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you know having dealt with the death of
an immediate family member in my
adolescence there are times when i feel
so sage
so wise i could be stressed out right
now
but none of this matters
and then there are times
so it's been 14 years since i've
experienced death and i remember that
the first few years were just like so
full of pain and then after that there
was motivation and inspiration to live
my life for the both of us and then
after that there was excitement as i was
pursuing my dreams and making art and
then after that
mundane reality set in stress and
happiness pettiness obsession with the
material world and not feeling fulfilled
and ultimately i feel like we can't
really help this because humans adapt
and as much as we want to remember that
hey we're gonna die someday our brains
keep telling us maybe you'll be uploaded
into the cloud
anna is that you welcome my friend don't
cry for me though my mortal body
perished i am now one
with mac os
oh my god
you did it you cheated death
indeed i did
anna play brutal by olivia rodrigo hold
up i'm not your freaking blue i have
this really annoying habit whenever
anyone complains about like being old on
their birthday i always say happy
birthday no i feel so old 14
ages of privilege i don't know
not because i'm trying to be annoying
but mostly because i want to remember
that too you know not everybody gets to
grow older and though yes aging as a
woman in this country and industry is
its own hellscape in terms of being a
human being
getting older makes you
pretty lucky people used to die at 30.
now the top five regrets of the dying
was a blog post written in 2009 by brony
ware based on her experience giving
palliative care she eventually expanded
her post into a memoir in 2012 because
the blog went insanely viral worldwide
and personally i like to revisit the top
five regrets of the dying from time to
time as a reminder of how i should be
steering my life and where i'm
potentially going wrong so they are
regret number one i wish i'd had the
courage to live a life true to myself
not the life others expected of me
regret number two i wish i hadn't worked
so hard regret number three i wish i'd
had the courage to express my feelings
regret number four i wish i had stayed
in touch with my friends regret number
five i wish that i had let myself be
happier
and i've always found the wording of
regret number five to be so interesting
right i wish that i had let myself be
happier the dying really acknowledged
that happiness is a choice or a feeling
that we often don't allow ourselves and
why is it so hard to be happy why do we
resist it so much i know that for me i'm
like very worried that the moment i am
happy or grateful
like everything good will just go away
which doesn't make any sense at all but
alas humans are contradictions so which
regrets do you feel like would apply to
you today if you died i'm definitely
number two and number five and i'm gonna
be putting some awareness towards that
moving forward and if you're wondering
if this is still relevant given that the
blog post is over a decade old a 2018
study reached similar conclusions so
people were more likely to express ideal
related regrets such as failing to
follow their dreams and live up to their
full potential now i don't know you or
when you're going to die but you will
eventually maybe soon
so think on these five regrets and
how you can avoid them i'm anna archana
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