Hey guys, welcome back thanks for joining me for another video if you are new to my channel, my name is Stephanie
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Welcome back. Thank you for joining me for another video. So this week with everything that's going on in the world
I wanted to really focus on
mental health and I really want to start focusing on really what is
Healthy mental health like how do we really take care of ourselves mentally and emotionally, you know
I know I talk a lot about self-care and I'm gonna love yourself and learning how to have a healthy inner dialogue
But really what are the things day-to-day that really contribute to having a good healthy stable?
Mental health within yourself now like always before I get into this week's video if you have not subscribed
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I have a lot of you know, I wanted to sit down and think about mental health and really what are the things that really
Help us to be the healthiest
What are the things that we can do day to day that really do take care of our you know?
Mental well-being and our emotional well-being. I mean that really is a vital. I mean, it's such a crucial thing
Because it affects every aspect of your life, right your mental health was gonna affect your physical health. It's gonna affect your emotional health
It's gonna affect your relationships the job that you have the fulfillment you have the happiness
You have the peace contentment that you have, etc, etc
So I made a humongous list of things that really contribute to
Good mental health you taking care of yourself mentally
So I'm going to try to kind of run through this as fast as I can and not really dive into too too much except
For the really really important ones now
There are a lot of things on this list that are not absolute deal-breakers what I mean by that is if you don't do them
Every single day are you gonna have poor mental health?
No, but they are really really important and things that you need to focus on
So as I'm going through this list
I want you to jot down which one of these are the things that?
Number one you would like to focus on yourself because you know that maybe you give enough attention to this specific area
And just like I said make it a point to begin being mindful of these things, which goes into number one
Mindfulness is something where you have to be really curious and concerned about how you are feeling
every single day and being aware as to what are the things that are causing your
Unhappiness causing you to not feel at your best. So the next two things kind of go hand in hand
number one getting plenty of rest and number two waking up at a
Reasonable time and starting off your day on the right foot those two things are so critical
We all know we all need to get rest. That's just important, right we all need sleep
We all need sometimes to take a nap at 4 o'clock. Whatever it is that allows you to get plenty of rest
So you feel at your best when you're waking up in the morning that will then allow you to
want to wake up earlier or to be able to wake up earlier now when you wake up early every
Single day think about it when you wake up in the morning
There are usually a few things whether you're a parent whether you're not no matter how old you are
There's a few things that you have to do in the morning right you get up you wash your face you brush your teeth you
Clean up you maybe get dressed for the day. Maybe iron your clothes. You maybe get your kids ready? Maybe get lunches ready?
So think about getting up a half an hour, maybe even an hour earlier
Then you typically do right now so you can have time to number one do those things and not feel rushed
But number two really slow your morning down a little bit more
So you have more time to kind of really prepare yourself for the day and get yourself into a good space
There's nothing worse than waking up. Number one late
right and number two always rushing and
trying to hurry up and get out the door or we're not really feeding ourselves a good breakfast or
Preparing the foods that we need to prepare for the rest of the day, you know, let our snacks
Quality lunch, maybe even getting dinner ready?
So giving yourself enough time to kind of even if you just want to wake up and like do a meditation
Do a little yoga go for a run
You know sit outside and enjoy the day just that stuff really takes care of you
on a mental level because it does put any stress on yourself and you
Gradually start your day off on a slower foot as you begin to do those two things. I always say incorporating
like I said a meditation or
Absolutely some kind of an affirmation that you just listen to you. Don't mean necessarily have to do what they call mirror work
Where you look in a mirror and you do your affirmations to yourself just listening to that stuff
Every single day in the morning is a huge part of mental health because it really a hundred percent
Proven facts it prepares yourself for the day get your mind in a better
Headspace rather than scrolling on social media or immediately opening up your email
those are just addictive habitual things that we tend to do but incorporating something as simple as
Just waking up a little bit earlier and doing some
Affirmations and really listening to the words that you're hearing whether it's a motivational speaker or podcast
Affirmations whatever it is, as long as you're feeding your mind some good stuff
I would say that really is mental health right there
that is you feeding your mind that is you a
thousand percent taking care of yourself and getting yourself ready for the day and all the challenges that are gonna come the next thing is
Stop complaining
It is very easy to get caught up in complaining and again when you start practicing
Mindfulness and when you really start taking responsibility for yourself, like hey
I'm the one that's supposed to be taking care of my own mental health. I want to be happy. I want to be successful
I want to just wake up every day and have more peace in my life
Whatever it is that you want for yourself, which most people will say. I want to be happy. I want to find happiness
Sorry, whatever, you know those types of things
It's typically what everyone says if that truly is what you want. Then you have to be aware of. What are the things?
What are the things whether they're outside things or internal things that are causing you to not feel that?
happiness that peace that contentment and when you start really taking responsibility for your own self and stop blaming your unhappiness on
Everything and everyone regardless of what happens to you because don't get me wrong are there times where?
Someone does something to us and it hurts us
Yeah, and acknowledging those feelings and not suppressing them is mental health, right?
