That's still stemming from
negative past experiences,
but either way,
he's not interested, he doesn't want it.
And that guy specifically is being clear
or he has said to you
I don't want a relationship.
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for women, all right.
We're going to be talking about
the three reasons why
he won't commit to a relationship.
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What do you think is the reason why
he won't commit to a relationship?
All right.
Now,
the unfortunate reality is that
there's a lot of women
who come across this situation
and it can become very frustrating,
it can become very discouraging,
and it can cause some of you to think that
men in general do not want commitment.
Let me make it clear
that's not true, all right.
The reality is that
tons of men are willing to commit to a woman.
They are looking for a relationship,
they desire it, they even want
marriage in their life.
Do not get blinded by the individuals
who don't want that
or who speak down
on commitments in relationships.
That does not represent the majority, all right.
I can tell you with confidence,
the majority of men
do want a relationship.
But they can meet a woman
and for various reasons
we're going to talk about,
they do not want to commit
to a relationship with her or with you.
And again, that's not something to
internalize and feel bad about
because we are not for everyone,
we are not everyone's cup of tea
everyone's not your cup of tea.
There's nothing wrong with that,
that's the way life works.
But I want you to understand
what's going on because
you may be caught up in confusion
and frustration because
you're dealing with a man
or have dealt with a man
or God forbid you are going to
end up dealing with a man
but we hope that doesn't happen,
who does not want to commit to a relationship.
So, reason number one
he does not want to commit to a relationship.
He was never really interested in one.
Now again, though I said to you yes,
I do believe a lot of men,
the majority of men want commitment,
want relationship.
There are men at the current moment
who have convinced themselves
or told themselves,
they don't want it,
they're not interested in it for various reasons,
it is not on their radar.
But not wanting a commitment,
does not mean not wanting
a woman in their life.
Not wanting a commitment does not mean
not wanting intimacy in their life.
So, these men will still
pursue women, pursue you,
even though they have no interest
in a relationship right now.
And I mean to the point where
the famous woman that they adore
could have walk through the door right now
and they would still say no,
I'm not committing to you,
I'm not interested,
because they're just not trying to go there.
Various reasons could be
he doesn't feel like he's where
he wants to be in life,
he may feel like I just got out of a bad one,
I'm not ready for another one.
He's worn down
by his previous relationships
and the damage that they have done to him.
It could be various things.
Or maybe he's got to a point where
he doesn't believe in monogamy.
And again, I would say in most cases,
that's still stemming from
negative past experiences,
but either way, he's not interested,
he doesn't want it.
And that guy specifically, is being clear
or he has said to you,
I don't want a relationship.
And you have to learn to not ignore
when a man says that.
When he says that, embrace it for what it is.
And don't convince yourself that
you can change his mind
or that he will decide
to want something different later on.
That you can somehow put it on him
or show him your greatness
and that will make him want a relationship, no.
He says he doesn't want one,
then you have to make a choice.
You're either going to deal with him
knowing that, that's the case,
you shouldn't but you're a grown adult
you make your own choices,
but again you shouldn't, okay.
Or you're just going to say, you know what,
this doesn't work for me,
I want a relationship
so we're going to go our separate ways,
which is the ideal route to take, all right.
So, he just was never interested in one.
The number two reason why
he won't commit to a relationship
is because he's not over his ex.
So, this...
I honestly believe
this is more common than people realize.
Now, when I say not over his ex,
ex does not always mean
the very last person he dated, all right.
Ex can mean two girlfriends ago,
three girlfriends ago,
hell, ex can mean a woman
that wasn't even his official girlfriend,
but a woman that he fell deeply in love with
or had deep feelings for
and the situation didn't work out
and he has not gotten over that.
He has not gotten to a place where
he's ready to let go of that completely.
And so, in the meantime,
he still desires female companionship.
And if you're noticing the pattern here,
no matter what many men are going through,
a lot of times they will still desire
female companionship.
I'm not saying that's healthy
or that's the way they should be doing things,
I'm simply explaining
that is what happens in a lot of situations.
And so despite him not being over his ex,
he wants someone there,
but he's not going to be willing to
commit to that woman.
Because in his mind either,
he already knows that you know what?
His heart is elsewhere
and he may still be holding on to
hope that some things can change
and one day they can get back
together, you know,
or he just hasn't gotten over
the pain from that situation.
