- Heya player,
have you ever been in a situation
where you were briefly talking to your crush and
you didn't really know how to end that conversation?
Or even worse, how to start a
new conversation with them later?
In this video I'm gonna explain
exactly how to end your conversations with your
crush to make sure there's gonna be a follow-up.
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Now when it comes to starting a conversation
with your crush, that's a whole different ball game
but lets say you find yourself in a situation where
you're briefly talking to them.
Maybe it's in class or in the hallway or you're in
a group of people, you made a joke and she laughed.
In those situations, what do you do, how do you
walk away from talking to them in a way that
doesn't come off looking awkward?
Well, normally you'd probably think just saying,
"alright, Ill see you later, bye" is the best
thing to do, but in reality it's not.
Instead what you really want to focus on is
preparing for the next time you're gonna talk to them
and the best way go about doing that is to create
a scenario where it can happen again.
Now this is something I would recommend doing
throughout the conversation.
As your crush opens up more to you and shares
things with you or just even responds to the things
you're talking about, you might want to say stuff
like, "wow you're a lot of fun to talk to, I didn't
"know that about you", or "hey, you're really easy to
talk to, I really like this."
Letting them know that there is an ease and connection
developing between the two of you is gonna help
them start to feel that as well.
Rather then them just feeling like they're just
casually talking to you, they're gonna feel like
there's actually something deeper there
and they're gonna start to kind of open up
even more because you've acknowledged it.
Then, as you're wrapping up the conversation
you definitely want to close with something like,
"Wow, you're so much fun to talk to we really
"gotta do this again. I definitely want to learn
"more about you."
Saying that without the pre-built context might
sound kind of weird, but if throughout the
conversation you're showing them that you're
actually interested in them as a person, then
they're not gonna see it as weird at all.
They're gonna feel the same way that you do
that you're an interesting person as well.
And you're someone that they definitely want to
connect with even more.
Now you might be thinking, "oh yeah Josh, in an ideal
"situation me and my crush are open and we're
"talking, or flirting and everything is good but
"in reality I only share a few words with them or
"barely any words at all. How could I just launch into
"saying that when I don't really even talk to them
"when I see them?"
If you're in that type of situation where the communication
with you and your crush barely exists, then
that's gonna be where you want to focus your
time and energy.
You really want to get them to open up more to you
so you want to start directly talking to them,
not indirectly talking to them, which may be how
you've gone about it before.
It feels so good when your crush finally
acknowledges you when they laugh at your jokes
and they respond to something that you say but
I think instead of taking that passive approach and
hoping that they're gonna be the ones that interact
with you, you need to actively go talk to them.
And while starting a conversation with your crush
can be its own difficult task.
One which I'll link up a video over here,
which I talk about how to actually do that.
Ending the conversation is what you want to
focus on right now.
Ending the conversation on a high note
not on a low note, not on an awkward
you just casually walk away or you forget they are there
and you just kind of pay attention to other things.
Doing that, it's not gonna help build a deeper relationship
with your crush and if that's your focus
you need to actively be present with them.
Trust me, I've been in that situation before
you run out of things to say with your crush so
you kind of just awkwardly look at the floor or
look at other people or just do whatever you can
to not make eye contact with them or
acknowledge them in any way possible, but
I think that is a bad strategy.
I know it's a strategy built out of nervousness but
its a strategy you want to start to kind of let go of
and start to replace with actually acknowledging your
crush and saying something that's gonna end the
actual thread with them.
Remember, you're focus here is to build with
your crush not break it down.
So, one little trick that I've used in the past
that you can use to hook another conversation
with your crush, is what I call the glass slipper trick.
The same way that Cinderella left her glass slipper and
that led the Prince to go on and find her to
return it, you want to do the same kind of thing
when it comes to conversation with your crush.
No, I don't mean leave behind your Nintendo Switch
or drop off a pencil case or something like that.
As you're talking to them, you might want to say,
"Oh man, I have the funniest story I want to share
"with you, something that happened to me and my
"friends, but I'll tell you next time we get
"together and talk."
Saying something like that builds mystery and intrigue,
and curiosity and that's the exact place that
you want your crush to be in .
But, if you're still at the beginning stages and
you're trying to figure out how to start the conversation.
Check out the video over here where I break down
on how to do that. I think that video is gonna help
give you the beginning piece to the end piece
that I'm sharing here.
On that note guys, I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.