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♪ Physical therapists on the internet ♪
- (Bob clapping) Hi folks.
I'm Bob Schrupp, physical therapist.
- Brad Heineck, physical therapist.
- And we are the most famous physical therapists
on the internet. - In our opinion,
of course, Bob.
- Today we're gonna talk about the top five regrets
of the dying, witnessed by a nurse.
So this is very interesting, Bonnie, Ronnie Rare.
I think I'm sayin' it right.
Bronnie Ware - Okay.
- is an Australian nurse who spent
several years caring for patients
in the last few weeks of their lives.
- So Hospis. - So Hospis type,
Hospis type care.
And she recorded their regrets over time
and she came up with basically top five themes
- Sure. - of what people would say.
So that's what we're gonna be talking about today.
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- While she's working.
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- That's right, we always wanna, you know,
make you a better you.
- Mm-hm. - And so,
we're gonna talk about these things
you have a chance to do now while
you're living so you don't have any regrets when you die.
- Right. - So, the first one.
And this was the most common regret by far.
Was, "I wish I," the person said,
"I wish I would've had the courage to live
my life true to myself.
Not like others expected of me."
- Mm, sure. - So,
I, you know, I suppose like people,
you know, your parents wanted you
to go to law school so you go to law school,
- Sure. - and it's not what you
wanted to do or-- - Right.
- I don't, I'm not in that, this category so I can't think
about this at all. (Brad laughing)
You know what, basically if you have some dreams,
go after 'em. - Right.
- That's what we're trying to say.
- Don't be shy. - So, don't leave
your dreams unfulfilled.
- Right.
- Number two,
"I wish I had not worked so hard."
(Brad laughing)
Brad and I don't have to worry about that, yeah.
(both laughing)
No in all seriousness,
it seemed like this was a lot of men at the time,
'cause this was, I hate to say it,
it was many years ago.
And in the instance they were talking about,
they brought some as example that a lot of the men
who were working and on the road,
they were missing a lot of their child's
experiences and events. - Sure, right.
- And I mean, I know Brad,
you're cut out of the same cloth I am,
and that we, our children came first.
- Right, yep. - Without a doubt.
In fact by--
- Adjust our schedules and - Yep!
- and make it family first
and work your close second,
'cause you gotta provide as well.
- That's right. (Brad laughing)
But I remember this very clearly.
My son, especially, I'd come home
and he always, the first half hour, hour
I came home was allotted to him,
because he always wanted to do somethin'.
- Sure. - You know?
And I remember thinkin' at the time
that this isn't gonna last that long.
(Brad laughing) And it was.
It was like a snap. - Right, right.
- You get home and you're tired.
You know son wants to go hit the ball and--
- Right, yes.
Time to go shoot baskets. - I always did it.
I always did it, yep, so.
Number three,
"I wish I had the courage to express my feelings."
- Ah, yeah.
- Now you probably suppress your feelings a lot.
You're a man.
- Right!
I do, yeah, verbally, yeah.
When it comes to cards, I do really
well with writing
- Oh you do? - things to my family members,
especially immediate family.
- Ah. - My daughters and wife.
On a card, I don't have a problem with,
so I take care of it there.
I'm not so verbal.
My father was not
that way either. - I was just gonna ask you,
'cause we're Germans
from German families. - Yeah. (Brad laughing)
- Now my mom or dad never said I love you
- Mm-hm. - when I was younger.
- Right. - Ever!
- Right. - To any of the kids.
I mean, they didn't kiss us, they didn't,
I mean-- - Yeah.
- They didn't hug us.
They didn't, none of that.
And it was, I remember my older sister
started doin' it when she got older
and I'm like, what is this? (Brad laughing)
And, but now my mom says,
my mom's alive yet she says, "I love you"
every time she sees me. - Sure, yep.
- She hugs me every time she sees me, so.
- My father was not a hugger.
- He was a friendly guy, though.
- But, yeah he was, but my mother
she'll hug anybody, anywhere, anytime.
(Bob laughing)
She doesn't, you don't even have to know her,
and she'll be happy-- - You could be a stranger
at the store. - Yep,
she'll give you a hug. - And she'll come to you
and give you a hug, okay.
Number four, "I wish I had stayed in touch with friends."
Many felt they had not given friends the time
and effort they deserved, so. - Mm-hm.
- And I think that you and I are really good
at that too, are we?
- Well--
- I know you talk about friends that you've had
a long time and you see 'em. - Well sure, right, right.
- I like, with friends, what I like to do is
I have annual events that I do with them.
- Yeah. - You know what I mean?
So it's kinda set in stone. - Right.
- That we're gonna see each other.
- Right. - So.
Yeah that works out well.
Yeah I would think, you know,
nowadays with all the media,
communication would be easier.
- Sure. - But I don't
- Sure, social media. - take advantage,
like I probably could and should.
But anyways.
I still have--
- Well I think it's better to be
with them in person
- Right, yeah. - than just the social media.
- Than digitally. - Yeah, right.
(Brad laughing) Than digitally, right.
And number five.
This is an interesting one,
"I wish I had let myself be happier."
- Ah.
- And you know, it's surprisingly common.
And I think,
I remember it was Abe Lincoln that said,
"We're just about as happy as we make up our minds to be."
- Sure. - I've used that quote
with my kids even. - Sure.
- I said, you know, if you think
this is really difficult stuff,
you know, it's all a matter of mind set.
- Right. - You can be,
happiness is a choice to some extent.
- Right, you gotta put things in perspective.
And you know, let's say I have a problem with a,
I wanna get something done and something comes up.
Like tonight, we've got a family event
that just got scheduled last night,
and I had scheduled my bike ride in,
- Oh boy. - and I got some other
things I wanna get done. - Oh boy.
- And it's like, why do we always have to do
these family things?
And it's like I'll go, I'll do it,
and I'll be happy I did it.
- Sure. (Brad laughing)
I'm just like you, though.
When I have my schedule and something comes
in at the last moment, - Yeah, yeah.
- I'm not good with it, so. (Brad laughing)
All right well we hope these help you.
You know, it's not too late to,
I'm sure for all of you 'cause you're watchin' us
which means you're alive.
- Hey. - And hopefully you have
plenty of years ahead of ya.
And take these into account and maybe
make your life a little bit better.
- There you go.
What else can we say Bob?
- That's it. - Until the next episode.
- Thanks for watchin'.
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