One way or another,
he's not going to allow himself
to be fully valuable to you
and to fully embrace the idea of being with you
because someone else occupies his heart.
Now, this is a scenario where
you will always know it.
Because not every man is going to tell you
I haven't gotten over my ex.
Hell, I would argue most of them
aren't going to say that, most people
in general don't verbalize that.
You may catch on to it
depending on how he speaks
about his previous situations,
maybe because in some scenarios
he's still friends with the ex
and still has her around
in a capacity that seem very uncomfortable
for any new woman in his life.
These are the signs that can tell you.
But again, this is one
that you may not see.
So, you can't always wait
for the explanation
to validate letting a guy like this go.
If he's unwilling to commit to you
and commit to a relationship
and that's what you want,
then he needs to go regardless.
But I'm just explaining to you
one of the possible reasons why
he won't do it
despite being around you,
entertaining you,
showing you love in certain ways
or showing you interest
in certain ways.
He just hasn't gotten over his past lover
and there's nothing you can do about it,
you can't change it,
you've just got to let him go.
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But anyways, let's move on to number three.
He likes you
but he doesn't think you're the one.
So, this is an unfortunate scenario
but again, extremely, extremely common.
There are a lot of situations where
the man finds a woman
and he genuinely likes that woman.
He genuinely likes you, all right.
He does desire to have you
in his life, so to speak,
but he does not think you are the one.
He does not think you are the woman
he wants to spend his life with
and so, rather than tell you that out right
because he knows by saying it,
he would more than likely lose you,
he will drag you along, all right.
And he's not...
Some guys will take it to
boyfriend-girlfriend
official relationship commitment
knowing they'll never marry you.
Other guys won't even take it
to the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
They don't want to take it that far,
but they want to find other ways
to keep you in place,
to keep you there at his convenience.
Again, not saying this is okay,
not saying this is right or healthy,
but this is what happens.
And so, I'm mentioning it also because
many of you take the fact that he likes you
and shows you behavior
and he even says things
that expresses his like and desire for you
and you hold on to that
hoping that, that is your path
to getting the commitment from him.
That this means in time
he will come around.
But again, if he is unwilling
to commit to you now
and he's unwilling to even set a plan of
okay, it's one thing to say,
you know what,
I need a couple months.
So, I need to get something together,
give me till this month
and we'll make it happen.
Then I can understand you
wanting to try to work with him.
But again, even in trying
to work with him,
I would argue do not get
romantically involved with him.
You do not need to and should not
give a man the benefits of a relationship
who would not commit to you in a relationship.
If he cannot give you that
why are you giving
anything of yourself to him?
If he can't give you what you need,
why are you giving him what he wants?
This is how women
shoot themselves in the foot all the time
because you essentially have
already become a girlfriend
without him even giving you
that label and official title.
And some people might say, well,
titles don't matter, yes they do.
Because if I'm really that into you,
if I'm serious about you,
why would it be hard to give it to you?
Why would it be hard to say,
we are in official relationship
or you are my girlfriend?
How difficult is that
if I'm serious about us?
The reality is that
when people struggle to do that
is because they're not serious.
And again, he may like you,
he may really, really, like you
but he doesn't think you're the one
and for that reason he will not commit.
But again, don't get caught up in
thinking oh, he just has commitment fears
and commitment issues.
And I'm not saying that doesn't exist in this world.
What I am saying is in a lot of scenarios
it's just that he doesn't want to commit to you
and you will see that same man
get with another woman
months later engaged,
but claiming the whole time with you
that he didn't want marriage,
commitment, whatever.
Do not fall for that.
Even if he has legitimate
commitment fears and issues,
then he needs to work on that.
He needs to go to therapy
he needs to conquer that issue
so that you guys can have
a healthy relationship.
But do not give yourself to that man
in the meantime.
The most you can do is be
an encouraging supporting friend
if you can handle it,
that's always the key.
Don't fool yourself
many of you say,
oh, we're just going to be friends
and next thing you know, you're in his bed, all right.
Next you know
you're doing girlfriend things with him
next you know you're giving him money,
all kinds of stuff.
Please, please take a step back
and until he can give you full commitment,
you do not need to give him full benefits,
hell, you don't even need to be giving him
any benefits
other than what a platonic friend
would receive, plain and simple.
So, anyways those are
the three reasons why
he will not commit to a relationship.
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