It's as simple as this. Let me ask you a question:
Do happy people make other people miserable? When
you think about your toxic coworker, your toxic
manager, or any toxic people in your life, are
these fundamentally happy people?
Hello, my friends, and welcome back to my channel,
where I help you slay your career and cultivate
the successful life that you deserve. Today, we
are going to be talking about toxic workplace
survival, I know that a ton of you have actually
discovered my channel because you're in a toxic
workplace, you have toxic coworkers, or you have a
toxic manager that you were working with. Now, if
you've watched any of those videos, you know my
stance. The only effective strategy to deal with a
toxic workplace is to escape the toxic workplace.
However, I know that not everybody has the luxury
and the privilege to be sitting on a pile of
money, and could just walk in tomorrow and quit
their job without any ramifications, concerns or
worries. Most of us need to work for a living. And
that's led me to have conversations with a lot of
you guys in the comments on how you can actually
energize yourself after work so that you can have
an active job search when you are in a toxic work
environment, or how you can just not have every
single day destroyed and kind of spiral into
despair, when you are still in that toxic
workplace. So that is exactly what we're going to
be covering today. I will be sharing with you
seven strategies that you can implement this week
to help you survive a toxic work environment.
Quite honestly, when we have conversations about
toxic workplaces, it can feel kind of heavy and
kind of low vibe. So let's just lift up the
positivity and the high vibes by tapping that like
button, and then getting right into those
strategies to help us survive a toxic workplace.
The first toxic workplace survival tip that I have
for you today is the most important one. Now you
still need to watch and you still need to
implement all of the other ones. But this one is
really crucial because this one can actually
impact you in your next job, you need to remember
that the toxic work environment has nothing to do
with you. When you're in a toxic work environment,
it is likely that you're seeing a lot of toxic
behavior, and maybe that toxic behavior is being
targeted you like gossiping, and undermining and
disrespecting and all of those bad toxic work
environment things and whether that toxic behavior
is coming from a toxic boss or a toxic coworker,
it can be really damaging. And quite honestly, the
whole point of toxic people is that they make you
start to question yourself, I know it's really
easy to feel like it's all about you when that
toxic work behavior is being targeted at you and
when your toxic coworkers are gossiping about you
or your toxic manager is undermining you at work.
But if we were to take that toxic colleague or
that toxic boss and put their psyche under a
microscope, what we would find is a very negative
very insecure person who kind of wants to just
spread their misery around. Doesn't mean they're
always doing it intentionally, but this is really
what toxic people do. It's why we call them toxic.
Now knowing that, it becomes a lot easier for us
to see that the toxic behavior that they are
exhibiting around us or towards us is really just
projection of themselves. And it really doesn't
have anything to do with us, you can completely
change the way that you show up the way that you
treat them the things that you say, you know,
whatever that toxic coworker is unhappy about, but
they're going to be the exact same way. And to my
friends, I think this is really crucial for you to
know, because if any of their toxic behavior is
internalized, if they are making you doubt
yourself, if they are corroding your self esteem
or anything like that, that can very easily become
something that you bring into your next job, which
is going to have a negative impact on your long
term career success. We absolutely do not want
that to happen. And I think one of the easiest
things that you can do is differentiate the fact
that this is a them problem. And it's not a you
problem. When you are steeped in that negativity
all day, though, this becomes really, really
challenging, because energetically and I know
that's hippie dippie, but I'm sticking with it, we
do really absorb things.
And that leads me into the second surviving a
toxic workplace tip that I have for you today. And
that is creating a positivity bubble toxic work
environment are inherently negative. You're
dealing with workplace gossip, negative workplace
politics, drama from your toxic colleagues
micromanagement from your toxic boss. But just
because you have that negativity at work doesn't
mean that you need to live in it 24/7. Instead of
sitting in that negativity and bringing it home
with you and sitting in it for the rest of the
night, I want you to create a positivity bubble. I
don't need to tell you this, but being in a toxic
work environment can absolutely zap your energy.
And this becomes a huge obstacle to escaping that
toxic work environment. Because you have no energy
to look for a new job, or to find a new team, or
whatever your toxic workplace solution and escape
really is. You do not need to be positive all the
time. You're allowed to have a bad day. You're
allowed to be in a bad mood. But the more that you
cultivate positivity, the more that you're going
to find yourself feeling that way even amidst all
the obstacles that you're facing in your toxic
workplace.
