So I've got this ever-growing list of quotes and thoughts, and anytime I come across something that I find really inspiring,
I write it down because I have the memory of a goldfish.
This list is getting longer and longer by the day,
I refer to it every time I need a boost of
Inspiration or just some motivation and I want to share some of my favorite ones with you today,
Especially the ones that have helped me to adopt more of a positive mindset.
So let's get started. Mindset number one: focusing on possibilities in place of limitations.
We have all done this, saying I can't pick up that creative hobby because I'm not talented enough or I don't cook
Because I just don't know how, or I'm not gonna go out and try making new friends because I am not likable or funny.
When we tell other people or ourselves these things as if they are the absolute truth,
We kind of start to believe them.
It was Gay Hendricks who said in his book the big leap, "If I cling to the notion that something is not possible,
I am arguing in favor of limitation.
And if I argue for my limitations I get to keep them."
But if we were to instead argue in favor of our possibilities and we get to turn those possibilities into a reality.
I think it's better to prove that we can do something than to try to reinforce that we can't.
It was George Bernard Shaw who said a Native American elder once described his own inner struggles in this way.
He said inside of me, there are two dogs. One of the dogs is mean and evil,
The other dog is good. The mean dog fights the good one all the time.
When asked which dog wins he reflected for a moment and responded, the one I feed the most. It doesn't matter if we're feeding our
Limitations or feeding our possibilities. Whichever one is the one we feed is the one that wins. Mindset
number two: always ask why you know, how kids are always so curious,
They're always looking around them and asking the question why and it attempts to better understand the world around them. I think as adults
It's important that we continue to ask the why question but more to understand the world that's inside of us
You've heard me say this time and time again. What is your why power? Why is it that you want to eat more?
Wholesome foods spend more time with friends or family
Study that degree move to that city by that new thing when we don't know the answers to our wise strong enough
I think that's when we
Become more susceptible to being influenced by someone else is why it was Gael Hyatt. Who said
People lose their way when they lose their Y
So let's take for example the ads that tell us that we need extra things to feel more fulfilled
Are happy or beautiful if we started to question why we feel we need those things
I think for a lot of them we learn it isn't something we really need at all. Maybe we've just fallen prey to companies
We're trying to influence our purchasing behaviors
But asking that why question can really help us better understand our values and that can help us feel more confident and reassured
Whenever we're making any life choices
mindset number three prioritizing creativity in play
Elizabeth Gilbert said in her book big magic. If I'm not actively creating something then chances are I'm probably actively destroying something
Myself a relationship are my own peace of mind
this was the first audio book I ever listened to and I listened to it in a moment in my life when I was
really busy
I was both working and I was studying and when she suggested the importance of being creative I
Totally shrugged it off because I felt like there were better things I could do with my time
And I also just didn't feel like a creative person. I thought it wasn't for me
I couldn't even draw stick people
But we were all once upon a time kids who when given a box of crayons or some paint
We loved to express ourselves freely and I think we lose some of that
When we get older and we try to conform and fit in so I gave this whole creativity thing a shot
I took a half-day lesson on how to use a camera and it was after that
I started taking pictures of food for the first time
I'll be a terrible pictures and what I've learned in this process is that we don't have to be great or even
Good at being creative
We just need to do it because creativity goes well beyond just play it helps us think differently
Problem-solve differently it helps us build
Confidence and resilience and it can come in so many different forms writing knitting cooking filming
Singing dancing and playing sports anything that feels like a unique form of self-expression
Anything that helps us reach connect with that inner child mindset number four small steps lead to big changes. We live in a culture
That's full of things like crash diets and songs about getting rich quickly
And so we tend to want big results and we want them fast
But we also know that those quick and dirty strategies
They usually just bring us right back around to square one and sometimes even leave us force off than where we were when we began
It was Darren Hardy who said in his book the compound effect
You will never change your life until you change something you do daily
The secret of your success is found in your daily routine
Now I have somebody who has been totally guilty of having that all-or-nothing mentality with certain things
For example when I started the pickuplines blog I told myself I was going to create five to seven recipes a day
So that I could bulk up the site a little bit more
But you can imagine that was a bit excessive to create these recipes from scratch and photograph it and clean up after myself
So after just one or two days, I was so tired
I quit and didn't pick it up again for a few months and
We tend to do this with a lot of areas in our life
especially I think
Exercising and eating well for most of us
It's the go big or go home mindset that we really need to shake because it's the small things those realistic things done repeatedly
That make the biggest differences and whatever the habit is you're looking to change it
Drink more fluids be a bit more mindful. Wake up a bit earlier
We do have a habit tracker PDF that might help to guide you along and it's completely free
I'll leave that link for you in the description box below mindset number five taking care of me for you
We are social beings and feeling that sense of connectedness that love and belonging it is so incredibly important
It feels good to laugh to feel her to feel that bond with somebody and so
It can become easy to start relying on others for our happiness
Sometimes we can't just sit and enjoy our own company for a few minutes without feeling that
Impulsive need to just grab something to distract ourselves
It was Jim Rhon, who said I used to say if you will take care of me. I will take care of you now
I say I will take care of me for you if you will take care of you for me
I think this also bleeds into the digital realm for some of us
We feel the highs and lows that come with likes and comments on our posts
We look to those things for our happiness and we look at those stats as a measure of our self-worth
But just like in physical relationships if we can learn the importance of taking some time away every so often
To check in with ourselves to do things that make us feel worthy without needing that external validation
I think when we can do that, we can share more of our authentic selves
We'll have more of ourselves
to give and now I'm I've shared some of these quotes and these mindsets that I've picked up from lectures or TED Talks or
Documentaries, I'm curious
If you have any of your own
That you feel have positively influenced your life in some way
And if you do if you're willing to share those in the comments, I'm definitely looking forward to reading them
I'm sure other people are as well
And I also want to take a brief moment to thank audible for partnering with us on
Today's video a lot of the mindsets that I've adopted and that I've shared with you today
Have come from audiobooks that I've listened to I get so much inspiration from these books when I'm just going on my walks around
Commuting and they're usually experts in their field of psychology or they've done research on happiness or they're successful
Entrepreneurs, these are just people who have a world of insight and wisdom to share with us
And I think there's so much we can learn from them
I do have a list of some of my favorite audio books on the blog in case you're looking for some ideas
So I'll leave that link for you in the description box below along with the link for audible.com forward slash pick up lines
Which is where you can go to get one free audio book of your choosing
Plus a 30-day free membership if you'd like
You can also now as an audible member get one free audiobook per month plus two free audible originals
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