Hey guys.
Now, this might surprise you
but studies continue to show
that while a man's first impression
conscious or unconscious of a woman
almost always starts with a question
would I or wouldn't I have *** with her?
A woman's first impression of a man
almost always conscious
or subconscious asks this question.
Would I or wouldn't I
live happily ever after with him?
The reality is men and women
are different in some ways.
There is a reason women buy
romance novels
and men buy playboy.
This is actually good news for you
because that means
it's less about what God gave you
and more about who you are
as a person and as a man.
The fact is women instantly
notice all the tiny details
and make an unconscious assessment
of what you might be like as a man,
a lover, a boyfriend, future husband,
potential future father
of her potential future children.
What she first notices
about you after seeing you
either peaks her curiosity and desire
or instantly turns her off.
In this video, you'll learn
the five things women instantly notice
after she first sees you.
Two, why it matters
and three, how you can elevate these traits
to leave the best first impression.
If you're new to my channel,
I help men decode women
so you can find, attract and keep your keeper
without compromising yourself.
Welcome to just the tip.
The biggest reason men and women
don't understand each other
is not your fault.
The fact is modern culture
has tried to tell you and sell you
that men and women are the same
and the fact is we're just
not the same in every way.
Even if she's only after short-term fun
she can't help but automatically assess
what you might be like
as a long-term partner.
And everything she sees
instantly passes through her filter of
will he make me feel safe?
So, let's look at
what she first notices after seeing you
and how it passes through
her safety filter system.
One, your energy and vibe.
A woman instantly picks up
on your energy and general vibe,
which can include one,
your level of positivity,
passion, and enthusiasm.
Two, how you engage
with the world around you.
Three, your body language.
Four, your level of confidence and ease
and five, your interactions with other people.
And while you should have standards
for her personality
not just her physical attractiveness
you want to be able to spend time with her
when you're not having ***
Well, she automatically
evaluates you in that way.
What your energy and vibe tell her
safety filter system
is whether or not you can handle
the challenges life throws at you
or if you're going to crumble into weakness
and dependency.
You and I both know
life can be challenging.
There are some wins like a video game
but then there's some obstacles
and starting over.
How to elevate your vibe.
Start with developing
an attitude of gratitude.
Your mindset,
I act as if I chose it, whatever it is.
Example one,
look for solutions and silver linings
when things go awry for example
you lost your job, great.
Take your knowledge and experience
to a competitor for a pay raise.
Two, see obstacles
as opportunities to learn and improve.
No competitors are hiring, great.
Maybe it's time for you to go back to school
for a total career change
or start developing a career out of a hobby
you're really passionate about.
Now, the next thing
that women notice
instantly after seeing you is something
that won't surprise you
but most men misinterpret it.
And that's number two,
your physical appearance.
Yes, a woman will notice your height,
build, facial features
and overall physical appearance,
but more important to a woman.
Your physical appearance includes
one, how healthy you look.
Two, what you're wearing and how it fits.
Three, if you're well groomed and clean.
Four, if you don't care at all
or if you care too much.
And five, if you're taller than her
especially in her highest heels
she likes to wear.
Key point, cause I get this comment a lot.
Women say they want a man
who's six feet tall
because almost all men
on dating sites
who are under six feet tall
lie about their height
by three to four inches.
In fact even in real life
men fib about their height
by an inch or two.
Women have no idea what six feet tall is
but women do evaluate
what your appearance,
general appearance
means about your personality,
what your appearance instantly
tells her safety filter system.
If you'll live long enough to be a good dad
to her future potential children,
what your personality might be like
and the current state of your mental health.
How to elevate your physical appearance?
This one's really simple
just put in a little effort.
You simply have to care,
your mindset.
My physical appearance
sends an impactful message to the world.
Examples one, groom thy self
hairstyle, facial hair,
overall cleanliness.
Two, dress thy self.
Develop your own style
through the clothes you wear,
maybe accessories or if
you don't wear accessories at all.
And if your entire wardrobe is over 10 years old
it might be time to update a few items
but very important
don't throw away your loafers
for Daytons or cowboy boots
if that's not who you really are
and don't wear suits if you're Mr. Casual.
That's just false and misleading advertising.
Okay, so what else do women
first notice after seeing you?
Number three, no surprise,
confidence and your general demeanor.
Women instantly pick up
on your level of confidence
in your body language,
tone of voice and overall attitude.
Confidence and demeanor include
one, how engaged you are with others.
Two, if you're respectful or rude.
Three, if you're shy or confident
and four, if you're an introvert or an extrovert.