And this actually brings me into my next toxic
workplace survival tip, which is one of the
hardest ones to implement. But I also think it's
one of the ones that has the highest payoff. To
survive a toxic workplace, you need to set
boundaries. I know I've been talking a lot about
boundaries, but it's because they are really
important. Like I bet your toxic manager has a
knack for sending you an email at 11:30pm at night
and expecting an immediate response. There are two
guardrails that you should be setting in order to
survive your toxic workplace. The first is work
life boundaries. And this is where we are formally
compartmentalizing our work time from our personal
time. This is what's going to keep you off the
clock 24/7. The second level is interpersonal
boundaries, which I've also spoken about on my
channel. This includes things like not talking
about your personal personal life at work, and
even the people that you're willing to accept
feedback from.
And on this point, what are the boundaries that
you need to set is so important that it is the
next toxic workplace survival tip, and it is to
decline the drama. Toxic coworkers love them some
llama drama. And honestly, it's very rare for me
in my conversations with clients to hear about a
toxic workplace where toxic gossip is not
absolutely rampant. The thing is, you do have the
actual option to stay out of it. If this is one
that you want to dive deeper into, I do have a
video that I will link down below in order for you
to navigate office gossip. But there's something
that's really important that I want everyone to
know. And I want to be really clear in this video.
And that is: gossip is a participatory sport. When
you play the gossip game, it is only a matter of
time before you become the center of it. Even in
the best of workplaces. This is not a position
that you want to be at. Ultimately, here's the
thing, when you stop feeding the llama drama, it
stops coming around looking for food.
One thing that can help with this, but it's also
going to help you with your toxic workplace
survival is to implement the fifth strategy to
surviving your toxic workplace. And that is to
have empathy. This is not about feeling bad for
your abuser. This is about acknowledging the
suffering of others. It's as simple as this. Let
me ask you a question:
Do happy people make other people miserable? When
you think about your toxic coworker, your toxic
manager or any toxic people in your life? Are
these fundamentally happy people that are
satisfied with their life, their career, where
they're at? The answer is probably a clear and
resounding no, the source of all of their toxicity
is in their deep dissatisfaction with themselves
and with their life. But instead of doing
something about it, they're just trying to drag
everyone down with them, which is really not cool
of them to do it is not your job to fix them. It
is not your job to sit with them in their hole.
But I do think the more that we can have empathy
for other people and where they're coming from
makes it maybe a little bit easier to deal with
them on a day to day basis. And ultimately, I
think when we bring empathy to the table, we're
creating a better workplace than what we entered.
The next strategy I want you to implement is a
very tactical strategy to survive a toxic
workplace. And that is to have an after work
reset, think of this as a palate cleanser to shift
your energy afterwards. This is particularly
important if you're going to be active in your job
search. And you're using time after work in order
to do that, because I know a lot of you feel
really drained at the end of the day as a direct
result of being in that toxic work environment.
Now, whether you're looking for a job or you just
want to not be miserable after work, I want you to
establish an after work ritual that is going to
help you cleanse away the negative energy of the
day so that you can have high vibes afterward. Now
this is where it is going to become a little bit
personal. And I don't have a one size fits all
suggestion on what you should actually do. For
this step, I have clients that have used
meditation, some that just like to hop in the
shower or go for a run called her best friend,
just do something that is going to make you feel
better, you can try on a couple of different
things. But where I really suggest you start is to
think of something that always makes you feel more
energetic. After you've done that activity.
This is probably going to help you implement the
next toxic workplace survival tip as well, which
is to build your confidence. Being in a toxic work
environment, being surrounded in negativity and
working with a toxic boss or with toxic coworkers
is something that, as I mentioned, can really
implement your confidence level and yourself and
seem so if you are really feeling the impact of
that. One of the things I want you to do is to
make it a top priority in order to rebuild your
confidence. I do have a video on some 90 second
confidence hacks that are going to help you lift
your confidence instantaneously. But this is
something that in reality is deep work. And it's
really important for you to shift this into being
something that you're creating within yourself as
opposed to something that is being derived
externally. And this is where your unique
awesomeness quotient, your UAQ, really does come
into play. Because when you know how awesome you
are, confidence is just something that happens.
I'll be deep diving into how to create your UAQ in
my workshop, which you can register for I will
leave the link down below.
And that leads me to my bonus toxic workplace
survival tip and that is to cope with stress at
work, let's just face it being in a toxic
workplace is stressful AF. And if you're walking
around with that stress that your toxic work
environment has created for you, you are not going
to be in a good place. If you haven't already,
click the subscription button and the notification
bell because the next video that I'm going to
share with you is going to be how to handle stress
at work. This is crucial when you are in a toxic
work environment. But for now, what I want you to
focus on is really setting up your day to be an
awesome day no matter what you're going to be
facing when you're in the office or you know
working from home.
If you head over to this video, I'm going to share
some strategies and how you can make sure that
every day is awesome. No matter what you're up
against. I would love to hear from you in the
comments which of these strategies you are going
to be implementing first. If this video was
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really does help my channel as always, thank you
so much for watching. Bye for now.