Hey guys!
I’m Aileen and today I’m going to talk about how to stop caring
about what others think of you.
This is an issue that holds a lot of us back.
It’s only natural as human beings that we care about what other people think about us
because we’re worried about whether people will judge us, whether people will like us
or not,
we seek approval from others and we like to please people.
In general, we don’t want to be the weird one out.
We kind of want to fit in
and be cool or be normal.
But the reality is: when you let that anxiety and that worrying
about what other people think of you, when you let that affect you
then it really holds you back from being yourself and doing what you want to do.
So how do you stop thinking about what other people think of you?
Number one: Learn not to take anything personally.
I learned this from the book
“The Four Agreements”.
The point is that if you don’t take anything personally,
then you are immune and nothing and nobody can hurt you.
The reasoning behind that is the idea that people are mirrors.
Everything that people say or do
are a reflection of themselves and it really has nothing to do with you.
Basically you are just a canvas for people to project their beliefs, their perspectives,
and their thoughts on, and whether you internalize that or not,
it really doesn’t matter to those people.
It’s just what people do.
The awesome thing is that you have the power to choose
whether you want to accept that projection or not.
You have to realize
that you are in control of your own opinions, beliefs, and perspectives
and you don’t have to let other people affect you in that way.
If you love yourself and you’re confident enough, eventually you will learn
to become more immune to what other people say or think about you
because in the end it really doesn’t matter.
All that matters is what you think of yourself
which brings me to number two: Love yourself.
You have to first and foremost love and embrace who you are and be super confident in that
because you don’t need other people tell you what you’re worth.
You should already know how wonderful and awesome you are.
It should come from within and that inner confidence is what shines
and it’s what makes a statement.
Once you get that confidence, then whatever people say,
it doesn’t really matter because you love yourself enough
to not let yourself be hurt or affected by what other people say.
Number three is to stop being paranoid.
Stop being paranoid!
We think we’re so important that other people are always thinking about us
and talking about us when in reality, most of the time other people are too busy
worrying about themselves and their own lives to even let you cross their mind
and sometimes even they’re worried about what you’re thinking about them.
You’re worried about what they’re thinking about you,
and there’s this whole unnecessary anxiety and worrying that just is dumb.
So stop being paranoid.
Number four: Don’t waste your time and energy trying to explain yourself to others.
People already have an idea of what they want to believe and so they only hear
what they want to hear, and everything else is subconsciously filtered out.
So it’s a waste of time and energy to try to convert one person, one person’s thought
about you,
when you already have a set of people who love and accept you for who you are.
Just be yourself, have confidence, and you’ll realized that the people who care about you,
they don’t need an explanation.
It’s like that quote: “Be who you are and say what you feel
because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
So just do you, be confident, stop caring about what other people think,
or just try to care less, and go on with your day.
Be yourself, and fly.