INFJ personality types are rare. They make up only 3% of the population,
making them one of the most hard to come by and unique personality types in the MBTI.
People with INFJ personalities are often misunderstood, because their traits don't
always align with the popular norms in our society. They’re introspective, longing,
and creative individuals who often find themselves struggling against the status quo.
But lets explore further with 10 struggles that INFJs commonly face in their day-to-day lives.
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Strangers confide in them often, and it can get overwhelming.
Maybe its their strong empathy levels that others can sense, or their deeply listening nature,
but strangers will often seek out an INFJ when they need someone to confide in.
INFJs love to listen, and they genuinely want to help where they can, but it's not always
easy being the one people turn to for solace . Sometimes, all the problems and worries that
they are bought, can start to feel like its a little too much. Being made witness to peoples
struggles, and not be able to do anything to really fix it can be a huge emotional toll.
As a result, INFJs carry a lot of weight on their shoulders, and even as kind and
compassionate as they are, they can sometimes wish people would just leave them alone.
But then they remember why people come to them in the first place. They are trusted,
and someone needs help. That's why an INFJ will continue to be the shoulder they can lean on,
even though it can feel overwhelming at times.
They can sometimes feel out of place in the times they live in
INFJs are often drawn to the past, feeling a deep connection to the
wisdom of ages gone by. This can make them seem like old souls,
and it's not uncommon for INFJs to feel like they're living in the wrong time.
They may yearn for a simpler era when people were more connected to nature,
or they may long for a future age when humanity has finally reached its potential.
No matter what, the sense of being out of place can be wearying for INFJs. They may
find themselves struggling to connect with others,
feeling like they're constantly swimming against the tide. But even in the darkest of times,
INFJs are always a part of something much larger than themselves. Their connection to the past and
future gives them a sense of perspective that can help them to weather any storm.
They can be their own worst critic
INFJs are often dogged perfectionists, and as such,
they can be very hard on themselves when they don't live up to their expectations.
They can feel like they have to be perfect in every way,
and this can be quite a burdensome standard to endure. INFJs in particular,
often struggle mightly with self-doubt and self-criticism.
Thing like second-guess themselves, and even having trouble making decisions.
They can tend to find it difficult to let go of things that they're not happy with. Instead
opting to obsess over tiny details, in an effort to control everything they can in their lives.
An INFJ's need for perfection can be both a strength and a weakness.
On the one hand, it can motivate the INFJ to achieve great things,
and on the other, it can lead to frustration and disappointment.
They are great planners, but sometimes they can over plan
INFJs are known for their love of planning and preparation. They like to have a clear
vision of the future, and they often create detailed plans to help them achieve their goals.
While this tendency can be helpful in many ways, it can also lead INFJs to miss out on
the serendipitous moments that make life so special. Because they plan everything
so meticulously and in advance, they often leave no room for spontaneity or surprises.
This can cause them to miss out on the unexpected events that add color and excitement to life.
Sometimes the best moments are the ones we never saw coming. While it's important to plan ahead,
INFJs often forget to leave some room in their lives for the magic of serendipity.
They can over analyze their conversations, and end up spiraling
INFJs are notorious overthinkers. They have a tendency to agonize over minute details,
including what they say to others.
They want so badly to be understood and to make a connection with others,
so they can sometimes fall into over-analyzing their words, second-guessing themselves endlessly
until they’re convinced that they’ve said the wrong thing. And then they end up regretting it.
INFJs are deep feelers who long for authentic, meaningful relationships. They want to be able
to share their innermost thoughts and feelings with others, but sometimes they get so caught up
in their own heads that they can sabotage their chances of having those kinds of relationships.
They don’t tend to make a good first impression
INFJs are incredibly introspective, preferring to spend time in their own
inner worlds as its where they’re most comfortable. Unfortunately,
this often makes them come across as uninterested or even allergic to most people they encounter.
The truth is however, INFJs have a deep longing for connection and intimacy with others. They
want to be understood, with their complex inner worlds and to be accepted for who they are,
but most people are neither willing or able to give that assurance.
So when they meet someone new, they often hold back at first,
waiting to see if they are the rare kind of person who can.
However, this often leads to misunderstandings,
with other people often perceiving them as being cold and aloof,
as opposed to just needing a bit more time to feel comfortable and to sus out peoples intentions.
If only others understood this and afforded them this time to open up,
they’d be rewarded with a unique level of warmth, humour and intelligence in an INFJ.
They tend to bottle up their emotions, until they blow up
INFJs are often misunderstood. They’re seen as aloof and unemotional when in
reality they feel things very deeply. They bottle up their
emotions because they don't want to burden others with their problems.
But eventually, the pressure builds up and they explode. It's not that they’re volatile
or unpredictable, they just have a hard time understanding and expressing their feelings.
INFJs often have difficulty letting go,
and trusting that people will still love them even if they weren’t perfect.
Only then can they hope to find the peace and happiness they so desperately crave.
They can hang their worthiness on their ability to make others happy
INFJs are naturally inclined to want to make others happy. It's part of who
they are. They feel good when they see the people around them smiling and fulfilled.
On the flip side, when they see the people around them unhappy,
they can't help but feel responsible. They want to fix the problem.
This can often lead them to put the needs of others before their own.
And if they can't make others happy, they can feel worthless.
As INFJs, they can sometimes forget to take care of themselves first and
foremost. They can struggle to say no because they hate the feeling of letting others down.
They can have major trust issues
INFJs are notoriously difficult to get to know. They are guarded, private people who often have
trouble trusting others. This is largely due to their deep need for emotional intimacy.
INFJs crave close, meaningful relationships and they are quick to give their trust to
those who seem worthy of it. However, this trust can often be misplaced.
INFJs are idealists who see the best in people, even when it isn't there. As a result,
they can find themselves disappointed and hurt by those who let them down.
It can be difficult for INFJs to open up again after such betrayal,
but it is essential for them to find people they can trust. Otherwise, they will always be alone.
The way they notice minute details can make people feel uncomfortable
INFJs are often described as being very observant. And it's true,
INFJs are often attuned to the subtle details and nuances that others might miss.
They can pick up on body language, tone of voice, and even the unspoken thoughts and
feelings that someone might be hiding. This ability to see beneath the surface can be a
great strength. INFJs can offer compassionate understanding that may greatly help others.
However, this same quality can also make INFJs seem slightly creepy.
An INFJ can come across as being overly interested in other people's lives,
and they may inadvertently invade people's privacy through the things they notice. INFJs may not even
realize they're doing it, but it can nonetheless make others feel uncomfortable around them.
The INFJ personality type is a unique blend of emotions and intellect that
can be difficult to navigate in our fast-paced superficial society. However,
with a little understanding and self-acceptance, INFJs can thrive by
using their intuition and creativity to make a difference in their corner of the world.
What has been your experience having this personality type?
Let us know in the comments.