- [Adam] Talking, something
that usually comes very naturally
to most people when meeting other people.
Unless that person you're talking to is a guy
that you, sexy single ladies, are attracted to.
Then, that conversation tends to go to shit.
And, suddenly, all of your smooth, sexy, confident ways,
they just go right out the window
and you are left with nothing to say.
So I put together a frame work that you can use
anytime you're going out, whether it's a singles event,
whether it's a bar or a party,
wherever you are meeting guys, you can use this
to talk to guys and really engage with a very fun,
flirtatious conversation, keep watching.
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Hey there, Adam LoDolce with sexyconfidence.com
where I help the 21st century women create a love life
that she absolutely freaking loves.
And this video is all about helping you,
sexy single ladies, talk to men.
Now maybe, you're just sick and tired of having
awkward moments with men, or maybe you just wanna be that
smooth, sassy, sexy, confident lady
that you know you can be.
Well, if you wanna be that lady,
you are in the perfect place because I have five things
that you can keep in mind
whenever you go out there and talk to men.
Number one, don't be afraid to tease him a little bit.
A lot of times, when you go out and you're meeting people
that you're attracting to and I used to be guilty of this,
when I would go out and meet women,
is that when you're talking to someone
you're attracted to, or someone you like,
you tend to be just very nice to that person,
that's part of just human behavior, right?
You wanna be nice to people
and then if you're nice to someone,
they're usually nice in return.
Now that usually works when it comes to all other type of
social norms but when it comes to dating,
that is not always necessarily the truth.
We all know the nice guy definitely finishes last,
but sometimes the nice girl also finishes last.
So be sassy, tease him a little bit,
call him out if he's trying to be like, too smooth
or too cool to impress you, call him out.
Or challenge him when you feel like
he's kinda bullshitting a little bit.
By challenging him and teasing him a little bit,
you are subconsciously, or sometimes even consciously,
raising your value in his mind
because if you're willing to tease him,
you're willing to challenge him,
the chances are, he's gonna be like,
damm that is the type of girl
that I wanna work hard to be with.
Number two, don't be afraid to give him some compliments.
Now, humans are generally, pretty bad
at complementing one another and I think when it comes
to dating, a lot of women are very scared
to compliment a guy, many times
because my previous point right?
They don't want to be too easy,
they don't wanna be too available,
but so long as you are kind of teasing him,
poking fun at him like when I talked about
in the first part of this video,
then it's also very useful to compliment him, right?
Like kind of tease him a little bit but then,
also compliment him, and it's like,
kind of the push, pull here in the conversation
and really leaves a man kinda
yearning for you as the conversation continues.
So give him that compliment, if he does something nice,
if he buys you a drink, if he does
something out of the norm, then give him
that validation that he needs.
Sometimes, a lot of guys need that,
just that little piece of validation to know,
you know what? She's into me.
Number three, keep it mysterious.
He doesn't need to know your entire life story
within the first 20 minutes of meeting you.
There have been so many women in my life
that I've gone out on a first date with
or I've met out at night, and I literally feel like
I have the whole story, like I know everything
about everything, I mean their lives within meeting them
cuz they want to share that and I understand that,
that is something that we wanna do
because, you know, for talking to someone out at night
at a party, at a bar, on a date,
we feel like, the more we can share with that person,
the more they're going to like us,
but at the same token, it's great to leave a little bit
kinda hanging, be that mysterious person,
be that type of person that he has to go out with you again
to learn more, like you want him to have that feeling
like he's not getting the full picture
but he wants to know more, everything he sees, he likes,
and the more that he sees you,
the more that he gets like, the full picture.
You don't want him to have that full picture
within those first five minutes.
Number four, is feel free to express
your passion when you're talking to him.
Are you passionate about something?
Is there something that really gets you excited?
And it could be as weird as Jessica's passion
which is, she loves monkeys and you get her talking
about monkeys, yes I said monkeys,
you get her talking about monkeys or an orangutan,
oh my gosh, she's going to light up.
It's true, it could be as weird as that,
but quite frankly, chances are, most of you,
sexy single ladies, aren't as weird as Jessica is,
but you probably do have a passion
and it could be something amazing, could be cooking,
it could be a hobby that you could have,
or it could your work, whatever it is,
feel free to express it with emotion, right?
Let that motion shine through in conversation,
be excited about your life and be excited about,
at least the positive things that are going on
in your life because that can be incredibly sexy
and it can the type of thing
that really draws a man into that conversation.
And finally, practice, practice, practice.
Come getting better at talking
to people is all about practice.
And if you find that you're a little bit shy
or you have very little practice
when it comes to meeting guys, definitely go out a lot,
take time out of your week to be able to go out
and meet men, whether is in places like,
social events, or even online, it's very worthwhile
to do that and also, if you want kind of a fun way
to practice chatting with guys,
and having conversations with a guy,
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I'd love to hear from you ladies in the comments below,
what conversational technique are you going
to start using when you go out there and talk to men?
And finally, of course, head on over to sexyconfidence.com
cuz I have a ton of more amazing resources
that will help you through every single stage
of dating, relationships and finding love.
Thank you so much for watching
and I'll speak to you, you sexy single lady,
next week, bye bye.