Social skills in general
provide proof of you being able to navigate
the social world in real life.
What confidence tells her
safety filter system is you're proactive.
A man who's proactive
and takes the initiative
to tackle life head on
is the last likely to allow his family
to end up living under a bridge.
How to elevate your confidence,
get out of your comfort zone.
Ooh, I know
your mindset.
I choose to do hard things.
When you choose to exit your comfort zone
to do difficult things
then you prepare your nervous system
to handle life's unexpected
and unpleasant surprises that come at you.
You'll not only build respect from others,
but more importantly
you'll build respect and trust in yourself.
Example one,
treat servers with the same respect
you would your boss,
say your please and thank you's.
Two, initiate conversations with strangers.
Grocery store,
pharmacy, in line, waiting for your coffee.
Three, start that hobby
you've always wanted to but we're afraid to try.
Maybe it's rock climbing,
maybe it's dancing,
tango dancing
or hip hop if that's what you want to do
or maybe it's martial arts.
Four, this is subtle but it matters.
Move with intention and purpose.
Take long purposeful strides.
Now, along the same lines as confidence.
What a woman first notices after seeing you
is the way you see her.
Number four is eye contact.
A woman notices
if you make eye contact with her
and how it makes her feel
with women it's all about emotions, remember.
You want to make her feel
like getting to know you better.
Studies show that making prolonged eye contact
with a woman and actually showing interest in her
actually makes you more appealing to her.
And not only that
but the longer you engage in
mutual eye contact
the more likely she is to develop
amorous feelings toward you
as long as you're not a creepy guy.
So, eye contact includes
not breaking eye contact
when you first lock eyes,
smiling with your eyes,
and three, never looking at her T and A zones,
inappropriate creepy guy alert.
While sexual tension is
absolutely necessary
to avoid the friend zone,
you don't want to show interest in a way
that makes her feel like you're creepy.
Because even if you're not looking
for something long-term right now
you'll get better quality
women by being respectful.
What eye contact tells her
safety filter system
you have nothing to hide.
If you can maintain eye contact
her biology automatically assumes
you're not trying to hide something.
You don't have low value
and you're not some shreddies killer
as much as that might seem counter-intuitive.
How to elevate your eye contact?
Well, you're going to have to accept
that you're going to feel
uncomfortable at first
and you're going to make other people
feel a little bit uncomfortable.
Your mindset,
bold eye contact is proof of my confidence
and creates a *** tension.
Okay, creepy coach.
Moving on.
Okay, but now that you've created
a bit of sexual tension
you'll want to temper it with the next thing
that women first notice after seeing you
and that is your smile.
Again, women notice if you smile at them
and how your smile makes her feel.
Smiling includes
moving your mouth into a crescent shape
when you see her.
I know its sounds crazy, doesn't it?
And it's definitely going to take some work.
Two, allowing your eyes
to smile along with your mouth
that's sincerity
and three, little later maybe
laughing naturally and easily
without being self-conscious.
Key point,
a man with an easy smile
and unreserved laugh
isn't overly concerned
with what other people think of him
because he knows
his own worth as a man.
What smiling tells her safety filter system
you're not threatening
and I know what some of you're thinking
and have probably already
written in the comments.
Why do women keep going for bad boys and jerks?
They have these qualities.
Well, that's exactly why
they have these qualities
but only an emotionally damaged woman
actually stays with a bad boy
who treats her poorly.
Is that the kind of woman you want?
Probably not.
How to elevate your smile
practice with intention
on anybody and everybody.
You want to just get those
facial muscles exercise
so they don't seize up on you
when it really matters.
Your mindset,
smiling shows confidence
and approachability
while also putting people at ease.
Example, for both eye contact and smiling.
You want to practice making eye contact
and smiling at and even laughing with
people that are not intimidating to you.
It is amazing how much a first impression
tells a woman about your personality
even if it's not accurate.
Key point, although
she absolutely will make
some inaccurate assumptions about you
it's the only thing her instincts
have to go on.
So, make sure to pay attention
to the things that women
first notice after seeing you
so you can actually control
more of what you want her
to assume about you.
This actually benefits you
in all areas of your life
and to amplify her attraction to you,
you'll want to pay attention
to the body language tips
in my body language video
and what women love men to wear in that video.
And if you're shy or feel overwhelmed
or don't know where to start
then you might want to start with
my WakeUP2LUV program.
It provides a step-by-step
actionable homework for wherever you are now
because you deserve
to find, attract and keep
a woman who not only longs for you
but also laughs with you.
You got this.
Thanks for being here, God bless.