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speaking anxiety and depression and
different things living with either
anxiety or depression may be very heavy
to carry on and it leaves you with
negative feelings feeling worthless
feeling not enough most of the time all
of us will have this thought am I
depressed why am I just feeling
depressed it's two different things
let's have the thought of that
and usually it's very common for us to
be confused by it some of the times we
think they're depressed but if we just
feelings that that's all about it even
feels bad from time to time from getting
a bad grade losing a job having an
argument or even a rainy day can bring
feeling of sadness and sometimes there's
no trigger at all it just pops out out
of the blue depression can have lot of
different symptoms such as loss of
interest in things changes in appetite
feeling worthless loss of energy and
even thoughts of suicide
based on psychiatric guidelines in fact
if you have a list of those you qualify
for depression diagnosis
being a teenager is not easy let's be
honest we have we need to fulfill our
parents expedition I will relate this
expedition during gathering family
gathering does that even make sense you
have to be ready see you later
but that's the thing let me just narrow
it down let's see what we've been
brought up since young that a is the
only acceptable grade in the family if
you don't get a you're a disgrace if you
get a 99 for exam
and you go tell our parents hey mom I
got 99 the next thing you'll be able to
yeah is why did you get a hundred ready
two one mark go and let's say you fail
to do so what happens next
a man T dotted it better than you la
what's this my neighbor did better than
you
your cousin did better than you what are
you doing in school
that's a waste and the next thing is
paper PJ is you're a disgrace to the
family but however in recent times
something is hopefully becoming more
easier in Asia is talking about
depression depression is no longer a
word that you whisper year to year
tweets and Instagram have got people
declaring that they suffer from
depression most of the time we
experience depression behind a curtain
but for me
depression is no longer worth that I am
sure describing a person's experience
online it became something very close to
me when my friend and sister went
through so let me tell you a story let's
just they keep let it sink in you a 12
year old girl is going through
depression one fine day I got a call for
my sister
Chaz every brother was like a sister to
call a hi how are you but the first
thing I had was chaos I feel like dying
I am so fed up with my life if you were
in my situation what will you do
well I was done I didn't exactly know
what to reply our spire I just came back
from school but I just took a deep
breath and I believe my legs were
actually saved a life what I said Oh
Lord I love you tell me what stop and
I'll try to answer my best to help you
two hours of constant talking I thought
okay done finally I don't have to go
through it again
she's fine she'll be okay but the next
day I got a call again it was the same
exact words that I heard yes I want to
die
at first the old girl saying she wants
to die where has the society gone to
every time when I meet her she'll rest
the head on my shoulder and cry Arzo
keep in mind that this is the girl
that's always happy that always laughs
at lame jokes and no one will even laugh
- she'll be starting our conversation
she'll be the first one on the dance
floor during family gathering she loves
dancing to be honest she can dance to
any samba Giver during family gatherings
should be the first one on the floor and
she'll dance all the way till end
without dusting and all of us will look
at her laughs being smiling
starting conversations but deep down she
was having suicidal thoughts will have
anyone ever thought of that
over the months that she was depressed
she slipped her hand Nick very close to
her this she stuffed herself she locked
herself in the room she didn't come out
for two days
her parents thought she was sleeping she
didn't eat and she fainted one day
brought her to the clinic we water the
claim and it was because she didn't eat
properly
today she is 15 and she's still not over
depression she's still feeling it here
and there but is better that's my sister
sorry my friend my friend one is a bit
different it did not really affected him
it affected everyone around him so
this friend I used to go futsal with him
I'll go to shopping center with him and
go to tuition centre with him and good
fishing together with him all the time
he'll be laughing we'll be talking
nonsense story
we'll be just having fun we'd be
discussing on ideas and between school
together we'll be coming back from
school together but one fine day we got
a call from his parents yes he's
admitted in hospital is in dies you can
you come us like ok why when there she
was fighting for his life he slit his
wrists at the moment I thought I was
going to lose my best friend his parents
thought they're going to lose his one
and only son why is it that we have been
there with him all the way but I've
never heard him tell us his problem he
has never heard him telling us anything
like I not okay help me that was the day
that I found out depression is fired
- I will go on with my studies I am NOT
here to simply tell you about my story
I'm here to bring depression out of her
darkness into the light where people
across the globe can talk about it where
the percent affected can get the help
that they need one of the ways to help a
person let's go into depression is to
talk about it
just like a superhero taking on a
villain want the winds to take on
depression is to have conversations
operator why not start talking about it
now depression in our society is not
obvious when you're simply walking down
the hallway simply walking down the
street and be walking down the corridor
simply open your laptops are you in a
smartphone even a smartphones now and do
maybe one bill sense and be blown away
from my one Google search I found out
that at least 10 times more people are
suffering or are suffering from major
depression than in 1945 and you guys
know kasher
can I get a show of hands who thinks
that male are more likely to get
depressed
and it's good but the fact is women's
are three times more likely to get
depressed because of over constant
overthinking not a male do not wait but
it's just that there was about 200,000
