Stop thinking right now about narcissists.
I'm gonna give you five things.
Right now.
Yeah.
I know there are so many things that you're
thinking about in our success on
and on and on because you're
constantly defending yourself,
constantly under attack.
I've been there and I've seen it as a lawyer
helping people with narcissist too.
I'm a lawyer.
I'm also a narcissist negotiation expert.
My name is Rebecca Zung
and I've helped thousands
of people in cases.
Escape narcissistic abuse through my cases
and also through my SLAY programs
and I wanna help you too.
I've helped to people through this channel.
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I'm gonna tell you five things
to stop thinking about
narcissist right now
that you might be thinking
and I wanna help you stop that cycle.
So that you can move on so that
you can actually shift that dynamic,
start actually coming the more powerful one
when it comes to dealing with narcissists.
Whether you're dealing with
them in a personal relationship,
a business relationship,
a family relationship.
Did you know that narcissist are actually
15% of the population potentially.
We are actually becoming overrun
with them in the world right now
and if each one of those
people actually emotionally
views is just three people in their lifetimes.
That's actually 3.4 billion
people on the planet.
That's actually almost half
the people in the population
and I think that's actually low and
I mean, seriously,
the destruction that they cause in their wake is huge.
I think it's becoming an epidemic, really?
And so what I'm actually here doing is
I'm on this mission to help you guys
because I've actually been there myself.
I've had to deal with narcissists
in my personal life.
I know the drama, trauma
and chaos that they caused.
I've managed here with it
on a very very personal level.
I’ve helped people in my law practice
and through my coaching practice
and through my SLAY programs.
So that's why I'm out here giving
you all guys of free information
through my YouTube channel.
Every single day.
Alright.
So I'm gonna give you five things
to stop thinking about narcissist
and so you're gonna wanna
watch all the way till the
end because by the end of this video.
Hopefully, you'll have some really
really good tools to help you.
Alright?
So number one is
It's so hard because you
you just hold on to this thought
that maybe with some therapy,
maybe with the right person
or maybe they're not so bad.
Maybe they're not actually a narcissist.
Maybe they're not the one that you think.
I hope for your sake that may be the case
but honestly, If you see all the signs,
then they're probably what you think
and I saw this great meme recently,
they said, you know,
the minute you're on the
web googling their behavior,
it's probably a really big red flag
that there is probably a problem.
Right?
So if you are out there thinking that you're
gonna be able to be the one to change them,
you're probably better off looking
for a plan to exit and protect yourself
and figure out how you're gonna
live your life in a different way.
That's my thought.
So number one is that you're gonna be
able to change them stop thinking that
because they're probably not
gonna be able to be rehabilitated.
That's number one
and by the way,
when the when the discard phase comes,
you do become public enemy number one
and they start going after you
and making you the crazy one and starts
smearing you all over the place
and and if you are having to
deal with false allegations. I
do have a whole video on
how you deal with narcissist’s false allegations
and you'd probably wanna check that out.
Number two
They just don't
and it's so and satisfying.
It's all unsatisfying that you're over there trying
to get them to acknowledge
what you've done for them.
The things that you've accomplished for them.
The things that you've contributed to them,
or the feelings that you have.
They're just not going to do that.
Stop trying to get them too.
They don't have that capacity.
It's like trying to get them to
grow and arm if they don't have one
that just doesn't exist for them.
Stop trying to get them to do that.
Really.
You're gonna get more satisfaction out
of banging your head against a brick wall.
You’re not gonna do it.
That's number two.
Number three
There's literally something different
in their brains when they
were formed as children they were,
you know, in that fight or flight mode.
So often something happened that caused
them to be in survival mode
so much that their brains were literally
bathed in chemicals and caused them to be
like the emotional growth
that did not take place
and so they are just not where
you are more than likely
and so they're just not able to feel
that real remorse that you
want them to be able to feel
and you need to stop trying
to get them to do that.
It's not gonna happen.
Alright?
So that's number three.
Number four
You know, stop thinking.
Are you gonna be friends?
And and everybody's gonna
wrap it up in a nice way
and yes, you contributed this
and I contributed this and let's be friends
and I want you to move on to
and it's just not gonna where
we walk off into the sunset
and I wish you well and I wish you well too.
You know, when I was wrapping up with a
what turned out to
be a narcissistic business partner.
I really, really try very hard
to have it be that way
and you know, they just cannot help themselves
from making it into a scorched earth thing.
They're just so hurt their whole
narcissistic injury thing.
They're seeing their narcissistic supply
walking out the door.
They don't like it and they've
got to posture themselves
and so they're gonna make it into a thing,
and and they can't help themselves
and so you just gotta say to yourself.
I'm moving on.
And so I want you to put that in the comments right now.
‘‘I’M MOVING ON!’’
And that's what you're gonna do.
You're gonna create your own new life
and that's gonna be
so much better for you and
you know, wish them well.
Wish them well,
but there's nothing more that you can do.
Alright?
So stop thinking that you're gonna
get real closure because you're not
and the last one is
Boy, if I had you know,
a dollar for every time.
Somebody said that to me,
you know, please they want you to believe that.
They've conditioned you to
believe that is so not true.
Everyone thinks
that narcissists
are so powerful that you can never win
against narcissists that
why bother it's not true.
Absolutely not true.
I know that with the right tools
with the right understanding
of how narcissist think
absolutely can win every every single time.
I have figured out the way,
so if you are dealing with the narcissist.
Make sure to grab my free
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and remember that today is a great day
to start negotiating your best life.
The only one if you give in.
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You absolutely can do this,
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So thank you and I will see you guys
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