to love something is to take it as a
part of yourself it is an experience
more than it could ever be a concept
when you love something you pull it
close to you and you include it as you
it is a movement inherently towards
oneness now there is more to this
universe than oneness but for the sake
of this discussion let's take oneness as
the ultimate truth about this universe
[Music]
we may perceive there to be separate
things in the world but this perception
is an illusion we are all comprised of
the same energy that is merely
expressing itself as different things
this energy is not only infinite it also
has consciousness but this consciousness
we have been calling the source or God
but you me we are all indivisible from
it this means we are part of all things
in existence and all things in existence
are part of us to understand more about
this watching a video titled what is
love Trust cannot be accomplished
without love to trust is to rely upon
somebody else to take us as part of them
so as to take our best interests as part
of their best interests to the degree
that we can rely upon them to capitalize
on our best interests so here we have
trust and love the two highest pillars
of a relationship both completely
dependent upon our capacity to take
somebody as part of ourselves so as to
see feel hear and really understand them
the highest practice of all practices is
this practice and believe me it is the
hardest practices of all when someone
else is not acting as if we are a part
of them when they are hurting us pushing
us away or doing something of the like
but here's the thing
if we are going to commit to this
practice which is the golden key of
relationships we have got to
commit to taking other people as part of
ourselves to an aggressive degree let me
explain
when it comes to other people regardless
of whether it's somebody who is
currently taking our best interest as
part of their own or whether it is
somebody who is not meaning somebody
who's taking us as part of them or
somebody who's acting as if we are
completely separate and if there's
nothing affecting them enough suffering
we still have to do the same thing we
should take on the perspective that we
are like source that means everything in
existence including what you call your
enemy is in fact a part of you so it is
- in that moment expand your
self-concept wider so that part of you
your temporal self and them are like two
parts within the greater you so I'm
going to do a demonstration a little bit
about how this will feel when you're
taking this perspective say this is a
person this is a terrible drawing that's
you you're gonna expand wide enough to
imagine that this person who you is
opposed to you right there and you your
temporal self are two parts within you
so no matter what you cannot get rid of
any of these aspects of you and both of
their best interests are your best
interests you're gonna take on this
perspective before you take any action
or speak any words to them there is an
assumption that if we do this we're
gonna self-sacrifice or give ourselves
up in some way but this is not the case
because to do that is to not take
yourself your typical self as part of
yourself sometimes incompatibility
exists when this is the case loving
someone and creating further closests
and integration with them might be to
let them separate in the physical
dimension it's a bit like trying to
force two magnets face the wrong way
together the forcing of them to be
compatible in the form we want them to
be compatible in is like forcing a bird
to swim or a fish to fly it is to
enhance the suffering and polarization
and even opposition between them to
understand more about this watch my
video titled in
compatibility a harsh reality in
relationships when we are living in this
time-space reality where we perceive
ourselves due to being stucked
essentially in this temporal self we
perceive ourselves to be separate a
separate self separate from other things
separate from the universe at large and
so it's easy for us to slip into the
illusion that it's possible for us to do
something detrimental to someone else
and to not feel any impact within
ourselves it's not actually reality but
it is easy to slip into this when we're
in denial of reality which is of course
one us obviously if we look at reality
through the lens of reality which is
oneness we actually can't have our best
interest be completely separate from
someone else's best interest ultimately
even if our temporal best interest
seemed to oppose someone else's best
interest and this is the case we have to
take a serious look at changes we need
to make in life so that both of our best
interest can be served when we start
doing this when we take other people as
part of ourselves what happens is we
start to see a change in the way that we
think about those people and those
things we start to see a change in the
way we communicate with them we start to
see a change in their actions that we
take relative to them and towards them
anytime that we can spend really seeing
feeling hearing and fully understanding
someone else that means separate of our
own filter of what we think about the
other person from our limited temporal
perspective is well worth it it's
important to not be fooled by the idea
that conflict resolution can be achieved
through finding balance between opposing
things this is not the case and it is
especially not the case when we have two
parts within us whether it's two parts
within you literally or another person
and you within the world which is
ultimately you to understand more about
this I encourage you to watch my video
titled balance we cannot impose our
idea of what resolution should look like
and are limited ideas about how to
create resolution we must fully adopt a
perspective of the other person being
part of us in order to see the true path
to and
resolution or the true action taken from
a place of love so this means the golden
key in relationships is to take somebody
as if they are a part of you that is the
perspective you're going to take so that
any action any thought any words are
going to come from that space so here's
my suggestion and here's your practice
before you do anything you're going to
ask yourself the questions number one
and my thinking of this person from love
if he she or it were part of me how
would I think about him her or it - am i
communicating with this person from love
if he she or it were a part of me how
would I communicate with him her or it
three am i acting towards this person
from love if he she or it were a part of
me
how would I act towards him her or yet
you will not be able to do this
perfectly that's why we call it a
practice it is extremely difficult even
with people who you are really really
good friends and even partners with to
do this practice much less to do with
somebody who is actively hurting you but
it is this practice that is the golden
key in relationships and it is this
practice that's going to transform your
world completely
[Music]