This video, I'm going to share with you three ways of dealing with narcissists or sociopaths
without giving them your power.
Welcome back to another video.
My name is Aaron and I help people expand their consciousness.
Now on this video, I'm going to be sharing with you the three ways you can deal with
narcissist or sociopath's so that you don't give away your power and understanding the
best way to move about this process.
Now, if you're somebody that knows somebody, that is what is called a narcissist or a sociopath,
first off, understand what really makes it easier is understanding that it's a belief
they have about who they are that perpetuates that behavior, that way of being.
So knowing that doesn't make it necessarily right, but it does make it easier to understand
that when people are that way, there's a certain way they're wired.
It's almost like, then you can understand them a little bit more, at least.
Now, for those of you that don't know, I had an abusive ex step mom and my life between
the ages of seven to 15 years old and uh, she's definitely someone that falls into the
categories of narcissists and sociopaths.
There were many different situations where my brother and I, um, I get punished for things
that we didn't do.
You know, we weren't allowed to watch TV.
We weren't allowed to have friends, a way to earn, go into school activities.
Majority of the time if we wanted to go to band camp or something like that, that was
actually required by school, we'd get that taken away if we got into trouble because
there came a point to where nothing else could be taken away.
Um, a lot of times we were locked outside and made to do yard work for maybe like eight
to 12 hours a day while she'd be at work.
My dad was a firefighter, so he was gone 24 hours a day back, 24 hours a day and he kinda
let her just like run the show.
And, um, if, you know, besides being nacho was also physically abusive and um, it was
almost like as well we would, we would have to admit to doing things we didn't do.
And there was a lot of manipulation there and a lot of tearing down a lot of, um, you
know, making us feel like we weren't worthy and uh, or good enough.
And even after my dad divorced her when I was 15 years old, I still felt that unworthiness
and it took me years to really unravel that and understand that and understand actually
that was a huge gift for me because that pressure led to my spiritual awakening dealing with,
uh, dealing with someone like that.
However, uh, there's a couple of things that I learned while working with her and you know,
it got to a point to where I had to learn how, you know, if I wanted to go to, let's
say, a band camp competition, what I would have to do is I would have to pretend like
I didn't really want to go in order for me to be out with, to actually go.
Because if she knew at all that I wanted to go, she would then tell me, Oh, you didn't
do something right.
So if I would have to pretend like I didn't want to go so that I could actually then,
uh, go and if she found out I did want to, what she would do is she would say, um, Oh,
you didn't do this correctly and you don't, you don't get to go.
But if I was like, you know, I really don't want to go to that band tournament, but I
guess I, I guess, uh, you know, maybe there's a way I can get out of it.
She's like, no, you're going like, that's something you're going to.
So it was a very interesting thing because I had to kind of learn how to work through
that just to be able to go to school.
You know, my brother and I also weren't given food.
We were given a TV dinner at night and a bowl of cereal in the morning.
So we were like 120 I was 110 120 pounds as like a sophomore in high school.
Because of that.
And then when my dad divorced, when I was 15, all of a sudden my brother and I, we were
able to start, uh, you know, gaining weight again.
A lot of times we'd have to break into one side of the house just to get a little bit
more food so that we were able to eat because of the house we lived in, had like a separate
section where my brother and I work, which is like an UN remodeled side of the house
and it would be like blocked off.
So my brother and I would find ways sometimes of sneaking in so you'd like, you know, get
some food and stuff like that.
So the reason I share all that is just so you know, I dealt with this from experience
so I understand it, but there was also a uh, interesting thing that happened yesterday
and I'll kind of, I'll kind of share with you a little bit about the context of what
this is.
And this has to do with understanding, not taking these things personal, not taking it
personal and thinking that it actually has to influence you and be something that is
a part of you because it happened.
So I'm here at this date with destiny event, with my buddy Victor Odo, and it's with Tony
Robins.
It's six day event.
And in it, there's a lot of, uh, you know, it's long days, like 16 hours long a day or
14, 15 hours along, uh, you know, like nine in the morning to like, you know, what at
night sometimes.
And uh, the first day that we were there was yesterday and when we were there, um, you
know, it's very transformational.
Tony does a lot of, you know, interactions and interventions with people.
And then there's sometimes we do these things called exercises where we will share certain
things with people.
So one of them was like sharing our, uh, our dream of what we want to create, like the
next, you know, six months, a year, whatever, and then also sharing the reason we haven't
done it yet.
The reason it hasn't happened yet.
And then what the key is for us to make that happen.
So we had to write this down and then we had to share it in a group of two or three.
