There's something I want to teach you today.
It's so powerful and such a shame that most guys are not tapping into this and I do not
blame you because what I'm going to be teaching today is something very counterintuitive to
the process of getting a woman interested in you or attracted or even turned on.
Most guys are not thinking on this level.
Like I said, it's counterintuitive.
Most guys are thinking on the whole other level, which is what's causing a lot of problems
with getting women interested and also keeping women interested.
Today, what I'll be teaching you is how to become a challenge to a woman.
A lot of guys think the opposite.
They want to be available.
They want to be there.
They want to be ready for whenever the woman is ready, so they can hang out, spend time
together, get to know each other, etc.
But being too available, being too accommodating and not being a challenge actually turns a
woman off.
I know what a lot of guys are thinking and I bet you there's some women watching this
video too.
What you're probably thinking is, this sounds gamey, this sounds manipulative, this sounds
inauthentic.
Here's the thing... you never want to be too available, always there, not a challenge because
that I believe is also inauthentic and very gamey.
What I want to do with this video, my goal is to push you a little bit more on the other
side of things.
Because right now most likely you're over here.
Available, ready, easy going, nice guy, un-opinionated.
I want to push you a little bit further.
It's not like you have to be on the other end of things where you're a completely a
challenge to her and you're an asshole or you're completely pushing her away.
No, what we do is we want to strike a balance.
In order to strike a balance, you have to be a little bit more of a challenge.
The good news is, is it's probably already inside of you.
Meaning you are afraid to be a challenge because you're afraid to lose her.
A lot of guys fear losing a girl so they provide no challenge whatsoever and instead, like
I said too available, which ends up being very unattractive because it's too needy.
And we'll go deeper into that.
Just understand that that's one of the reasons why it's so important to learn how to be more
of a challenge.
And yes, it is very effective with every single woman that you meet.
Like I said, if you become more of a challenge (and I'll be giving you examples on how to
do that) it's going to be easier to get women attracted to you and you're going to be able
to more consistently meet women and get them interested, which I'm sure is what you want.
First of all, why does this work so well?
Why is it so powerful when you're more of a challenge?
Here's the thing, people want what they can't have so if you're not as available or they
see that you're being challenging in order to get them interested, if she says "wait,
I don't know if this guy is interested or not, I can't really tell.
I'm not sure."
What happens is she feels like she's not sure if she can have you.
Therefore your value starts to go up.
People want what they can't have.
People want what they can't have access to.
You become more exclusive.
There's something about you that's more interesting because it's not so easy to get.
I know, wish it wasn't that way.
This is human nature.
It's just how it is.
But again, too available, too easygoing, everything's easy, then attraction diminishes.
Also, value goes up (and this is basic economics) value goes up when things are scarce, supply
and demand.
If there is a high supply, there's little demand.
Low supply, high demand.
Meaning if you're not so available, and again, I know this is like, wait, what does all this
mean?
We're going to get into that.
But if you are not challenging enough to her, then what this is saying is oh, this is easy
to get, this is nothing special, this person doesn't have value and they're going to see
you in a totally different way.
I know again, sounds kind of gamey, sounds kind of weird.
But if we tap into this, it will be more natural once you do it.
Other reasons why this is so powerful is because people like to win.
We like to win.
We want to be able to win someone over.
When we do that it feels good.
We want a little bit of that chase.
Not too much where it's too extreme but just a little bit.
And that's what I'm trying to teach you on this video.
To be more challenging so we can get you a little bit over on this side of this spectrum
here.
If you're over here, so nice guy, not challenging at all, I just want to move you over a little
bit so you become more valuable, way more powerful.
I know you're ready for this.
You want some more examples.
How do you be more of a challenge?
How does this work?
You understand the theory and why it's so important.
But how do you do it?
In no specific order, let me give you some examples of how you can implement this when
you're dating a woman, when you're meeting a woman and when you use it, you'll see how
it works so well.
Again, in no order, here's the first one.
Don't reply to text messages right away.
Here's the thing.
I know again, this might sound kind of gamey, like you're looking at your text, and you
see it and you're like oh man, I'm just gonna wait now this is weird.
This is unnatural.
Really, hopefully, you are busy.
You are productive.
You are doing life instead of attached to your phone and looking at every single text
message that comes in.
Hopefully you can eventually tap into this naturally and naturally you're not gonna be
looking at your phone the second she texts you and feel like you have to respond right
away.
Instead, hopefully you look at your phone and she's texted you 30 minutes ago and then
boom.
You got your phone, you see the text, and then you can respond.
But you don't need to be texting back right away all the time.
I want to try to help you here and build you into a better person.
Hopefully it's not just me saying this to you and you go okay, the second I see that
text come in, I'm going to wait 30 minutes.
No, don't have your phone by you.
Do something better than looking at your phone all the time.
Of course, it might just happen the time you're looking at your phone, she does text you.
Well then yes, wait a little bit.
Wait a little bit so at least it seems like you're doing something that's not just you
waiting to text her back.
Don't respond right away and make sure that you're keeping busy.
Next this is not in any particular order so just bear with me as we jump around a little
bit.
When you start to date a girl and it gets more serious, only see her once, twice at
the maximum per week.
Distance creates desire and so what I want you to do is make sure that you're always
(remember what I said earlier a lot) not too available.
If you're too available all the time then it's going to be like wow, it's easy to meet
up with him and I can meet up with him whenever I want and he's never busy and there's nothing
that interesting going on in his life because he can always hang out with me.
