desire and non-attachment can the two coexist at the same time
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NLP money and Buddhism if you haven't already please click subscribe to this
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sound unusual to put those three things together and NLP money and Buddhism so
what does this all have to do with each other
it's about non-attachment and about how it's different possibilities can fit
together and coexist within the space that you are i'm not going to get too
high-minded or two lofty here but it does incorporate some of that with
Buddhism and I think it's a nice plate a meeting point between NLP and Britain
and Buddhism and eastern thought philosophy and this really comes from
the work that Robert Dilts has done with Steve Gilligan around non-attachment and
that is something called the tetra lemma tetra lemma as i understand it is
something that exists or is a concept that exists in Buddhism instead of a
dilemma our dilemma
there's a tetra lemma so instead of being caught between polarities to
opposite poles it's expanding this into four and two other possibilities a total
of four possibilities
Robert Dilts and Gilligan so created a process called the tetra lemma and what
that is is you start off in a place of being connecting grounded then you
become aware of the two polarities and you assign one on either side of you and
it usually comes from a feeling and it's usually a polarity like yes this is true
but this is also true and you step into either polarity and you get really well
acquainted with both of them to get a sense of where this conflict is and then
you step backward and hold both polarities are one time and let them
coexist and what is it like to be the space in which these two polarities
coexist together and that both of them are true
not one or the other interesting place to be it's instead of the word but it's
the word and
so it'd be like this is true but that's true and then you change that to this is
true and this is true even though it seems to be opposite or opposing are
contrary to each other and you step forward into neither of these are true
what is it like if neither of these polarities are actually true and this is
an interesting place because this is where the new information the new
insight can really come in
what does this have to do with money well this was a process that really
helped me solve my money problems i started out with the polarity that are
you can do a lot of times you can start with one limiting belief was a limiting
belief you had our have the limiting belief i had was I'm not good with my
finances are more specifically I can't get ahead and my finances so I started
there
what was the opposing belief about that well actually i am pretty good at my
finances I've been pretty good at finances such as far back as I can
remember I was pretty good money even when I was a kid so I explored that
truth so if there's one polarity one sort of polarizing belief and limiting
believe that I'm can't get ahead my finances
there must be another one that's holding that together and that was in fact i am
very good at my finances so I explored both and then I step backward and held
both at the same time and allowed myself to be the space in which these seemingly
opposing polarities could coexist
so what if these are both true what if I'm more specifically what if I can't
get ahead my finances and at the same time I am good at my finances some
interesting things start to happen some and not all the time doesn't happen
right at that moment then I moved into would have neither of these were true
it's not true that I can't get ahead my finances and it's not true that i'm good
with my finances and this is a place of really leaving that polarity behind
getting really stepping out of polarity completely so that new information can
come to you and then you start to realize that that's really sort of an
imaginary problem that I'm creating it's very real to me when I'm in the polarity
but the truth is is that this is rather made up like I'm not experiencing
a financial polarity at the moment so I'm able to step out of that and then
gained some new wisdom gained some mary and site and you take it back into the
now and then you hold all 4 possibilities and this is an amazing
place to be and I've seen this interpreted by other people through
Buddhism if you walk through life with these four possibilities maybe something
is true maybe it's true and something else as is true at the same time and
maybe neither true it did it is amazing to sort of hold that space for all of
these possibilities and then it gives you more choice will which which one do
you want to go with that's one way you could look at it are what new
information do you gain by stepping out of the polarity altogether that then
maybe creates a completely different situation or a different one whole new
belief that is much more empowering and not limiting like your other two beliefs
it's really something to explore its really something to everybody that every
single person is going to get something different out of its also known as a
conflict integration that's there's a rather crude visual squash we call it an
LP that is a conflict integration this is a more elegant sort of conflict
integration it's also a way to break out of limiting beliefs and give yourself
more possibility and more choice
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