is the last chance to join.
And we start July 1st, the 21st,
and you can go back and watch the videos
whenever you want afterwards.
So if you can't make them live, it's totally cool
and all you do is you click the link below
or you go to ErinDowdy.com/love, L-O-V-E.
You can join And I'm super excited for this.
So with that being said, I hope you guys enjoy
and as always peace, much love and namaste.