responsibility is if I had to kind of
define it in a very short sentence would
be it's it's really people who are
serious and conscientious about keeping
commitments to others and doing things
right that that's kind of as brief as I
can do it it's I like to think about
responsibility as the ability and that's
in the in the word responsibility the
ability that people with responsibility
have is the ability to respond and it's
responding to other people and I find
and this is actually one of my signature
themes as well it's it's it's my number
one theme I think it's really about
people who and this is maybe more me I
like to be asked it's easier for me to
be asked by someone to do someone than
to ask I like to be asked to help as
opposed to asking people to help that's
that's harder for me to do that may be
part of it statistically this theme
falls in the executing domain and it
obviously is about how people get things
done and I think to some degree people
who have high responsibilities are
driven by their commitments to other
people so the promises that they make
the commitments that they make are kind
of key drivers to their to their
performance now I think conceptually
this theme could also fall in that
relationship-building domain because I
think there is an effect and a rate a
social kind of emotional effect to being
a conscious conscientious dependable
trustworthy person people tend to kind
of count on you and depend on you and
they're kind of so I think it
conceptually can fit in that
relationship building domain as well
some of the nouns that I think help to
define the the nature of this
responsibility theme these are owners I
often say they're owners not renters and
when you own something you take it more
seriously and so when they own a project
ona own
commitment they really take that pretty
seriously they are servants I think
there's a strong service orientation to
this thing when you think about the
ability to respond to other people's
requests or other people's needs there
is a strong service or almost customer
orientation so responder might be in
other words someone who is responsive a
responder may be maybe a bit more
reactive than proactive depending on
what are the themes you might have with
that I think there is a threat of
perfectionism in this theme and it's
really about people who want to do it
right and and right can be about kind of
qualitatively could be about that it
also can be about right with regards to
values kind of rightness and wrongness
there's a right way to do things there's
a wrong way to do things with regards to
almost some ethical implications to this
some some some adjectives that we might
use conscientious would be a word driven
I think driven people with
responsibility are driven just like
people with achiever driven they're
driven in slightly different ways but I
think responsibility might feel a lot
like achiever to other people I think
another important word is duty there is
a kind of a and maybe it's another word
would be should we should I should do
this because I said I would do this so
there's a kind of a shrewdness and and
so duty it also could be committed
sacrificial in fact sometimes I think
sometimes this kind of sacrificial part
of this particular thing can almost get
close to being martyrdom that may sound
like an extreme and I think sometimes
people can can be my wife will sometimes
use this phrase and when I'm not at my
best she will say you're kind of a
martyr if she doesn't mean that as a
compliment but it really
to do with this kind of sacrificial part
and I think that the challenge that
those of us who have responsibility have
is that we we sometimes say yes too
quickly because we like to respond to
people and so we say yes and we might
say so much that the the the commitments
that we make get to be so big that we
start to feels to some degree oppressed
by the commitments that we made and then
it becomes more about duty than joy in
fact that's how I kind of distinguish
raw responsibilities from what I would
call more mature responsibilities raw
responsibility feels external pressure
to do the right thing I mean to some
degree we are motivated externally and
so when someone asks us to do something
and we say yes so we feel external
pressure to some degree to say yes maybe
that'd be a better that raw
responsibility feels external pressure
to say yes I think mature
responsibilities feels internal pleasure
when saying yes it's when there's still
a sense of joy about doing what they
said we're gonna do it's more joy than
duty and I think that's the the
challenge there's some other themes that
I think could help to manage or regulate
responsibility and for example if
someone has Maximizer as one who easily
says yes this theme can help you discern
between a good better and best yes it's
it's actually a theme that helps me
become more aware of should I say yes or
no or it's not just yes or no sometimes
it's good better and best yes positivity
I think is a great theme to partner with
maybe you've got it inside you or maybe
you know another person that has
positivity because people with
responsibility since their owners they
they take things pretty seriously I
don't know if this is true of Clara not
but it's true of me
so serious-minded in conscientious you
will benefit from a partner who can
occasionally help you lighten up we can
be kind of heavy sometimes because we're
often kind of carrying a heavy
and that can kind of affect how we feel
and maybe how others feel around us
relator serving others can cause you to
neglect those closest to you this
partner might help you avoid such
neglect and then finally activator this
partner knows that doing something
imperfectly is always better than doing
nothing perfectly so an activator would
say don't sit around and wait until you
understand it so you can do it perfect
get started and you'll you'll find
perfection in the process rather than
waiting till it happens in terms of some
of the the data about responsibilities
it is really it is it really a frequent
theme in our database we've got about 29
percent of people have have it in their
top 5 so it's really quite a few it's
it's kind of tied with learner in second
place achiever is the number one most
frequent theme I think it's 32 or 33
percent learner and responsibility are
at 29% the theme that is most likely
paired with responsibility and this is
really makes quite a bit of set a sense
is achiever if you've got responsibility
you probably there's a good chance that
you might have achiever as well which
means I I want to get things my own
stuff done but I also want to kind of
get the stuff done that I make promises
to other people about the least likely
theme paired with responsibility is
command and and that has to do with the
fact partly I think that command is just
not very frequent in with most themes
but maybe there is some some difference
between those two
you