What do all men want, really? What makes a man commit? In this video, I'm going to be
revealing the four boyfriend benefits that man, that they're like, man fuel for commitment.
The exact things that a man wants from you when he's considering, if he sells himself
on the idea of a relationship with you. Don't forget my book is now available as well. Make
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Okay, so what we're talking about today is the boyfriend benefits. These are the things
that men want. That is a benefit of being a boyfriend. Why would I be a boyfriend to
her? Oh, because it comes with these benefits. There's four of them. And in this video, I'm
going to put them in reverse order. So the least important is first. Now the phrase I
need you to remember is sell. S E L L that represents the four boyfriend benefits. I'm
going to explain what those are right now. So number four, fourth, important is Sex on
Tap. Think about it. As a woman, you have six in abundance. You may not be having sex,
but you know that with a simple phone call or just to jump on Tinder, you can have lots
of sex if you wanted it. You live in a sexually abundant place. Men are the opposite. Men
live in a place of sexual scarcity. Now, a guy can get sex. He can get it as a one-off,
but it's not an abundant thing. This is why withholding sex to get a relationship doesn't
necessarily work. Because if it's just about the sex, they only do that once and he's got
it. But the true benefit that you enjoy just by being a woman is sexual abundance. And
this is the benefit of being your boyfriend for the man. Once he enters a relationship
with you, he has a much freer access to sex. He has much more abundance sex. He almost
has a, you like sex inside the relationship within reason obviously. He can have significantly
more sex with a great partner. This is the boyfriend benefit, and this is what you can
potentially be used for. There's no shame around having one nightstand or sleeping with
someone once if that's what you want to do. But what you don't want to do is be his booty
call, his sex on tap, unless that's all you want in return, because that is the boyfriend
benefit. It's the benefit of having you to be sexual with on his terms, obviously, when
you both want it in the relationship that makes committing to you such an attractive
idea. And if he's already getting that abundance without having to commit, then he's going
to be a lot less likely to commit for. E is for excitement and energy. So this is the
vibe that you bring to his life. This is the enthusiasm, the presence, the play, it's all
about that female energy. What does he get to enjoy by coming into your life? What are
the richer experiences that he gets? Does he get to feel more masculine? Does he get
to go into his own feminine more? Does he get to experience more play and excitement?
One of the greatest gifts you can bring to a guy is bringing that energy that you have
on a date or that you have hanging out into his life on a regular basis. That again is
the benefit of being your boyfriend. But you have to remember that excess access to this,
if it's just uninhibited, and if you are not getting a great energy back from him, then
you'll also be used for this boyfriend benefit. And when you're being used for a boyfriend
benefit again, why buy the cow if he's got the milk? These are the things that men really
want, that makes them think committing to you is a great option and makes them sell
themselves on the idea. Number two, second most important boyfriend benefit is loyalty.
When I run seminars, and I get a show of hands, it's always loyalty that after I've explained
them, is the boyfriend benefit that women feel most used for. They can certainly argue
that at the beginning of a relationship, men are naturally a little less monogamous, but
what you can't do is let this mean that the guy thinks he can just have you while he gets
to have all the others, right? If you just want to date one guy, go ahead and just date
one guy. But the guy shouldn't know that you've closed off your other options until he has
done the same. Think about it. Humans, men, one of the big drivers is pain, avoidance
of pain. That's one of the biggest motivators, right? Including the motivator of committing
to you. The pain in this case is losing you, losing your energy, losing your sex on tap
to another man. He doesn't want to lose that, right? But if you've committed to only dating
him, when he still gets the freedom, then it takes away all that motivation. He doesn't
have the pain or risk of losing you. And the boyfriend benefit of loyalty has been given
to him without you getting the loyalty or commitment on your own, right? Unlike the
other three, loyalty is a binary boyfriend benefit. You either have it or you don't.
There's no, in-between so sure you are only giving your loyalty to men who have given
it back to you and that you keep yourself open if the man that you're seeing or dating,
keeping himself open. Otherwise, you'll be used for this boyfriend benefit. And number
one, the most important boyfriend benefit is L for love. Love is the support. Love is
the companionship that you bring to a man's life. It has these beautiful things that you,
as a woman bring to him, right? One of the greatest gifts I have in my life from my
relationship is the support that she provides, the companionship, it's that it's that amazing
backing. It's that, that feminine energy that love, that connection. All these things. Men are lonely
people there's every study ever to support this. Men's mental health, so much loneliness
in men, but what a man will use you for, if he can, is that love. It's that support, that
connection. Now, of course, if he is reciprocating it, fantastic. That's great!
The boyfriend benefit is being reciprocated. But if not, if you're being really good to him, loving,
caring, supportive, and you're not getting that back in return, why would he boyfriend
you for it? He can use you for it instead, right? Men sell themselves on the idea of
a relationship. There's not many men who start out saying, "Okay, i must have a relationship.
I need a relationship." And if they do, those men are pretty needy. A healthy secure man
is going to sell himself on the idea of a relationship with you because he wants to
have the sex on tap, the excitement and energy, the loyalty, and most importantly, your love
in the forms of support and companionship in his life. These are the four boyfriend
benefits. Do not get used for them. Don't forget as well. This is content from Chapter
12 of my new book, Making Yours Beating The Odds Of Modern Dating. It is really, really
cool. You should grab it. If not, you can get a teaser. The free chapter's available
as well, so make sure you grab that too. Leave a comment below. I'd love to hear your thought.,
Which boyfriend benefit have you found yourself used for, or which surprised you, which did
you not think about? I'd love to hear, put it in the comments box below. Hit the thumbs
up and the big red subscribe button with the little bell as well. And don't forget to check
out my video on how to make a man commit. That will give you some highlight and examples
of how this will kind of look, so you can get used to this. I'll put that as the outro
video on top of this video. Thanks again for watching! I'll see you in the next video
very soon.