Matt: In the first seven seconds of meeting you a woman will decide what kind of guy you are
and even put you in the potential lover category or not but this won't be your typical cookie
cutter first impression advice video about having good posture good eye contact looking cool that
all the wannabe dating coaches out there are spewing because if you really want to make an
attractive first impression those aren't the most important things to get right
to stand out you need three unconventional things and if you start incorporating these
into the first few minutes you meet a woman whether that's a date at a party or at a
coffee shop your first impression will be 10 times more attractive
hey man do you ever struggle knowing what to say or what to do when you see a beautiful woman well
make sure to watch into the very end of this video because i'm going to give you a
free copy of my conversation cheat sheet so you always know what to do and what to say
when you see a beautiful woman even what to do on dates to escalate the interaction to the next
level so again make sure to watch until the end so you can get the link to download the cheat sheet
the first way to make a great first impression is to know that it's okay to rock the boat now you
might think like most people that the best first impression that you can have is to be likable or
agreeable but in reality being seen as slightly unlikable is actually a lot more powerful let me
explain i remember one time i was at a party where this cute girl was holding court talking about
different social issues to a bunch of guys she was super intelligent and clearly knew her stuff
but as i walked over and joined the conversation she said something about throughout history men
have always held all the power over women i didn't totally agree with her so i said something like
i don't know i think throughout history men and women were pretty much in the same boat
they pretty much had no power at all and were just trying to survive power was basically held by a
few dudes wearing crowns and then she said so you agree that men had all the power i told her that
just because all alaskans are americans it doesn't mean all americans are alaskans i told her all men
didn't hold power only a very small group of them did and they screwed over everyone else
what happened was all the guys around her started arguing with me trying to shut me down i even got
called a sexist by one now despite the fact that she herself was a feminist she was interested in
my perspective and respected me for speaking my mind and so we ended up hanging out for a while
and talked about a bunch of different topics and at the end of the night when i was about to leave
she stopped me and gave me her number point wasn't whether i was right or wrong
it was the fact that i had an opinion and i wasn't just changing that to agree with her just because
she was attractive she saw that i wasn't like all the other guys who were just agreeing with her to
try to be more likeable in hopes that she'll sleep with them and this brings me to the second piece
of unconventional advice awkwardness isn't your enemy see a lot of guys are terrified of making an
awkward first impression but the reality is that awkwardness happens sometimes you're just gonna be
awkward maybe your mood is off or you're just feeling a little shy or a little nervous or
you just feel like a bit of a dork that day so you might stumble your words or blush or
speak in a quiet voice but here's the thing it's actually okay to be awkward and embracing it is
actually a huge sign of confidence sometimes i have an awkward first impression and i screw
up the approach but you know what i do i just embrace it and jokingly say something like wow i
totally forgot what i was gonna say or damn that was totally awkward well i think i'm gonna walk
away and come over again which almost always gets a laugh and from there i just carry on as normal
or i'll just role play with her that we're meeting all over again for the first time
okay let's start over we're meeting again for the first time it's love at first sight and action
yeah sure it's flirty but that's not the reason it works it works because it immediately shows her
three things i'm comfortable making a mistake and owning it i'm comfortable making fun of
myself and i can handle awkward situations all of this shows her that i'm not hugely self-absorbed
or hung up on the fact that i need to make a perfect first impression it shows her that i'm
just normal i really want to emphasize how important this is because it's 100 going to
happen so you might as well embrace it i remember back in the day when i had a normal office job
i was sitting across from the office cutie and a new guy had just joined the company and he was
clearly feeling awkward or maybe intimidated by her so instead of just like owning it embracing
it or whatever he decided to overcompensate for it and he decided to act as if he had known her
for years and when he introduced himself to her he said hey buddy and he started like awkwardly
massaging her shoulders the girl immediately like jolted and said please don't touch me
super loud and the guy was like shocked and at that moment he knew he effed up in fact i'm pretty
sure i saw his soul leave his body to this day it was one of the most awkward things i've ever seen
this just goes to show you that sometimes trying to avoid awkwardness actually makes it 10 times
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i would love to chat with you alright let's get back to the video and finally number three
you aren't there to be friends so don't act like it you see most first impression advice out there
tends to get really hung up on the details stand with a straight back and good posture maintain
good eye contact and for the love of god wear some good fitted clothes or better yet a tailored suit
now studies have shown that doing those things does help you make a good first impression so
definitely do those things but guess what they help and they might even help you land a job
but you're here to land a beautiful woman probably either one that you're on a date with or one that
you're about to approach so here's the main area that guys go wrong they hide the fact that they're
attracted to her which i'm pretty sure isn't your intent now there's a couple reasons this sucks
first it's unauthentic not only does this make you seem weak that you're scared to show your interest
in her but it also comes off as unauthentic and fundamentally unattractive and it might even creep
her out because let's face it there's that woman's intuition and she can tell what you're thinking
and feeling deep down especially towards her so she has an idea that you're interested in her but
that you're too afraid to let that be known second is it's super weird to be hanging out as friends
and then all of a sudden make a move on her and go for a kiss that's probably gonna freak her out let
her know that you're into her so that she can feel anticipation and excitement for what might happen
later third it's just dumb if you're already on a date with her then presumably you want to
hook up with her at some point sure you might not want to come off as like an eager douchebag you
might actually want a girlfriend but guess what man that future love of your life is gonna want
to feel sexy and desired by you pretending to be friends isn't going to achieve that women want to
be wanted especially by the guy that they're into or a guy that they're on a date with so playfully
in a flirting way let her know that you're into her and by letting her know that you like her from
the get-go you also achieve something called transparency by letting her know that you're
attracted to her and that you're going to flirt with her and possibly maybe even kiss her later
you essentially warn her what your intentions are this means if she's not into you or she just wants
to be friends she's probably going to let you know now that might sound bad but it's actually really
good for two reasons she won't get a big shock when all of a sudden this friendly guy tries to
make out with her and you won't be wasting your time hoping that she likes you when she doesn't
and also transparency is honest and confident it essentially says here i am i like you take it or
leave it sometimes they won't and that's okay but sometimes they will and you'll be all the better
for it now to wrap it up there's one single piece of connective tissue that runs through every piece
of first impression advice that i've given you today they all require you to be vulnerable an
attractive first impression is all about accepting that you're not perfect and that she might not
agree with you that you don't have to come off as flawless and that you're okay exposing yourself
to rejection because she just might not be into you all of this requires being vulnerable but
in return you'll be a shitload more confident more attractive and make a much better first impression
and if you want to know what to say to make a great first impression then make sure to download
my free conversation cheat sheet there'll be a link in just a second to the right of the screen
download it man it's absolutely free and make sure to follow me on instagram send me a dm i would
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and leave me a comment down below i would love to know a what you thought about this video and do
you have any other techniques tips or tricks that have helped you made a great first impression in
the past or things that have totally made you bomb your first impression i would love to know about
them my name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man and i'll see you in the next video down below.