Hey!
It is Omar, founder of DepressonHero.com, where I show you how I overcame depression
naturally, without any antidepressants.
I think you can too if you apply the same techniques that I have learned.
Today we are going to talk about Valentines Day and depression in general around the holidays.
Do you know that 40% of people have negative feelings towards Valentines Day?
Yeah, it is true.
It is off the net, so it must be true, right?
Today you are going to learn about three things that you can do to watch out for it so you
can feel better and stop being a victim, stop being a Valentines Day victim, stop being
an expectations victim, and stop being a Hallmark holiday victim.
Stay tuned.
The
media magnification mirror moment what exactly is that?
It is like the media hypes and emphasizes and concentrates everything that you are supposed
to have to feel happy, how you are supposed to feel and how you are supposed to behave
in order to be happy.
When you realize that you do not necessarily have whatever it is that they are hyping,
you feel hopeless.
You feel like a loser.
You feel like you are not good enough.
You feel depressed because of all this hype.
This mirror that the media presents to you just reflects how you feel inside.
But it does not just reflect it to you.
It actually magnifies it.
It is like one of those arcade mirrors.
It makes everything bigger at every moment, because the moment actually does not end.
It is like this continuous moment because we are bombarded by marketing messages every
day, every moment.
I think it is like 5000 marketing messages a day.
You have all of this media hype to remind you of what you do not have, to remind you
of your misery.
You have these happy couples getting cards and gifts except you.
You have all these expectations around Valentines Day when you have all these people lovey-dovey
and you are not like that, or some other holidays that have memories associated with it.
It just reminds you of what you do not have.
Does this sound familiar?
Your inner reality is reflected back at you by this marketing media and the Hollywood
hype.
How you feel inside that is your inner reality, your beliefs about yourself, your fears, your
insecurities, your frustrations, your uncertainties, your doubts.
All of these are these black holes that you can fall into.
It is like you cannot get out of this thing, because what happens is you start to focus
only on these negative things – your fears of being alone for the rest of your life just
because of this one moment right now, the fear that you are not good enough because
you do not have a Valentines Day date or a present or a card or flowers or whatever.
Or you do not even have the hopes of getting a date or flowers or chocolate or whatever.
We have these beliefs that; I will always be alone because somehow I am flawed.
I am not worthy.
I am not beautiful or handsome enough.
I am not rich enough.
This belief that I am a loser.
You have these memories about; why did I not do x five or ten or 20 years ago?
This just beats up on our minds.
If only I had done x or y or something else.
This just shines the spotlight on your imperfections.
All of this gets reflected back at you through this holiday marketing because it is everywhere.
All these messages are everywhere.
You have this feeling of pain and vulnerability and you want to escape it.
What do you do?
You numb out.
That is what I did.
Numb out with chocolate, with drugs, alcohol, shopping.
At Valentines Day, all the chocolate is just a reminder of not fulfilling your New Years
resolutions.
I have actually gained weight since New Years.
Whatever is being reflected back at you by the media is related to your childhood beliefs
and conditioning.
A lot of this has to do with shame, the feeling that I or you are flawed, that there is something
wrong with you.
On Valentines Day or any holiday, you feel exposed.
You feel raw.
You feel like everybody around you knows that you are all alone, sad and under this dark
could of depression, comparing yourself with others, comparing yourself with this so-called
ideal standard that you see in magazines and movies.
It is just created by some Hollywood or advertising agency.
It is just there to stir things up for you and show you in your face how you are not
in the ideal.
If you are the ideal, then you are probably not watching this video.
For example, for Valentines Day, what really bothers you about Valentines Day?
What bothers me is all the overt and covert subliminal messages, what we are supposed
to be.
It is no different than any other holidays like Christmas.
You are supposed to do this, this and this.
When you are not this, this and this, then you are flawed.
The main message is, if you do not measure up to the Hollywood or Madison Avenue standard
or image of what you are supposed to be and to have, then you are a loser.
We are always focusing on comparing ourselves with this standard, focusing on comparing
what you do not have with what they have.
What do I have and what do they have?
Oh, I am not good enough.
I need to get that.
It highlights it.
It just emphasizes it.
It reiterates everything that you do not have because they are constantly causing you to
compare yourself to these other people, the standard.
When you do not have it, you do not have the skills to have what they have, you feel hopeless.
You feel bad because, as I mentioned, what we feel inside is reflected back to us, magnified.
It is in your face.
You cannot avoid it.
On Valentines Day, what is really being reflected back at you is your relationship issues.
It is like; I am all alone and I am always going to be alone.
That is how you compare yourself.
What can you do?
Do not be a victim.
If you are depressed, you have low energy, these negative thoughts, lots of sadness all
around, you have this belief that you are worthless, that the situation is hopeless
because you do not have the skills to get out of it, nobody has ever taught you these
things, then you are not going to feel attractive to anybody else, especially to yourself.
This is what is going to be reflected outside.
Most people do not have natural dating skills.
I did not.
No amount of learning dating techniques is going to help you.
What you have to deal with is what is causing the depression.
It is all inside.
You have to recognize when this victim behavior and belief and conversation starts in your
mind.
It is not just your mind.
It is your emotions and it is your body.
You have to become aware of these manipulative media magnification mirror moments that are
continuous.
You have to become aware of your own beliefs about yourself, your own fears, your own insecurities
and doubts.
You have to become aware of how you compare yourself to others and why you compare yourself
to others.
If you do not do these things, if you do not become aware, you are going to sink deeper
and deeper into the depression.
Once you realize what you are dealing with, with this awareness, then you can start to
take control of the depression and your love life, especially the love life with yourself
because that is where it all starts with.
It is all about awareness.
I realize that I was making the same mistakes over and over.
It is likely that you are making the same mistakes that I was making before I eventually
overcame the depression.
These are mistakes that are making or keeping you depressed.
I created a depression self-help course to help you identify and overcome those mistakes
like I did, by giving you specific exercises that empower you and help you see a new aspect
of your depression so that you can get your power back and not be a victim anymore.
Do you want to keep making the same mistakes over and over that are making or keeping you
depressed?
Of course not.
Nobody wants to do that.
The problem is nobody is showing you how to do that.
That is what I do.
Once you know what they are and once you know how to fight them, then you can change your
patterns and get your life back and be happy again and feel normal and have a relationship
with your family and friends.
Get the course now by clicking on the link below.
I look forward to seeing you on the inside.
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Finally, I really hope this Valentines Day will be an amazing new beginning for you.