Heya playa, let's say you were texting your crush, things were going well but then suddenly
the conversation started to die down. They stopped responding and you didn't know how to
revive it. Don't worry, in this video, I'm going to explain exactly what you need to do to get that
conversation to come back to life so that you can talk to your crush and eventually ask them out.
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My name is Josh and every single week I make videos sharing tips, ideas, and stories teaching
you how to be your best self and one of the most common things that tend to happen when your crush
stops responding is you start to overthink. What if they're not responding because they don't like
me? What if they think the conversation's boring and they think I'm boring? What if they're texting
someone else that they like even more than me right now? You might even find yourself in a place
where you want to message them and ask them "Hey why aren't you responding? What's going on?" but
I think that's the wrong approach to take. Instead what I want you to actually focus on here are two
key pieces. One of them is going to be referencing something that you've talked about in the past
and the other one's going to be starting a new more interesting conversation. When I talk about
referencing there's a few different directions you can go. The more obvious one is to look back
at your previous conversations with your crush and to see if there was anything the two of you
talked about that stood out. Something that caught their eye, something that they were interested in
discussing with you. Maybe you guys are talking about a movie that you recently watched or
the last time you played Among Us. You might want to say something like "Hey I haven't really seen
a good movie on Netflix since ____. What's another good movie I should check out?" or
if you guys were playing video games together say "Man, I can't wait to jump back into Among
Us. You in?". This callback to the thing that the two of you shared together is hopefully gonna get
them re-engaged. They're gonna see that message, think about the good time they shared with you,
and then actually respond. But if that doesn't work, you might have to take it in a different
direction and that is starting a new conversation. If you're starting a new conversation,
try to follow a lot of the rules that I mentioned in previous videos. In fact, I'm going to list a
few of them off for you right now. Don't start the conversation off with something boring like "Hey",
"Hi", "How you doing?". Basically, all you're doing is putting the ball in their court to
come up with something fun and interesting to talk about which is a lot of pressure.
Don't message them repeatedly thinking that's going to get their attention.
Saying "Hey" 15 times in a row is not going to get them to respond to the 16th one. And
don't get upset with them if they don't respond in a timely fashion. Look sometimes people are
busy and they have things going on so they may not be super responsive to your text messages.
Be okay with that. In my opinion, a good healthy conversation should always start on the basis of
a question. Whether it's you asking a question or you setting it up so they can ask you a question.
It looks something like this. "Hey, I'm trying to think of a new fun hobby that I can try out
because I have a little bit more free time on the weekends. What about you, what's your favorite
hobby? What do you love to do?". Or you can try framing it where they ask you a question like this
"Oh my god, you will not believe what happened to me this weekend. I can't believe I survived that!"
to which they may respond with curiosity and say something like this. Now those are just two
random examples. I've actually put together 20 Ice Breaker Conversation Starters in a free guide that
I want you to download. I'm going to link it up at the end of this video but I know there's another
challenge that you may be running into here and that is your crush just not responding on the
platform that you're messaging them on, so what do you do? You're gonna need to change it up. If
you're sending them snaps and getting no response, try DMing them on Instagram. If that's not working
out, try sending them a text message. Either way, change up the platform that you're trying to
communicate with them on because they may not be checking that platform that often or your message
might be buried under other people's conversations so changing up the platform actually increases the
chances of them noticing you. Your conversation with your crush doesn't have to end like this.
You don't have to end up ghosted, at the bottom of their inbox, forever forgotten. Instead what's
going to have to change here if you want to have a more successful conversation with your crush
is how you communicate with them and what you communicate with them about. Now what I want you
to do is check out the resources over there on the side. I've linked up a video talking more about
having good conversations with your crush and my free 20 Ice Breaker Conversation Starters guide.
Both of those resources are going to be super helpful. I also want to give a quick shout out
to my patrons and YouTube channel members. These are the people that help the channel grow so if
you want to learn how you could talk to me one on one every single month, check out the link
to Patreon down below. On that note, I'll catch you guys next time. As always, love and peace.