escapism of porn is in the past transformation is in the present and the future
i'm dr trish lee let's talk about this today for your monday motivation okay so this
porn brain reboot that we're doing together is a transformational process it's incredibly personal
and very powerful if you can see it for what it is so let's talk about that today number one i'm
going to tell you what i mean about escapism being in the past and transformation being the present
and the future then number two we'll talk about what happens to your brain performance when you
undergo this transformation and then number three i'm going to give you your brain tip for the day
the tools that you need to succeed in your porn brain reboot transformation so let's dig in number
one what do i mean by the escapism of porn is in the past transformations happening now and it's
happening for you in the future so the reason that you go back to the screen is because your brain
is pushing you there it's pushing you towards the screen so that you can escape the pain or
the discomfort from the past or that you're creating and perpetuating in your present
and we'll get there in a minute we're going to stay in the past for a second
we know that a porn cycle is built on shame of feelings and arousal at the time of finding porn
escaping feelings that you had or thought you had in childhood that are still lingering in your
nervous system so let me expand upon that what happens to most people is that at a very young age
they are feeling discomfort because of some challenge in their life that can be a family
situation it can be bullying it can be not feeling adequate for girls or boys or whoever in the world
it can be low self-esteem it can be social anxiety it can be just shame around sexuality because most
of us aren't taught how to engage in healthy sexuality and i have a playlist on that coming
soon so you can look for it because that is the next step when you leave porn behind you have
to figure out how to have healthy sexuality in your life and i'm here for that but i digress
so when we are ashamed about sexuality and then especially when you feel arousal when you see
pornography for the first time and we know the science shows that most people are shown
pornography by somebody else or they find it on accident at a very young age too young of an age
and it's at an age where your brain responds at this hyper speed to what you've just consumed
on accident and what happens is your brain gets linked to pornography in the screen neurologically
because of this huge dopamine release now this is what it did for you in childhood and likely is
still doing for you the dopamine release provides a flood of good feeling throughout your brain
and your body and it's the polar opposite of what you're experiencing in the world
the pain or the discomfort of reality in childhood or now is being offset by this neurological flood
that helps you escape those uncomfortable feelings it's used as a mood regulation tool and we know
that from the porn addiction quiz and how do i know if i have a porn problem videos that i
just made so what happens is we know that so many people are using it to alter their mood
they have uncomfortable feelings or they feel stressed out or they feel bored and then they
go to pornography to get this flood of dopamine that remember is frying out the reward center
in your brain creating under activity in your frontal lobe shrinking your brain size
nothing good comes from it but let's stick to what we're talking about
we're soothing those feelings through going to the screen at the same time pornography is a
super normal stimulus it is pulling you back to the screen when the discomfort gives you a push
that's dangerous a push and a pull means it's going to be difficult for you to break this habit
so that is what the escapism into pornography is doing for you that's the past you're not
going to need it anymore because the brain pattern that needs it is one that's existing
out here in the extremes of too much extra fast speed and too much slow speed and these
speeds out in the extreme make your brain want to go back for calming and for stimulation but
when you heal your brain by number one no longer consuming pornography your brain starts to make
more of perfect processing speed in the middle and what that speed does is it makes you feel calm
and focused all the time so you don't need to escape so in this porn brain reboot transformation
we need to get you from a the brain that needs to be soothed to be the brain that doesn't need to be
soothed that's how you succeed for the long haul how do we do that we create this optimal brain
pattern of perfect processing speed by number one adiosing those dis comfortable feelings from the
past by resolving them you can't just go okay they're gone or a lot of people one person said
this to me it really resonated with me i've tucked that in the back of my brain you can't
talk experiences and uncomfortable feelings in the back of your brain without them rotting
back there we know that when you do that it locks your brain up it creates neural rigidity
of the brain pattern that wants to be calmed and stimulated of the brain pattern that wants to be
soothed so you have to release those feelings and thoughts based upon those experiences the past
is in the past we know that when you experience those emotions by remembering past experiences you
basically create the same neurological event as when it happened that's how ptsd or chronic ptsd
lingers around in your brain by resolving them and letting them go and there's techniques to do that
and it's best to do that with a trained professional but there's techniques to resolve
those experiences let them go free your brain up which moves us to the present in the present
you can use your life and every moment of your life as a transformational experience
so so many people ask me when they join the porn brain reboot program how much time is this going
to take me and i'm like the videos and the learning takes 15 minutes and you're going
to incorporate that into your life but it's not going to tax your nervous system you're going to
nuance how you're living your life for the better so it's going to become a new better lifestyle not
necessarily something you're working on that's why i always say the work you know the work's there
for you to do and you'll heal but i don't love the term work because it's not work once you get
engaged in it it's transformation it happens in the present moment and i need to share this with
you you're already doing it you're here with me in these videos you are already in a transformational
process and that's how transformation happens you don't really feel it until you gain some
momentum in traction and that's what i'm here for that's what i'm trying to help you do
is gain the momentum in traction that you need to be able to feel the transformation happening but
every time you come back to one of my videos you are in a transformational process you can do it
and you will do it if you want to stay committed to it you are doing it you're already doing it
so transformation happens in the present and guess what it does for you it creates
the version of yourself that you want to be in the future but you have to identify that version first
you have to know what it is so you can't you know shoot an arrow without having a target
when you're playing darts you can't get a bullseye unless you know what your bullseye is
so you have to identify the identity that you want to be which is part of my porn brain reboot
program you have to figure out what you want your persona or personality to be that can be defined
and created by you if your experiencing anything in your life that you don't want or you don't like
you have control over that i know most people don't think they do you're creating your own
life you're the creator and if you don't like it it's time to create something else and this
process this transformational process is going to do it for you and i'm here to help you do that
so set your sights on what you want to create in the future and let's make it happen so how do you
get there how do you get from a to b you have to change something make a plan so resolve the
discomfort that's number one if you can figure it out many people can't but if you can figure it out
that's the way through figure out the discomfort of the past and the discomfort in the present
and change something get rid of them change your routines in the present to become the new version
of you the number one thing you can do is fill the times when you used to watch pornography
with something that is good for your brain and it's dopamine producing that's a good hack to help
you be successful then keep going stay the course change something and if you have a slipper or
relapse change something else you can do this you will do it if you want to and you're already doing
it so keep going and if you want help on this journey please reach out to me at drtrishley.com
i have a beautiful program that is designed to serve you it is created and built on neuroscience
all the pieces are proven clinically effective and i have put my heart and soul into it to be able to
help you in a comprehensive beginning to finish program that can help you through in 90 days
so go check it out and as always remember control your brain or it'll control you