So hopefully (and again this is not when you're in a monogamous relationship) hopefully if
you're in a dating scenario, you are only seeing her once at the most, twice per week
because you're dating other women because you're figuring out which women are going
to be the ones that are going to stick around that you actually want to be with if you are
looking for a relationship.
Once a week to create that distance so she gets excited to see you again.
I know it's not necessarily your being a challenge, but it will be challenging for her to see
you because she's not able to do it all the time, especially if she likes you.
This is going to put attraction to a whole other level.
If she likes you and she can only see you once a week, she's gonna like you that much
more.
This is like hard to get, remember like I said earlier so you understand this now.
People want what they can't have and they want to win.
We have a desire to win something or win someone over.
Keep it to a minimum when you're dating somebody.
Here's another big one, big, big, big.
When you're texting with a girl, you don't want to be texting all day long.
I'm working with clients and they're showing me all these text messages with the girls
that they're talking to and they're not asking for a date.
They're just sitting there texting back and forth or maybe they do have a date set up
and in between the date they're texting, texting, texting.
Again, what is this?
This is you being too available.
You're too available because you're always there on time and it doesn't make her that
much more excited to see you.
Yes of course it does because you guys when you're texting aren't in front of each other.
But still, she knows everything that's going on, you guys have been connected all this
stuff.
Guys think, well don't I have to text you to keep things going or keep attraction alive?
Listen at the point of this video, texting has only been around for the past 20 years
if that.
What was happening before that?
It's not like people were on the phone all the time before a date was set up.
Don't worry.
If she likes you, if she's attracted to you, she'll want to see you again.
If because you guys didn't text that much and your date is five days away and then she
flakes out and you'll never know the real reason.
But maybe that reason is because you guys didn't keep up with texting and some other
guy swept off her feet.
Goodbye.
Who cares?
Let her go.
Doesn't matter.
It should not be still you trying to text girls all the time.
Because if you're doing with one girl, you're going to do it with another girl.
Don't be available.
Be busy.
Only use texting meet up and that's it.
No chit chat.
Here's another one.
I want you to never buy her stuff (unless it's appropriate, I'll come back to that)
and I never want you to be complimenting her.
This is what I mean.
You're not gonna buy her gifts.
It's different if you pay for a date.
That's not what I mean.
I'm talking about buying her things, giving her objects, giving her things just for the
sake of it.
If it's her birthday, different story.
If you're in a relationship and you guys have been in it for a while and once in a while
you want to get her a nice gift or treat her to something, that's fine.
But keep it to a minimum because you don't want to be buying her love and buying her
attention.
Mainly this tip is for someone who's not in the relationship quite yet, but I want to
be very clear here.
It's not like you get into a relationship and you start buying her all this shit.
That's not what you do.
You want to make sure you keep that to a minimum so you can let her know that this is not a
relationship where you're going to be giving her stuff.
This is going to show a little bit of desperation.
It's going to be obvious, like oh you're just buying your stuff here because you want her
attention.
And giving her too much of that attention is not being enough of a challenge.
Same idea with complimenting.
What I mean here by complimenting is saying nice things to her in terms of oh you look
beautiful today.
You're amazing, you're this or that.
Whatever compliment, use it when you actually mean it and do it very infrequently.
If you compliment too much, the compliments start to have no meaning whatsoever.
It becomes white noise and they're not special and it feels like you're just doing that to
what?
To get it to like you, to get that attention.
So stop it as much as you can.
Every once in a while it's not going to be a bad thing.
In fact, I think every once in a while it can be very powerful.
But don't overdo it.
Don't say and especially by the way, no compliments over text.
If you want use a compliment and have it be its most powerful, it should be in person
and every once in a while.
Don't be over validating her.
That's what I'm saying here.
Buying stuff, complimenting.
It's over validation, it's overkill.
That my friend is way more manipulative and way more try hard and way more desperate than
not doing it.
Only do it if you really mean it and do it very seldomly.
Another way of being a challenge is don't divulge everything about yourself when you
first meet her.
A lot of guys get super vulnerable super quick and they want to just share their deep dark
secrets about all the things that they've gone through in their life and what they're
feeling and this and that.
This is something I believe should be slowly dripped from the day you meet her to if you're
in a relationship to getting married over time.
This is not something where you just dump all this stuff on her and let her know everything
about you.
Why, because this is what she wants.
She wants to know all this stuff.
But people want what they can have.
So if you're not telling her every little thing about you, it creates a little bit more
of a mystery and keeps things a little more interesting as you go on.
So don't be divulging every single thing to her.
You want to remain a little bit of a mystery.
I know this sounds crazy, but trust me women wants to be attracted to you.
They want that.
You're doing her a favor by not divulging everything about yourself on the first date,
second date or when you first start dating.
Drip it a little bit over time so she's slowly gets to know you.
But too much information then things become boring.
She knows everything about you.
It doesn't become interesting anymore and things fall flat.
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And as far as this video goes what's the next step for you besides checking out the Irresistible
Academy?
I gave you a lot of how to's.
I gave you a lot of different things that you need to do to become more challenging.
It can be overwhelming for some people.
If I were you pick one of these and drill it.
For the next month pick one of these things and make sure that you are sticking to it
so it becomes more habitual.
Doing all this at once can be very overwhelming.
Pick one, stick to it, see how it goes and then when you finish that go to the next one
and the next one and so forth.
You can rewind this video, take some notes, write them all down, and then get into it.
Hope this helps.
Hope to see you in the Irresistible Academy.
I'll see you on the next video.