That is you taking care of yourself mentally and emotionally
But there comes a time where we have to kind of release that
Feeling of anger that bitterness that frustration even sometimes that sadness right?
We have to release it at some point so we can kind of carry on with their lives
So stopping complaining number one takes you out of that. I'm a victim
It begins to empower you right on. Okay, this is something that's happened. I've released it. Now. What am I gonna do about it?
Really that's kind of like the steps towards you going through something
that's uncomfortable is
Acknowledging how you feel?
accepting that you feel that way and then releasing it because
You have to be able to move on with your life and not kind of live in that mucky water of
complaining and venting about the same things over and over again and even being mindful as to if you did start complaining about something or
You know starting off with some negative self-talk or negative energy or whatever is what I'm saying worth my time and my energy
Is what just happened really that big of a deal that I feel like I need to carry on so much if you begin to
Kind of practice those things. You will quickly see number one
how
Probably addicted you are to doing it and that sometimes you don't even know you're doing it and how addictive other
People are to complaining so you want to love yourself so much that you look at a situation
And try to find the solution to it rather than just adding to the problem of what's currently going on
The next thing is productive, you know, you always want to be productive in your day to day life. And I know Tony Robbins says
He talks a lot about being productive and how progress in your life. We all need to be making progress, right?
There's so many areas of our life between our personal life or friendships
finances career
your home life all these different categories of life and within each
Category of life there's usually one or two that we're always kind of working on and these things fluctuate over the years
So maybe you had some years where your romantic relationship or your relationships in general weren't a concern right? Maybe this finances
That was the big stress in your life
Whatever the stresses in your life or whatever area of your life that you're trying to make progress on
If you are not and you're not being productive in that area that's going to cause depression that's gonna cause unhappiness
That's gonna cause on fulfillment
So being aware of what area of my life
Are is there no progress that's happening right now? Because and I want there to be progress
I don't want to be wearing em right now. I want to get to this next level and what do I need to do?
What steps do I need to take to get there?
you know little things like even waking up in the morning and making your bed and
Something that I've done for years because it gets my mind it gets my life
It gets my home it gets everything on the right foot
it allows me to be productive in my day-to-day rather than sitting around and just
Feeling sorry for myself
And not feeling empowered that I can actually create the life that I really want for myself those little key things of
productivity and just getting up in the morning and having a healthy routine and
Making it a point to eat healthy foods and really taking care of myself in that way
Allows me to then have the energy the strength, you know, the mental capacity
The emotional well-being to tackle other things in life
Right like other demons, right?
Whether it's fear or stress or any other challenges that kind of cop in my day-to-day life
Because they're going to so being productive is really knowing what areas of my life do
I want to focus on and really setting goals for yourself
Not just those long-term goals of okay. I'm here and I want to be here
It's then thinking about if I want to be here what steps do I need to take every single day those little little steps that?
Will allow me to get there because no one jumps from 0 to 60
so in the midst of this journey to get to this the destination
Which is this goal that you want for yourself?
Breaking that goal down and a lot of times this is where coaching really comes into play for people
Because they get lost in that middle area of okay, what do I need to do day-to-day?
Whether it's they need someone to hold them accountable or whether they just need an action plan as to like
How do I actually do this?
You know
Where do I even begin because a lot of the times when we come from either lack or?
Fear and a fear within ourselves that we can't get from zero to sixty
We're not gonna know the little steps to take because that fear is gonna block that intuitive Ness to be able to know
Okay. Well, I mean I should be doing this and then I'm gonna do this
We just immediately want to jump over all that hard stuff and just get to the goal and unfortunately life doesn't work that way
The next thing towards really having strong mental health really take care of yourself mentally and emotionally is practicing gratitude
We all know this but really making it a point every single day to take time out to be
Really present with where you are and what you're doing because like I always say your happiness is right now
It's right here in this moment. It's not what you need to do in an hour or what happened yesterday
It's none of those two things
It's literally right now because right now is all you have so the more and this really changed my life the more I started practicing
mindfulness and really
presents like being present to what I was doing no matter what it was if it was the dishes if it was being with my
son if it was out in nature if it was
you know at a restaurant with friends the minute my mind started wandering and distracting me from what I was actually doing I
Realized that I wasn't really enjoying where I was and then I wasn't happy
so your happiness is really in this moment in practicing gratitude and
slowing yourself down a little bit
You know with everything that's going on in the world right now between quarantine and coronavirus and like all this stuff
something that I really truly think has been hugely beneficial is the aspect of everyone really slowing down and
Really being at home and slowing your schedules down and being present and and being in nature
I mean how many people are going out for walks now just to get out of the house
So that really can bring you such joy in such mental health
That's really taking care of yourself when you begin to Pratt that every single day
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And please comment down below on what things really haven't proved your mental health things that really have worked for you
I'd be so curious to learn more tips
and I think it's great to share our own experiences with each other so we can really learn from each other and
Experiment. Like I said, there are always gonna be some things that you're going to want to work on more than others
and so I hope this video has helped you kind of narrow that down and so you can start focusing on your mental health every
single day until next time