Hi, it's Linda Raynier. Career Strategist and creator of Stand Out & Get Hired.
Guiding you to your purpose and the career you're meant to do.
So, in today's video, I want to talk to you about the topic of expectations.
And specifically, I want to show you 2 tips that you can use to completely reframe your mind
and let go of expectations and pressure and tension that you're putting on yourself
and instead, move forward and achieve that career that you want with a sense of joy and excitement.
So the reason that I wanted to talk about this is because this is an area, personally, I've had to deal with throughout my life.
It was only until I realized that it was faulty thinking
that I was able to really change my mindset and get rid and let go of my expectations.
So, I used to think that if I had high expectations that it meant I would achieve my goals faster.
I was thinking about them in a way where, I needed to get them now.
I needed to achieve my expectations now.
And because of that, I was putting a lot of weight on my shoulders, and a lot of pressure and tension on myself.
And if anything, it wasn't helping me to get to my goals faster,
It was actually slowing me down. And this is what having high expectations can do to you.
So for example, imagine that you're running a race.
And as you're on the race track you're running with a knapsack on with 30 pounds of bricks in that knapsack.
And that knapsack was one that you chose to put on.
You didn't have to wear it, but you chose to.
That's exactly what having high expectations is like.
You choose to wear all this weight on your shoulders and put all this pressure and tension on yourself.
And then, you decide to run the race.
Well guess what, you're not going to be able to make it in the time that you want, because
you're being bogged down. You're slowing yourself down.
Instead of making it to the finish line quickly, you're starting to think about how painful it is,
and how tiring it is, and how dreadful it is, and how exhausted you are.
And...you get the idea.
So to make sure we're on the same page, let's get clear on what expectations are.
So for example, when it comes to your career or business,
you probably have expectations that you'll be successful, you'll grow quickly,
the business will grow quickly, it'll be high paying,
that you won't have any worries about money. That the people you work with or the people that work for you will be engaged and happy.
And as a result of all of that, you're going to be engaged and happy.
You're depending your happiness on an external outcome.
But you may be wondering, shouldn't I have high expectations?
Otherwise, how would I achieve the goals that I want?
And to that I say "Absolutely." If you have a dream and a vision for yourself,
that you're one day going to be pursuing work that is meaningful and it fills you up and you're engaged
and you're joyful and it's just something that you love doing,
and you're making money from it. All of those things.
If you have that vision then absolutely, hold onto that. That is your dream.
That is what you need to have in order to keep you moving forward.
However, it's only when that vision becomes less of an exciting goal that you're looking towards,
and more of an expectation, that that's where the pressure starts to come on.
So let me explain by showing you 2 simple suggestions that will help you to reframe your mind
on the idea of what expectations are.
And how you can use that to let go of these expectations but still go after what it is that you want.
Intention is all about connecting with the pure and genuine desire of that it is that you want.
When you can say that to yourself, "I intend to have a wonderful career that is fulfilling and meaningful."
There's a sense of ease that comes with that.
The word 'intention' doesn't have the same heavy weight that the word 'expectation' does.
The word 'expectation,' on the other hand, comes with a whole slew of other connotations.
Because when you start saying things like "I expect to have a beautiful life,"
then all of a sudden, other phrases come tagging along with that.
Such as, "I need to have it now!"
"I must have it!"
"I should be there already!"
"I have to have it!"
You see what I mean?
There's a weight that comes with the word expectation.
There's a heaviness and there's a demand.
And that, my friend, is where pressure and tension lurks it's ugly head
and sits on your shoulders. And literally physically, and emotionally and mentally
you feel the weight. And it slows you down from going after what you want.
So instead of using "expectation" as your go-to word,
instead, call your vision or dream as your intention.
That is what you intend for yourself.
A practical way to do this is to have some sort of box, or container
or journal, where you can literally just write down your intentions
not expectations, your intentions, and then you can put it away.
So for me, for example, I actually have a container just like this
with a lid, that I use. Right now I'm using it for something else, for a different purpose.
I have a container just like that.
And what I'll do, on occasion, is I'll have these big visions and goals and dreams
and I'll write them out. Take that piece of paper, fold it up and put it away in this container.
I also have a journal that I write in almost daily
and that helps me to get out what it is that I want to bring into the world.
So there are different methods to doing this but the reason why it's important to do this from a physical perspective,
is because it helps you to physically and energetically detach
from those thoughts. From the feeling that you need to accomplish this now.
It's more like, "This is my intention for the world. And for my life, and for my career."
So I'm going to put it out there and put it away.
And then, you'll start to come up with action steps that you can do on a regular basis to eventually
achieve that full picture. That full intention for yourself.
So there you have it. Two unique, yet very simple techniques to reframe your mind
in order to let go of your expectations to go after the ideal career of your dreams
at faster speed and with less weight on your shoulders.
So now you have these tips. But if you're keen to learn more about how you can uncover your purpose and the work you're meant to do,
and have that authentic career that you truly want.
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