Dr Jordan Peterson. Social status and confidence. David Jaffee with BestStockStrategy.com in this
video we're going to discuss the best way to attract positive attention to
yourself and how it is actually extremely complicated because of the way
society portrays and judges people let's discuss boasting verse attention verse
humility if you are too quiet then you are ignored and if you're ignored
because you don't have people's attention then for all intents and
purposes you are irrelevant however if you are too boastful if you're too
arrogant then people will hate you or
specifically people from the same sex will hate you for example if you are a
guy and you dress in really nice clothes and you walk around and you flash your
money and you make it be known that you are worth twenty million dollars then
girls might like you and girls will be attracted to you because you are
financially independent you have high social status but men will become
jealous and historically speaking when men hate you and they're jealous of you
then there's a possibility that your personal safety will be called into
question because historically speaking if men are jealous or they don't like
you then they might actually kill you if you're a woman and you dress too sexy
then guys will be very attracted to you they will lavish you with attention but
at the same time women will look down upon you they will call you a slut they
will call you easy they will call you a whore and these are some of the things
that people have to navigate because on the one hand if you're a man you want to
attract a substantial amount of attention from females because the more
attention from females that you receive the more options to mate and the more
options that you have to pass on your genes if you're a female then for the
most part you want to do the same thing you want to capture the attention of the
opposite sex because you want to attract the most viable mate that is going to
provide you with security and the best odds of
you having a healthy and successful child the problem with this as I said
before is that if you are a man and you are too boastful too successful too
arrogant then you will attract other females but
men will try to hurt you if you are a female and you are too physically
attractive or too successful then you will attract the attention of men but
other females will get jealous and they will try to undermine and hurt you
you see jealousy is a very powerful emotion in our society and is one of the
deadly sins because people have died and people have killed others
because they are jealous of other people's success they figure that
because this person has it better than me then therefore they are a threat to
the way that I view myself so instead of trying to improve myself and build
positive habits then they will actually try to hurt and injure the person that
they are jealous of this happens less in modern times than it did in the past but
definitely in the past when we lived in more violent environments one of the
ways that people would try to rid themselves of people that they were
jealous of would be that they would simply kill them so what's the best way
of walking that thin line I do believe that attention is everything because if
you do not have people's attention then for all intents and purposes you are
irrelevant however some people do not seek other people's attention they are
incredibly introverted and they are completely okay with living in the
forest or living by themselves and keeping a very low profile however for
many public figures or for many people that are extremely ambitious then they
are walking a very thin line because on the one hand they want attention because
they want to be relevant but on the other hand if they act too arrogant or
if they flaunt their wealth or if they flaunt their success then it makes them
a target for others who want to hurt them and it is a thin line because if
you are too successful then you have to deal with jealousy and hatred if you are
successful enough then you straddle the line of being irrelevant and then no one
is going to pay any attention to you if you are a man and you boast and you're
too successful then you will attract women and attention but you will also
attract a lot of jealous men if you are a woman and you are too successful or
too attractive then you will attract the attention of a lot of men however you
will also attract the attention of a lot of jealous females so what's the
solution the solution is seeking high social status when you have high social
status and you have a brand then you do not have to work hard in order to
attract attention when you have high social status such as when you are a
professional athlete then you already have very high social status and you
have already been validated by society in that respect you no longer have to
put forth a lot of effort to attract other people's attention you don't have
to boast you don't have to show off your wealth in order to attract attention
because you have a brand you have high relative social status when compared
with other people and as a result I believe that that is the social currency
that is governing a lot of the behavior that we see in our society I'll tell you
a story of when I worked as a nightclub promoter I initially graduated from
Cornell University I then worked as a Wall Street investment banker
when I told women that I worked as an investment banker for some reason they
were not impressed however when I started working as a nightclub promoter
I could walk up to a hundred women and 70 of those women would give me their
email and phone number within 30 seconds of meeting them it didn't necessarily
matter what I was wearing it didn't matter if I was wearing any jewelry the
only thing that mattered was that I established my credibility I gave them
my business card and I told them that I thought that they were attractive
and I wanted to bring them out to my parties of these 70 girls there were
probably 10 or 15 of them that I was interested in and I would text these 10
or 15 girls to come out to my parties and also ask them if they were
interested in hanging out outside of the club of these 10 or 15 girls around five
of them would respond affirmatively that they were interested in hanging out so
remember if I approached a hundred women I would be interested in about 10 or 15
and of these 10 or 15 about 33% of them or 5 out of 15 of them would actually
show reciprocal interest in hanging out and getting to know me this is one of
the primary reasons why I believe that if you are feeling lonely if you are not
happy with your social life the best thing that you could possibly do is try
to establish higher social value and higher social status and feel completely
comfortable walking up and taking action to meet other people and it doesn't just
have to be with people from the opposite sex if you see successful people in the
gym or they are your neighbors just open up your mouth and start a conversation
with them it is highly likely that the conversation that you and that other
person have will be the highlight of that person's day because it's exciting
to meet new people so if you see someone who's walking their dog and you have an
interest in talking to them just walk up to them and start a conversation with
them you will discover that for many people this will be the highlight of
their day it will be exciting for them to speak with you because a lot of
people they live very monotonous and boring days today is going to be very
similar to tomorrow tomorrow is going to be very similar to the following day so
when you're able to break up the monotony and provide an exciting
experience to another person that is extremely memorable they will
were you and they will give you attention and they will respect you and
as a result your relative social status will elevate in their eyes and you will
build out your social circle remember access to people is one of the most
important things in our society if you have high social status then it will be
much easier for you to meet people and to accomplish your goals than someone
who has not been validated in our society this plays out all over in our
society whether it's having hundreds of thousands of followers on Instagram
whether it's having a verified profile on a social media network whether it's
having a blue checkmark in Twitter those types of clues provide social validation
and it becomes much easier for you to accomplish your goals because social
validation is a lubricant in our society that enables you to accomplish your
goals much easier so to summarize this video so it's very important that you
take into account how people of the same sex and opposite sex will treat your
behavior if you're a man then you want to attract the attention of females but
at the same time if you're too successful if you're too boastful then
you're going to draw a negative attention from other men if you're a
female and you're very attractive and very successful then you will attract
the attention of men but you will also attract jealousy from other females so
the best thing to do is to recognize that social validation social proof and
social status is incredibly important but one of the main ways that you can
hack this system is simply by out working other people and taking action
to initiate conversations both with people from the same sex and people of
the opposite sex there are a few good books about this but I think that a lot
of the information is outdated there are a lot of takeaways from this video but I
think the primary takeaway is that you should focus on
things that you control you should always take action if you see someone
that you want to speak to open up your mouth and initiate a conversation
because it is highly likely that the interaction that that person has with
you will be their most exciting interaction of the entire day the second
thing that I would highly recommend focusing on is building up in elevating
your social status because social status will be the social lubricant that will
make all of your interactions and the attainment of your goals that much
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