You know in the world today, we're having a big problem with miscommunication. I
know what you ought to do. It's time to learn a little bit more about body
language.
You're probably noticing that there's a lot of miscommunication going on in the
world. And if you're not noticing it all you got to do is look closely at your
personal relationships. And you're going to see that you struggle understanding
other people. And you tend to be a little confusing to others when you talk. So,
what's the big deal? Why? Because we have so much technology, why is technology not
helping us communicate more clearly. Well, there is a very important part about
communication that we actually don't go to school for. You know, we go to school
to learn about math and English and history and science and all these things
but we don't go to school to learn how to communicate. You know, once in a while
they'll teach you how to give a presentation in school. You know, you get
your little board and you stand up and do your presentation. But they don't
teach you how to communicate with your body language. Everybody uses their body
to communicate. It is part of communication between us and other
people. But right now, body language is all seen as... You know, this interesting
thing you can watch. And there's even people out there who say that body
language doesn't play any part of communicating with people. Ah, well it's a
huge piece of communication. It is a large part of the percentage of
communication that happens between us and other people because we have ears
and we have eyes. We listen to what people say but we're also watching how
they move. So, because you don't know about body language is because your school
didn't teach you about body language. Your parents didn't teach you about body
language. But body language is gigantic. It's huge. And when I started to figure
out that I was lacking the skill of reading other people's body language, it
made sense why there was so much miscommunication. So for you, I mean right
now, I hope that this stirs you to acts go and start studying everything you can
find about body language. Because I will tell you right now, if you do not study
body language, you will struggle in school. You'll struggle with your friends.
You'll struggle with dating. You'll struggle with marriage and you'll
struggle at work, you'll struggle with your boss, you'll struggle with your
employees, you'll struggle at your clients, they'll struggle with your
prospects because you lack communication skills. Talking is only a small
percentage of communication. Writing is only a small percentage of communication.
But body language is going on all the time. Now, here's a reason why you want to
study body language is because when people go to speak, they can actually
shut their mouth and edit or stop saying particular information. They can edit it.
But what happens is people don't focus on how to edit their body language... So,
body language has more of a pure message to it than actually what's coming out of
a person's mouth. And so, if you want to know the whole story that's going on
inside of a person's head, you listen to what they say and then you notice how
they move. So, body language plays a huge role in the communication process
between us and others. Now, a big part that body language plays is there are
many things that we feel that we don't say. You know, we'll feel something and
then we'll actually change the words. Well actually... You know, even kind of make
it sound better than what it really is. Most people actually don't tell the
truth. You know you ask them, "How you doing?" And they go, "Good!" But it inside
they're not doing good. And you know, we try to make it sound like
everything's okay and everything's alright. Now, socially... You know, that's what
we do to each other. But what if this is... What if this is your son or your
daughter? And you really want to know how they feel? What if this is your spouse
and you really want to help your spouse? But they're not telling you the real
story. Well, body language exposes how a person really feels.
Now, the reason why it's important to notice this about what it exposes is
because people are trying to cover up how they actually feel and how they
actually think. And people confuse themselves that they can't even tell the
truth. And because they can't tell the truth then they can't express their
truth to other people. And now we've got a big mess of miscommunication. And this
is why spouses can align with each other and get things fixed. This is why parents
struggle with their teenagers. And while teenagers struggle with their teachers
is because there's a whole bunch of half-truths being said. A whole bunch of
lying and covering up what's really going on. We're kind of messed up as a
human race. We're kind of messed up because we don't tell each other the
truth. But I have found that by reading body language what happens is, I'm able
to see another side of the conversation. I'm able to notice more of the truth of
what's happening to a person. Because it exposes the truth. Not exposes their, you
know, their private life. It exposes their truth. Now, as a dad and a husband and a
business owner and a coach and a mentor and a trainer, this has really helped me
because when somebody's struggling and they can't fix their life, number one
they're not even telling themselves the truth. And number 2, they're trying to
tell me what's going on but I watch their body language to see the rest of
the message. So, the reason why I'm talking to you today about body language
is because to open up your mind to be able to go, "Man, I got to learn about this.
And I got a really check-in and go you know, "What is this and how does it work?"
Now, body language also emphasizes certain parts of the story
and it also shows the intensity of the conversation. So example, what if
a dad said to his kids, "Hey kids, we need to clean up the house today." Or what
if he did this? "Kids, we need to clean up the house!" Those 2 different examples,
you can tell which one dad is more amped about. You know, which one is like
can his soul a bit more because he's like slapping his hand or he's punching
his hand. So, the body language actually shows the intensity of what's going on.