pitches videos text posts on social
medias which was which contain images
hurting themselves due to depression is
it because now that we have greater
technology oh great technology to
express our feelings how is it something
greater is there something to it are
they seeking out for help or is this the
way that they ask for help is it just a
coincidence that school systems and
paths are getting harder college
acceptance rates are going down this
were still see on the slide
Dean Dean's List internship assignment
job with a high salary these words are
the exact words that haunts every single
student wasn't it only a few months ago
we were putting one of our backpacks
carrying our textbooks going to school
with our friends and just having fun
what do you mean I am responsible for my
future I don't even know what am I going
to do after I graduate I don't even know
where's my career path I don't even see
myself anywhere in five years so how am
I to take on the responsibility Howard
teenagers supposed to take on their
responsibilities
is it possible that be the society
distance responsible for the increase of
an illness that's capable of key and the
worst part is we don't talk about it
much because it's deem effaced seeking
attention or just being away motion
depression is not the emotion sadness
sadness is just an emotion that comes
and goes just as happiness does my
biggest pet peeve is when someone come
up comes up to me and says hey man sorry
I was just so depressed earlier amen and
just so depressed right now what do you
mean by a so depressed right now
depression does not come and go it stays
there you guys don't know one fun fact
suicide because of depression is the
number one reason of deaths among
teenagers in Asia why aren't we talking
about it why isn't there any awareness
around me being around depression is an
illness like that sinking there is no
shame in it let's get real here this is
happening in real life and in real life
people get depressed
I know half of us here likes to play
game and you know in the game once you
die you can reset do you think they do
that with life can you reset your life
exactly so take decisions properly
before team properly before taking
decisions you can't decide your life in
like games
once your life is gone it's gone forever
for my friend it has taken him two years
to overcome depression or my sister says
and welcome depression she still
intuitive so I stand here right now
asking you the same really Christine I
asked myself when I saw my friend
fighting for his life in the ICU why why
aren't we doing anything to prevent this
from happening
it became my personal mission to search
and find out more about how to prevent
or what can be done to prevent it but
let's be honest I can't do it alone I
can't I can't win alone but together
together as one we can fight this
disease that is controlling a lot of us
and if you're out there and you're
dealing with depression turn that energy
to energy for a change because together
we can fight back and we can't let it
mean
we can't let depression win anymore it's
time to fight back so you can ask me how
do we help someone with depression
firstly we can help someone by just
understanding them what do I mean by
understanding them understand that it is
normal it is normal for them to go
through this and it happens to most
people if they are reaching out to you
it means that they don't want to be
alone they trust you they literally
depend on you they rely on you so that
you can help them no one here likes
being alone am i right so what why do
people it depression tend to be alone
because they can't deal with people
constantly pushing them down constantly
telling they are not good constantly
telling them firstly bringing them down
so let's say if your friend or loved one
or family members are going through
depression let it encourage you to pop
by their house to give them a call to
just check on them whenever you're free
it does not cost any money second
the second is to support them in the
decision of getting help even if it's in
the beginning stage and you don't even
know very easy really going through
depression just support them all the way
be with them tell them they will do all
right having support from family and
friends and be very helpful and is the
most important thing for someone going
through depression and however you can
help them do help them in making the
decision it will mean a lot for them if
they will mean the world to them if you
can help them and be with them
throughout because no one wants to be
hurting throughout the entire life it
sucks to her it does not give good
feeling
how to help yourself if you have
depression it's very simple is this only
two ways one is to understand that it is
normal to get depression understand that
it happens I do understand that your
worth is you are not worthless
you are brought into this world for
specific purpose find out what is it
lift will enjoy your life do hobbies go
out with a friend second is to seek help
reach out to a friend that you believe
the most one can even reach out your
parents or loved ones just tell em what
are you going through tell them I'm
having a rough day
I'm feeling worthless I feel I'm not
enough I feel I'm over it I feel like
I'm underweight
they will help you that's why they are
therefore do not think you're alone you
have support all around
many hide the fact that they have
depression but the truth is you can't
hide it for long
how long till you burst up everyone has
a breaking point but that's okay don't
be ashamed of yourself they they are
people out there who understand you
there is love for you they are people
who are supporting you all the way
religion if you or a loved one is having
symptoms of depression please seek help
talk to your doctor up to your friend up
to your lecturer just talk to anyone or
anyone even me and always be there if
your friend or family members is showing
signs of depression talk to them let
them know you are always there for them
listen to what they say about how are
they feeling do not interact with your
feelings listen to them throughout let
them know that you're always there give
them that opportunity to feel loved all
I have to say is you have a way out you
can heal and I'm sure you get better
just remember this word oh oh does not
only mean hoping for change
it means : penance
thank you very much
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