When we're feeling anxious
what we need most is to feel safe in our body.
It's important I think, that we give the reader
or the the viewer the opportunity to settle
into their ability to self soothe
because so many of us are walking around
so anxious, so re-traumatized, so triggered
That's right.
and the practices in this book,
and I can share two with you now,
are beautifully designed to help in the moment,
just regulate your nervous system.
Calm, right.
Just feel more peace.
So there's one tool in the book that I referenced,
it's called EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique.
And EFT is otherwise known as tapping.
And you tap on different energy meridians,
while you talk about how you're feeling.
And for this moment let's just use anxiety as the issue.
And when we're feeling anxious
what we need most is to feel safe in our body.
So just tap with me, Rachael,
right here with the middle of your pinky finger
and your ring finger just tap on that point.
And this is sending a message to your nervous system
that it's safe to relax.
Sending a message to the brain, it's safe to relax.
And with me, just repeat this affirmation.
I am safe.
I'm safe.
I am safe.
I'm safe.
I am safe.
It's so soothing to just affirm that
and tap on it at the same time.
And then another beautiful practice that I think
will just be powerful for people in any given moment
is a heart hold.
And you place your right hand on your heart
and your left hand on your belly.
And you just gently breathe into your diaphragm
(Rachael inhales)
and on your exhale, just let it go
and take a full deep belly breath.
And if you want to, bring in the affirmation
while you have your heart hold, I am safe.
I am safe.
I love what you just taught us, thank you.
The whole message in Happy Days is about
how we can go to those places that scare us
and come out safely on the other side.
And we have to now, we have to more than ever.
First I had to tell my truth in this book
in order for the reader to feel safe enough
to trust me and to know most importantly, Rachael
to know that they're not alone.
Yes.
That is so important to me as the author of this book.
So I share a lot of vulnerable truths
that as a spiritual teacher for 16 years,
this is my ninth book.
Many of the stories in this book
have never been revealed until now.
And I share about memories from from my childhood
that came back in my late thirties,
dissociated memories.
I talk about my addiction, my struggle
with with drugs and alcohol, with workaholism.
And then most importantly I share the exact methods
that I've used to profound,
to really profoundly change my life.
And that's what I love about this work.
It's so personal.
What you went through, what you felt
that's really important.
Especially right now.
I think people are really facing
their suffering more than they ever have before
because so many of our experiences that we've shunned
and pushed away are now coming to the surface
because we feel so out of control and we're being triggered.
And a lot of those experiences are what look like trauma
with a small "T" and trauma with a big "T."
So big "T" looks like something growing up
in an alcoholic home or some type of violence
or living through a catastrophic event or assault.
Whereas a small "T" trauma is being bullied
or being told you were stupid when you were in sixth grade
and those imprinted experiences whether they be big "T"
or small "T" affect us to this day.
They affect every move we make.
Yes.
And what's happening right now is we're faced with it
because we've been sent home.
We've been told to be by ourselves.
We're left alone with our stuff.
(soft chimes)