So what happened was, is at first I was dealing with this one guy who was really cool and
him and I were going back and forth and, uh, sharing each other's like challenges, why
we were there, what we wanted to get out of it, and what was holding us back from a treatment,
our true dreams.
And then what happened is like after the second, you know, it was a couple of segments we'd
go away to share.
And then one of the last segments, what happened is, since it was just two of us, they wanted
us to be with three people.
So one of the, one of the course helpers or someone came by is like, Hey, you need three
people.
Okay.
So he grabbed someone else and put his, put someone else in our group.
And it was this, uh, it was this woman.
And, um, it was interesting because right when that happened, I, um, you, I, I started
to feel, I dunno, I felt a little bit more heaviness and uh, then we're in this group
and when we were sharing it all of a sudden was, um, it was a very different energy in
a way.
And uh, and she kind of brought a very different energy to the, to the group.
You know, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with her, but what happened was, is
it kind of took me by storm.
I really, really didn't know how to respond to this.
So I was kind of sharing about how, you know, I'm getting into doing like live events and
stuff like that, you know, and how, um, if I'd been kind of in a way procrastinate and
haven't got to it as quickly as I wanted to and I was talking about how I just need to
stop telling myself a story that like I have to wait another couple months or till I'm
going traveling.
And I know that once I start doing live events, which is something I'm for sure going to be
doing the next couple months.
However, um, you know, I thought I'd be doing it a year ago because, uh, because I don't
know, it's just my blueprint in my mind that way.
And I've been kind of judging myself, beat myself up because I've been so busy with personal
life stuff that I haven't actually got to it.
So I'm sharing with them too about my dreams and about like, this is what I'm going to
do in the next like six to eight months.
And the reason I haven't done it yet is because I told myself the story, blah, blah, blah.
And then her response just really threw me, like threw me and maybe surprise.
It's very bizarre.
She was like, she's like, wait, so you're going to be like speaking in front of people.
And I was like, yeah, you know, I kind of already do that for a living, you know, online,
but I'm going to be moving into like, you know, real live events.
And she, she goes, I could never see you doing that.
She's like, yeah, you know, you, I couldn't even see that.
Yeah.
Uh, you, you had this like, and then she, she like looks, she looks at me and she goes,
she looks at me like this and she goes, you have the sadness in your eyes and I couldn't
ever see you doing like this right here.
And it was just the most bizarre thing.
And then after that, like after that, she was asking me questions about what I did.
She's like, so how big are you?
Like, you know, I don't want you to, and, and all this stuff.
And then she was like, um, and then it was just, it was just a very weird conversation
where in that moment it kind of diff, you know, even with all the consciousness work
that I know, and even though I know everything in life is neutral, like, what is this showing
about myself?
Um, what I realized in that moment is that, you know, I really had to observe it and then
see, does this really have anything to do with me?
You know, is it, is there some insecurity that I have about myself?
Like, will I be able to do that?
You know?
And in a way, I then, uh, I then had to realize I can't take this personally.
You know, and honestly it took about 20 minutes.
You know, I kinda told Victor about it right after it happened and I was like, I don't
know how to respond to this.
I don't know what to do.
Like, like it was just, it was just the most bizarre thing that I've experienced.
And she may not even admit harm.
She may have just been being the way that maybe her parents treated her anytime she
had a dream.
But when you're at a conference to like, go forward with your dreams and somebody tells
you, yeah, I don't ever see you doing that.
I'm like, you don't know me.
You don't know what I do.
I don't know.
Uh, you know why I just, I guess I don't know the for why somebody would say something like
that to someone, especially in a transformational event where you're becoming vulnerable and
sharing your dreams with people.
You don't really even know.
So it was just very bizarre.
But in that moment it kind of reminded me, not much of my ex step mom and how she would
do something like that as well.
She would say things that kind of tear you down because there's two ways to move up in
the world.
One of them is you build the T, you know, the tallest skyscraper or the other way is
you tear down everyone else's.
You know, and while that's a very achiever mindset, it's about knowing that you don't
have to take things personal.
So that's what I did.
The more I got that perspective that I have to take this personal, this is her things.
This is maybe the way her parents treat her, I don't know.
But also just being compassionate and not judging, not even labeling.
Sometimes with narcissists and sociopaths, we put them into sewer and category a certain
box.
And because of that, it didn't cause that kind of, um, it didn't causes that kind of,
uh, almost for them to stay within that realm.
And it was very bizarre.
She may not even have met actual harm.
It was the, it was even more bizarre because after that situation I kind of felt, you know,
I kind of felt dirty about it and I kind of distanced myself from her.
