(00:11): How can I stop holding grudges?
(00:16): Okay. So grudges are interesting because
literally what a grudge is it form of resentment or a negative feeling that we have towards someone
else, um, having to do with something that that person did to us. Okay. So it's, it's a
sort of a resentment, negative feelings that we have towards other people. Now, the interesting
thing about grudges is that the only person that ag grudge harms is us, right? It's ourselves.
So it's a really kind of a poisonous energy because what's happening is that emotion is
being generated inside of us. And so we end up poisoning ourselves. It doesn't, it has nothing
to do with the other person. Now, an interesting thing about grudges, and I can sense it from this
question. Uh, there's a, there's a, um, kind of a longing to let it go. So when we hold a grudge, we
know instinctively that it's not good for us. (01:05):
It doesn't feel good. It, it just drains us. It feels horrible. So the majority of us just wanna,
wanna be able to let go of these grudges, but there's really a lot to be learned from a grudge,
especially the feelings, the intense, negative feelings that sometimes we feel when we have
grudges. Okay. So a couple of things that are really worth noticing if you have a grudge
against someone, if you're holding onto a grudge, the first thing is to notice that
from an energy perspective, let's get into the energetics of this from an energy perspective.
If I have a grudge against someone else, I'm really tethered to them. So I have a cord,
an energy cord that's attached between me and that other person. So I am tethered to that person.
I'm attached to them. I'm stuck to them through an energy cord, not a healthy energy cord, of course,
but I'm still attached to them. (01:58):
Nonetheless, they still have pole over me. They're still, um, they, they hold power over me. Anytime.
There's an energy, uh, cord between myself and someone else, that person still holds power over
me because whenever I have an energy cord attached to someone else I'm losing my Chi, I'm losing my
power. So that's an important aspect to start with is understanding that if I hold a grudge against
someone am tethered to them, okay. So, so let's start there. So when we think about it, this way,
one of the things that we wanna do is we wanna be able to cut that, that cord. All right. And
you can do this in a variety of ways. You can do this with something as simple as
just standing in front of the mirror, closing your eyes and saying to yourself, I intend to
cut, cut this energy cord between myself and John or whoever you're holding a grudge against.
(02:49): Okay. I have the, it's my intention
to cut this cord now. And you can come up with different variations of this kind of prayer or
intention, um, ceremony that you may wanna do to cut cords. Cutting cords is really important.
That's one of the ways in which you can start freeing yourself from this energetic tethering
that you may have, uh, with another person that you're holding a GRGE against, right? As soon
as that cord starts to disintegrate, you'll start to feel better immediately. And the grudge itself
will to dissolve, okay. Now, an aspect here that I wanna leave a side note is that if I cut an energy
cord, but I'm not addressing the wound behind it, the energy cord will reestablish itself. Okay. So
that brings us to a second part that I wanna take us to. And that is using the grudge as information
using the grudge to owe you that there's something in you that is unhealed.
(03:42): This is so important. If I hold a
grudge against someone, that automatically means that there is wounding within me pertaining to
that person that's not healed. Okay. And so a lot of times people get disturbed because one of the,
one of the emotions that we feel the most as to when we hold grudges, is that resentment or
anger. Um, very, very common emotions that, that we feel when we're holding grudges well,
resentment and anger. I always tell people these are really important, um,
emotions to work with because these are very powerful, but they're usually surface emotions. So
if you're trying to heal a grudge, you've gotta go down below the anger. And usually anger is
the superficial sign of deep sorrow. Okay. So that's another aspect. That's important
when you're holding a grudge, there's probably a part of you, even though the anger or the
resentment is the part that you feel the most. (04:41):
If you take a nice deep breath and you dip down below that anger and that resentment,
you're gonna find sorrow or sadness, a variation of these two emotions. And so really what's
going on right in your depths is that you feel really just sad. There's grief, there's sorrow,
there's sadness that, that happened to you, or that that person did something to you,
or did that particular thing to you. And so that sadness, that sorrow, that grief, the variation
of this emotion of sadness, it has to be worked with. It has to be cradled. It has to be, um,
just embraced and given space. And as soon as the sadness starts to, to, um, to heal, as soon as the
grief starts to heal, as soon as I know how to sit with my sorrows, as soon as I say to myself, what
that person did to me hurt me so much, and I'm going to come into contact with that pain now.
(05:38): And as soon as you go into that and you really
breathe into that, what's gonna happen is just by coming into contact with that emotion of what the,
the person did to you, what that caused in you just going into this emotion is going to start
disintegrating the emotion because it's being processed, it's being felt, emotions just want
to be felt really that's the easiest way to heal any kind of emotional content is just to feel it,
to sit with it from a position of non-resistance from a position of no fighting. I'm just gonna sit
with it. I'm gonna welcome it. And I'm going to just cradle it. And as you're doing that,
the emotion itself will start to process us once the sadness and the grief processes,
the anger is gonna start to process too, because anger is just a superficial level of sorrow.
(06:26): And so the anger is going to start to process.
And pretty soon what's gonna happen is as you're processing these emotions as you're healing,
the deep wounds that were caused by another person that you're holding a grudge against
now, suddenly that energy starts to disintegrate. And then the energy cord that tethers you to the
other person disintegrates, and there are no more grudges you see. So the grudge itself,
it releases very, very easily. As soon as you go into the emotional content,
as soon as you go into the wounding, as soon as go into the pain that another person caused you,
when you go into that, everything starts to, um, kind of transform and as its transforms,
the energy tethering that you had with the other person that you were holding a grudge against it,
disintegrates, okay. And it's, it's, it's not, um, letting go of a grudge is really
not difficult cult. Sometimes what is harder is to do the work of healing and coming into
connection with the emotions and the pain that was caused by another person. Okay. So, uh,
so get into that, cut the energy cords that you have with the other person, and then go into the
pain or the sorrow, the sadness that the other person caused you. And as soon as you do that,
all of the energy will be kind of dissolved and the grudge will disappear. I hope this helps.