About a year and half ago I published a video about a Toxic Boss and an unhealthy working
environment and I promise, I never expected the received reaction.
80 thousand views and counting, hundreds of comments, messages and emails.
Messages of gratitude, but also a cry for help, asking for a further advice on “how
to deal with a toxic manager”, something which I could not ignore.
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Sharing my experience related to a toxic boss and to a toxic work environment made me realize
that it is a huge issue.
That I wasn’t alone at all!
Thousands of employees suffer a bully boss and consequently the toxic energy they are
surrounded with at work.
There are not many actual help strategies or helpful advice on this subject.
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In today’s corporate world, we need to learn how to block the negative energies, no matter
who or where they come from.
To do our best to prevent the toxic management and their toxicity from affecting our health
and peace of mind.
But how?
I have to be honest, miracles do not exist but there are a few strategies which could
help you survive a toxic boss and a toxic work environment on a short term.
Because the first and the most important advice is definitely putting your best effort into
getting OUT of a toxic place as soon as you can.
I know it doesn’t not sound as much of a help right now, when you are in a such situation.
But with time it becomes crystal clear that it is the best possible solution.
More than 20 people I’ve questioned about this subject confessed they shouldn’t have
tried to change their situation and that they should have left as quick as possible.
Because not even a top yearly income and a senior role, you always wanted, is worth the
damage on your emotional and physical health.
The toll on your relationships and your general well-being which your toxic boss is causing.
Negative atmosphere and the toxic vibes within the company will absorb all of your energy.
The longer you stay, the more exhausted you are for a successful job hunting strategy.
The following tips will help you survive and possibly improve your situation but there
is no “quick fix” in dealing with a toxic manager.
Get ready to show the maximum of patience.
Tip number 2.
Deliver your results.
Toxic bosses don’t care about your well-being at work.
They don’t care about the impact their behavior is having on their team’s productivity.
They also put a front of being indifferent to their team disliking or hating them, in
fact some might actually be enjoying it, which is another topic.
What toxic bosses do care about are the results!
Especially if these make them look good in the eye of top management.
So they might even leave you alone for a few days if you deliver what they want.
Number 3.
Stop being afraid!
Studies show that “growing a thick skin”, or confronting a bully boss does absolutely
nothing to help your situation.
Anyone who has worked for a toxic boss knows how they can impact all the aspects of your
life!
Your confidence, your self-esteem tend to go away.
But not when you stop being afraid!
Working in a constant state of fear is extremely damaging.
Think of the worst which could happen to you at work?
Getting fired!
Which is nowhere as bad as turning into a walking zombie.
Researcher who did studies on more than 3000 people, found out that employees who have
managers with toxic traits are 60 percent more likely to suffer a heart attack or other
life-threatening condition.
And we don’t want that!
Number 4.
Stop blaming yourself.
No matter how toxic bosses make you feel, no matter what they say about you.
“Incompetent”, “slow”, “not good enough” — you are NOT.
This is NOT your fault.
There is nothing you can possibly do to be successful in this situation, except getting
out of it.
And getting out of a toxic place is not a failure!
It is not a defeat or giving up.
It is a survival mechanism!
This isn’t your boss’s fault either, toxic people are just toxic, their life circumstances
made them like that.
5.
Stop expecting them to change.
Just as I mentioned before, certain things will make the situation more tolerable, but
don’t lower your guard.
Don’t fall into false hope, at any moment your boss will refocus their anger on you
again, and you are back to where you started.
We can apply insect repellent to keep the mosquitoes away, but the mosquitoes will still
be mosquitoes, they will bite you again when they can.
Your toxic boss was a toxic long before they appeared at your company, and they will continue
to be a toxic long after you’ve moved on.
It isn’t your responsibility or mission to convince them to change!
Or to help them see their errors!
Your responsibility is to survive!!!
6.
Learn to stop caring.
There will be other managers who will be leaders and examples for you professionally.
There will be future jobs that will require all the extra effort and late hours, travelling
and late meetings!
This is not one of those jobs!
This toxic boss and the toxic work environment does not require this effort.
No matter how responsible you are, no amount of work or working hours will make things
better anyway.
Stop caring and focus on your friends and family instead!
Treat such job as a way to keep your bills covered.
There will be time for a job which truly matters to you, right now, it doesn’t.
Treat it that way.
In conclusion I’d like you to Think Karma!
If you absorb the toxicity and transmit negativity yourself, you are likely to get even more
negativity in return.
Your boss will eventually get what is coming to them.
Focus on yourself, on getting your work done the way you can and on getting out of there
without looking back!
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