And then like 20 minutes later she gives a, she gives Victor her phone to give to me to
put it in my phone number and I'm like, well, no.
I'm like, you know what I mean?
Like it was, it was just very bizarre, but she may have not actually even met harm by
that, but it was something that I was, it, here's the thing too, when, when somebody
affects you like that, I think energetically, if I were to continue to think about her and
her saying that, it'd be me sending her energy in a way, and maybe people feed on that subconsciously
without even knowing it.
I think a lot of times, uh, when I looked at even like my ex step mom, she would do
things and then it would do things that were painful.
And then when you think about it over and over again, it sends them mental energy.
They may not know this.
This is an esoteric idea, but nonetheless, I feel like they subconsciously know that.
Now, the second thing I want it, the second way to deal with it, uh, to narcissists and
sociopaths is to simply from you remove yourself from their energetic field.
Now I know this seems like, um, like an obvious thing, but many people, you know, I met a
lot of people actually that watch my videos on YouTube where I've talked about narcissists
and sociopaths.
And what I'll do is I'll actually link a playlist right here and in the bottom, you know, the
description of this video on, you know, narcissists and sociopaths and cause I have some videos
there that have been very popular, not me even knowing that there was that much of a
desire for people to, you know, understand more about the energy dynamics between how
to deal with them and you know, whether they get their karma or not, which is a video I
had that did really well.
And, uh, most people, you know, maybe seem too obvious, but one thing you could do is
completely remove yourself from their energetic fields.
And you may say, Oh, that's a family member, that's this, that's that.
Well, you know, you're not entitled and obligated if it drains your energy and if it's making
you not achieve your dreams, you're not obligated to always have to be around people and be
feeding their energy field.
So one thing you could do is just remove yourself from that.
My sister has to deal with my ex step mom at this moment cause she's 17 years old and
her mom is um, you know, still narcissists and sociopaths and doing the most crazy things.
Um, one time, I mean this might be kind of off course, but she'd do things like, you
know, if my sister got in trouble, she took her phone one time, took her phone away from
her and texted her own friends, uh, embarrassing her saying like, you know, sending weird pictures
and saying dumb things to like make her look dumb.
You know, I don't know what kind of mom would do that to her own daughter, but that just
kinda gives you the kind of frame, you know, and doing that in my little sister that's
17 years old wants away, but it's kind of hard because of the way the court systems
are worked out.
You know, the mom tends to have a lot of power with that even though she really wants to
be with my dad and doesn't want anything to do with her mom.
Um, but nonetheless it's, you know, when she's 18 years old, she will most likely remove
herself from having to talk to her mom.
That's just a part of it.
Now you can have compassion with this and this doesn't mean that like you can't have
a relationship at all, but you have to be mindful of your own energy.
I'm lucky I don't ever have to deal with my ex step mom again.
That lady that I dealt with, I don't ever have to deal with her again if I don't want
to and I'm not.
And I plan on not doing it just because I have more boundaries.
For my energy field, but at the same time I'm not labeling her and seeing her as as
broken.
I'm just, that's, you know, I just, it's okay to have boundaries.
It's okay to say no.
It's okay to remove yourself from the situation, whether it's family or not family.
You gotta be aware of your own energy and how you feel.
Now the third way that you can deal with narcissists and sociopaths is actually paradoxical to
the last one, but that is to allow them to be and to accept them.
I know that sounds crazy, but to accept them, like I accepted my ex step mom even though
I don't, I don't ever have to see her again, but I don't judge her and have this like resistance
about her.
I'm not pushing against, you know, what I experienced in the past and even if I had
to deal with someone, even if I had to deal with that lady again yesterday, I would almost
just accept her and let her be and not let it penetrate my energy field as much.
Not be so resistant towards it, but also just kind of be like water.
And let it flow through in a way, you know, um, there's a very powerful process I found.
We actually did it last night at date with destiny.
So it was very interesting to see because in my future events, I planned on doing a
similar process.
It's called Pono Pono Pono.
I have a video below where you can just listen to it, listen to it for 15, 10 or 15 minutes
a day.
Watch how it changes your energy field, watch how it changes even the people, those narcissists
and sociopaths you may find that they begin to change as you do that process of homo Pono
Pono.
So in the video below, I explain how to apply that process.
And then there's a 15 minute section.
You can listen to it while you're driving.
Listen to it while you're doing things around the house and watch how it changes your energy
field and then the people in your lives as well.
So let me know as well, what do you think about this video, what you think and how you
deal with narcissist.
And then what we can do is we'll have like a bank of a, you can always come back to,
to, to see different ways of working through it.
Other than that, hope you enjoyed this video and as always, peace, much love and namaste