While everyone deals with their own personal struggles, the INFJ being the rarest
personality type knows a thing or two about struggling to fit into the world around them.
With a unique set of functions, this introverted, intuitive, feeler, judger personality type faces
frequent struggles that no one other than the INFJ can really relate to..
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Number 1: Fitting in everywhere, but actually no where
This chameleon personality type is able to use their deep understanding of human behaviour
to properly connect with people on a genuine level. While they’re social skills may seem
effortless and charming, deep down, INFJs often feel like they can’t be their true selves
around basically anyone. They easily blend in with all sorts of crowds,
but when it comes to the true connection they crave, they can surely seem far and few between.
Number 2: The naggy inner dialogue Being highly introspective and intuitive,
it’s fair to say that INFJs are quite familiar with the voice inside their heads.
While most people barely notice their autopilot inner chatter of thoughts and judgments,
most INFJs would say they have a bittersweet relationship with their inner selves. Although
their self-talk can consist of some of the deepest encouragement, it can also act as that consistent
nagging in the back of their mind telling them they’re not living up to their potential.
Number 3: To tell or not to tell INFJs experience intuitive insights like no
other personality type..whether they like it or not. While it may sound like all fun and games,
sometimes INFJs know things that put them in a sticky situation wondering if it’s better
to share their insights or keep it to themselves. Although it varies depending on the situation and
the people involved, INFJs have to be careful of offending people or weirding people out
with their uncanny predictions. Number 4: The feeling of alone
INFJs can be in a room full of people and still feel absolutely alone. Often being the black
sheep of their families, the INFJ is familiar with the struggle of feeling as if they don’t fit in.
Now, it’s not to say that all INFJs who feel alone are necessarily lonely. Although that is often the
case, sometimes INFJs can find themselves feeling both alone and lonely within their
work environment, family, and sometimes even within their long term romantic relationships.
This alienation can discourage an INFJ from further opening up or expressing themselves,
which of course doesn’t do them any good. Number 5: Being perceived as extroverted
It can be surprising for some accutainces of the INFJ personality type to come to find out that
they are in fact technically introverted. INFJs can talk when they’re required to
and when they feel it is necessary, but deep down inside, this introverted type requires a great
deal of alone time - which they happily work into their schedules. This can definitely seem
peculiar to the people in their social circle who don’t quite grasp the concept that they
probably don’t want to hang out every weekend. Number 6: Not knowing whether to settle or flee
Most INFJs have the inner longing to live the ideal lives they’ve fabricated in their
minds throughout the years of figuring out what they like and don’t like. Even if it
looks as if they’re living well-maintained and perfectly content lives on the outside,
like most people, INFJ struggle with the idea of wanting more.. However, unlike most people,
the concept of wanting more to an INFJ doesn't necessarily mean more materialistic things,
but rather a more fulfilling life, or at least one that closer resembles their ideal worlds.
Number 7: Not knowing what it’s like to meet someone like you
The fact that INFJs are rare is no secret, and aside from all the other struggles that come with
being the rarest personality type, most INFJs will actually never meet someone that shares
the same personality type. In fact, most of the other personality types that the INFJ relates to
such as the INTJ and the INTP also happen to be some of the rarest types as well.
Luckily, we have the magical world wide web to help connect the INFJs from all around the world!
Number 8: Not wanting to contribute to society but also being a human
INFJs struggle to buy into and work for the big corporations of the world. Not only is
this because they can easily realize how much corruption the big guys contribute to the world,
but they also see the power their time and money has on the alternative options. However,
it’s not always so easy to boycott the companies who run the world..
An everyday struggle for the 21st century INFJ.
Number 9: Feeling the need to apologize for being emotional
We’re not talking about apologies after a full blown meltdown..
We’re talking about any outward expression of emotion or need.
Some INFJs can’t help but feel as if they’re burdening others with their thoughts and feelings
should they express something that may change their mood or cause sympathy.
Number 10: Being disappointed by their own expectations
Experiencing such a vivid and complex imagination such as the INFJ can sometimes
seem more disrupting than enjoyable. INFJs can oftentimes create an elaborate expectation of
how something or someone should be, before going into it. Whether it’s a new date, a new school,
or even something as simple as a vacation - sometimes INFJs can get so wrapped up in how it
should be according to their unrealistic standards that they end up disappointing themselves.
Number 11: Despising conflict..yet also attracting it
Okay, so maybe INFJs don’t necessarily attract conflict of their own,
but for as much as this personality type tries to avoid drama and chaos - they
seem to attract a lot of people who are looking for help with these very issues.
However, as long as the INFJ isn’t directly involved, helping others with their life problems
and lending an open ear isn’t as daunting as it may sound for this empathetic type.
Number 12: Finding the courage to open up and not explaining properly
INFJs are writers.. Not talkers. While INFJs can be great listeners, insightful advice givers and
avid users of the much dreaded small-talk card to get their fix of human connection,
when it comes to talking about their feelings and thoughts it can seem like a near impossible task.
Since it may take an INFJ a good amount of time to eventually come around,
once they finally feel ready - they’re really hoping the person on the other
end can understand their sometimes odd explanations. Sometimes, it fails.
Number 13: Being in tune with everyone’s feelings but their own
One of the main reasons INFJs have such a tough time explaining themselves through words is that
they explain their emotions in the same way they view other people’s, which is difficult for most
people to relate to. INFJs are so interested and drawn to the ever-changing moods and
emotions of others that they can easily overlook or completely ignore their own feelings. In fact,
INFJs are almost always slightly confused about how they feel about all emotional issues in life.
Number 14: Finally opening up and then regretting it
Because INFJs truly value emotional vulnerability in other people, for the sake of a close
connection, an INFJ may feel compelled to relate to someone with a personal story. While it feels
natural and right in the moment, once an INFJ is by themselves mentally reviewing the conversation,
they can feel an overwhelming amount of regret when they realize how much
they’ve opened up about themselves. While it’s probably nothing major in reality,
for this private personality type, it can feel like the ultimate self betrayal.
Number 15: When intuition and heart aren’t in calibration
There are times in every INFJ’s life when there are some major pieces missing from
their intuitive puzzle, meaning although they know what they should do, they just can’t see
the logic or proof behind the matter. Even for the most experienced intuitive INFJ,
sometimes insights and hunches can make no sense at all. This leaves INFJs stuck between
trusting their gut feeling despite the facts, or following their heart and giving the person
or situation the benefit of the doubt. Luckily, intuitive insights will always unravel overtime,
making it clearer for the INFJ as to which steps need to be taken.
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