I think we have a little game ahead of us, huh?
I know.
Cheers.
Let's drink before we play.
[laughter]
We've given Noi and Steve the five-senses exercise
because although they have a good
sense of intimacy already, this game
will allow them to go deeper.
What do you think, do we shuffle it or we
just go straight from the top?
Let's just go straight from the top.
Ideally, it will force them to get out of their comfort zones
and practice communicating their needs,
wants, desires, and even fears.
Taste.
Take a body shot.
What is a body shot?
There's two ways you could do it.
One, right in the skin, or, two, if you
put a shot glass on someone's body and take it off of it.
There's two approaches.
OK.
[laughs]
This is not ideal.
[laughs] I don't know how to do this.
Just open wide.
[laughs]
I've never taken a body shot before, ever.
[laughs] You got it.
I mean, it's not my first body shot by any means,
and I'm sure it's not hers.
She might have just been, you know, acting
like that for her new husband.
Dance for your partner.
[laughs]
[laughter]
[inaudible]
[laughs]
You'll never guess what fruit it is.
Blackberry?
Blackberry.
Hm.
Tell your partner one intimate fantasy you have
or would like to try with them.
Why don't you go first?
[laughs]
I think we should try taking a shower
and washing each other with soap and water--
washing the other person.
OK.
[laughs] OK.
[laughs] I'm like, so you just want to take a shower
and get clean?
All right.
I think we should try to have sex in a semi-public place.
[laughter]
What do you mean, semi?
Outside of our home.
OK.
Sounds good to me.
I have a few ideas running in my head.
I'm actually shocked, because this is the first time I think
she's said the word sex in public,
and never mind to have sex in public.
I'm actually somebody who really enjoys helping somebody fulfill
their fantasies, so whether we're on a road trip
or just going for a walk in the woods.
But I have a few other ideas.
I just think I have to find something that is safe enough
to not get in trouble and that she'd
be comfortable enough with it.
Write down your fears, struggles, or worries
and watch it burn together.
As much as I love Steve and we have this,
like, intimate connection, I'm starting
to realize that I have to do things
that are uncomfortable for me.
Some of my fears is not surviving as a married couple.
It's so much work.
Just opening up and letting my husband see who I really am.
A few of my worries--
worrying if I am strong enough to be your better half, worried
about our future, worried that you
won't love everything about me.
You don't have to worry about that.
[laughter]
OK.
Just playing.
I fear that we can't grow and adjust in the ways
we need from each other.
As far as intimacy goes and sexual chemistry,
things are still really great for us,
and I feel really secure in what we have.
But my biggest concern at this point in this marriage
is the expectation that Noi has for me,
and that if it doesn't work out between us.