You know or you ask somebody. Here's another example. I'll do 2 parts of
this example. You can ask somebody you know how are you doing and their
response will go like this... One example is they'll say... They'll do this,
they'll say, "Oh, I'm I'm good." You know and their head all drops after they say the
question. Or you'll have somebody say, "Oh, yeah. I'm good." Okay, which person is more
stressed? They both said exactly the same thing but ones rubbing their face the
other ones just looking down. The one who's rubbing their face, you know, it's a
much more intense situation for them. So, not noticing body language, not even
paying attention to it actually puts you in the blind spot. It actually puts you
in a place where you're the one not knowing. You're the one who doesn't know
what's going on because you don't know how to read body language. So, what do you
do? You know, how do you how do you learn about body language? How do you, you know...
Because you're probably wondering, "Well what do I watch for? what do I do?"
We got to watch this video and the other videos I have and because I got more
videos coming to you about how to read by language. Pay attention. But let me
give you a couple cues though. While you're with a person and they are
speaking. Not only get captivated by what they say. But stay so present that you
can actually glance and watch their hands, their mouth, their head, their
face, their posture. And you ask yourself. You ask yourself, "If I was doing that
particular movement would I be thinking? If I was doing that move, if I was doing
this, what would I be thinking? Or if I was rubbing my face intensely, how would
I be feeling?" I swear the easiest way to begin noticing and reading body language
is whatever you see happen on someone else,
like what they're doing, you pose the questions yourself of like, "Wow, if I
did what they're doing, what would I be thinking or feeling that would cause me
to move that way?" And if you could turn your mind to actively listening, not only
with your ears but with your eyes. If you could actively be listening with your
ears and your eyes, you will start to hear the whole story. Because when
there's a miscommunication problem ,it's because that there's parts of the
communication, parts of the information had gone. It wasn't even there. And you
are having more challenges than you need to right now about communication. So,
today's the day to start studying. Start watching. And I'll... Let me give you some
other inside tips. You can read all the books in the world about how to read by
language. But unless you activate your mind while you're with a person to begin
watching, all the education is not going to do anything for you. It is an active
experience. And that means you actually have to activate a part of your mind to
actually watch the person. Watch and analyze. Not watching judge. Watch and
analyze and you pose a question to yourself. "If I was doing that what, would
I think? Would I be thinking or what would I be feeling that would cause me
to do a similar movement?" Okay, but here's a couple little heads up though.
It does not give you permission to sit there and scan a person's body. If
somebody was looking at me and they were scanning my body up and down, that would
be so creepy, be so creepy. So, you don't do that. You don't scan
people's body while they're talking to you. You will creep people out. Well, what
you do is you can look in a person's eyes or look at their face and begin to
stretch your peripheral vision so you can see the movements of their hands. If
their hands are moving over here or down here up here. That you can see that
without having to stare so fine-tune to every little movement that
they're doing. Today is a great day to improve your communication. Your
communication problems are because of you. They're not because of other people.
They're because of you. You are the receiver of information. And if you don't
up your game of understanding the input of increasing the input of what other
people are saying to you through their language and through their movements. If
you don't up to your game of being able to receive more information, you are
going to continue to be the problem in the communication experience. And it will
actually give you a level of empowerment. Maybe even a little bit more empowerment
that if you don't understand something that's going on in the communication, you
pose questions. You never just leave a situation where it's at. If you don't
understand what's going on, you ask questions. And I'll tell you this when I
read body language, it brings up a lot of questions for me to ask. Because I want
clarification. I want clarification because if I have clarification,
now I understand what's happening and then we don't waste time with
miscommunication. It's just terrible to waste time because then it's hurt
feelings hurt people, lack of time, waste of resources, waste of energy because of
miscommunication. But if you're having issues with your kids and communicating
with your kids, it's you. If you have... It really is. If you have a
challenge with your husband or your wife, it's you. Or your boyfriend or girlfriend,
it's you. Because you're the one in charge of listening. You're the one in
charge of making sure the communication is correct. You're in charge that all the
details are communicated clearly. Never ever, ever expect another person to be in
charge of the clarity of the communication. You are in charge. The
biggest mistake I hear about people with communication is that they say, "If they
would have just explained themselves better,
I would have better understanding." And that is the source of a global epidemic
of miscommunication. Because they're waiting for the other person to be
better. When we are the ones who need to activate our ears, activate our eyes and
really start to pay attention to the rest of the story through body language.
And hear me on this one. Texting and emails and emojis are literally defusing
and degrading our skills of reading body language. You are going to see us as
people become more, more in a state of confusion. Even though we got all this
technology. You're going to see families struggle, marriages struggle, friends
struggle, students struggle, teachers struggle and they think technology is
here to save all of us. What is going to save us is better listening skills.
That's what's going to save us and our families, our marriage, our kids.
Everything we do. Work, everything. And listening skills are up to you. Not up to
them. It's up to us. So, reading body language is a listening skill. It's a
listening skill. And you get to jump in and start learning. And ask the question
that what would I be thinking or what would I be feeling. would I be thinking
what would I be feeling that would cause a similar movement like what I see
happening on this person right now? That is a solution to your problems with
miscommunication. Okay, check it out. It's time for you to learn more about how to
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