If you're a highly sensitive person then you'll know that you experience
the world a lot differently than most people
highly sensitive people make up only about 20%
of the population and I think because we are in the minority
it's so important for us to develop rituals and practices that can help us
fit into the rest of the world so that we don't conform but that we can
actually deal with the overstimulation and the
overwhelm that happens to us as a result of our high
sensitivity so in this video today I want to share
with you my five top habits which I have
developed ever since I discovered that I was a highly sensitive person
and this has really empowered me and I want to share them with you
with the intention that it can empower you as well and it can really support
you to step into this ability of your highly
sensitive nature if this is the first time that you're
watching one of my videos welcome my name is Tertia and on this channel I
make videos about spiritual awakening I talk about the law
of attraction I share energy healing tools and I also
have guided meditations now I found out that I was a highly sensitive person
probably about five years ago and during this time
I was feeling really overwhelmed with everything in my life and
I was a new mother and there was just so much
things happening to me and I was tired all the time
and I just felt overstimulated and it felt like my skin was on fire because I
just had my nerve endings you know were running all the
time and then when I found out about the research that was done by
Dr Elaine Aron on high sensitivity it was a huge light bulb moment for me
but two things happened I was like oh yes I'm not alone you know
I'm quite normal I'm not the only one there's nothing
wrong with me that was like my one reaction and my other reaction was like
oh crap you know this is how my brain has been
wired what do you mean like I can't change this about myself
this then led me to find and experiment with different
practices and habits to really support me in this time and
this has become integral to my life now and I think that really any highly
sensitive person will benefit from this so let's get
started the first one is to cultivate some alone time
and the reason for this is we get overwhelmed and overstimulated because
of the level at which we process information
if you go to a social gathering for example if you're not a highly sensitive
person you'll have a good time and you go home
you might remember how much fun you had at the party but it won't really stay
with you where as a highly sensitive person if
you go to this party you get not only I don't want to say
assaulted but you kind of get assaulted by all of the information and the
details and all the new things and smells and sights and sounds
and then when you leave because of our level of processing you don't
leave the party behind you kind of take it with you so you are still
engaging in it energetically even though you're not there anymore
it really comes with us all of our experiences we carry that with us
and you need to switch off and that is what alone time will do for you alone
time will allow you to switch off and just you know cut off the
external stimuli just so that you can quieten down your
your nervous system a little bit and give yourself a break
to process the information that you have and start to clear it and make space for
new information because we become too full
I almost think of it like that is that we get so much information from anywhere
everywhere that we become too full and you need to
find a way to let this information out and by
getting time to go quiet that will help you
the second habit is to start cultivating positive self-talk
now I can remember people always used to tell me I think too much
I overthink everything and I need to get out of my head and
if someone says something to me or if I hear something
I spend so much time analyzing it and thinking about it and
that's not a good thing I should stop doing that start
thinking less and you know for many years I thought that this was something
that was wrong with me I thought that this was
a like a mistake in my makeup that I was not able to not think so much and I
found it to be quite a big relief when I realized that this is part of our trait
as highly sensitive people is we overthink
but because we overthink doesn't mean that we have to be a slave to this
overthinking right so we just have to find a way to deal
with this overthinking nature of us one of the
things that we can do is to because you'll find that the
overthinking a lot of times tends to spiral into negative
thoughts and into non-supportive type of thinking where we tend to be quite
self-critical one of the things that we then do is to
cultivate a positive affirmative type of self-talk a tool
which I have found very helpful and this is something that I learned in my NLP
training is to turn down the volume of the inner
critic when you become aware that you are busy you know criticizing yourself
or that you are busy thinking thoughts that are self
attacking or that are judging you or you're judging yourself
or you're just thinking about negative things
then imagine that there's a volume button and then just turn the volume
button down you can turn it all the way down to zero
if you want it just to quiet down that inner critic
once the inner critic is quiet once that noise is gone it gives you time to start
thinking in a more positive and supportive way now you can use
affirmations also very effectively I love using
affirmations in conjunction with you know the other energy healing tools
I think if we just try and paste affirmations on top of things they don't
really work so effectively because your subconscious mind
is fighting all the time against this affirmation so you have to use an
affirmation in conjunction with other spiritual or
energy healing work for it to be really effective the next
habit is to cultivate self-trust now one of the things that we really
lack a lot of the time as highly sensitive people or
hsps is our lack of self-trust we can be very susceptible to the
opinions and the informations and the ideas of
the people around us we can quickly and easily take on those
ideas if our boundaries aren't strong enough and as a result
our self-trust begins to suffer we don't rely on our intuition
and we don't always pay attention to our inner wisdom so what you really want to
do is get into the habit of strengthening your self-trust of
really beginning to depend more on your own inner wisdom and
not look towards the guidance and the
opinions of other people to kind of help you direct
and steer your life even though we've come far in terms of understanding what
highly sensitive people are all about I think there's
still a lot of misunderstanding and misconception and certainly I know
I was for a very long time believing that there's
something wrong with me and I know that if you are highly sensitive
you are most likely you know feeling the same thing you're most likely
thinking that there is something wrong with you and there's
something in you that needs to be fixed and when we think like this when we
think that inherently we are faulty on the inside
it becomes very difficult to trust ourselves
so you want to shift that belief of there's something wrong with me and I'm
faulty you want to shift out of that belief
system into something that's more empowering for you
and using the positive affirmations is going to do that
but also what you want to do is start paying attention to your body this is
going to help you connect with your inner wisdom
because your inner wisdom is inside of you you access that by
connecting deeply into your body so get to know your own
energy and who you are without any labels
so take away the label of too sensitive or overly sensitive or over-thinker
or you know too soft or too weak or however it is that you've labelled
yourself take those labels away and really get to know your energetic
being and your soul for who you are and this will also help to support you
in shifting from that limiting belief of saying that there is something wrong
with me and that I'm faulty into a belief that is more supportive
and that can carry you stronger as you move forward in your life the
fourth habit that we need to cultivate as highly sensitive people is to
practice self-care and I don't think I can ever talk about
having or practicing self-care enough it is so so so so
important and I stress this especially because for a long time in my life I
have completely neglected my self-care in the sense that
I pushed myself too hard I never really listened to my body I
shied away from the emotions that I didn't really wanted
to feel it's not just self-care in terms of physical
pampering but it's also taking care of the emotional self
and when we practice self-care it's like a
it's like an energy recharge it's like you are giving yourself
a lift you're giving yourself a break and you are refueling
your own energy centers so that there is enough for you to share with the people
around you highly sensitive people tend to be
incredible nurturers all right so the downside of this is that we push
ourselves so much we give so much of ourselves that we
don't stop enough to replenish our own energy
and to replenish our own resources and the result is that you're
going to reach emotional burnout you're going to end up
where you feel completely drained all the time and there will really be
nothing left of you to give to anyone else
so it is very very important that you find
some self-care rituals to recharge part of our highly sensitive nature
means that a lot of time we are looking for spiritual
experiences and this then is the fifth habit that I want to share with you
and that is to develop your spiritual muscles
now we are always looking for deeper meaning in things
and one of the ways in which you can you know
soothe your soul and really give yourself some inner support
is to cultivate practices and rituals in your life that feeds
into the spiritual nature of you developing these spiritual
muscles of yours is going to give you a deeper sense of connection and a
deeper compassion to your sensitive nature
we've all you know before we get born into this world
we close soul contracts we create soul contracts and
I believe that each and every one of us that has been born
into the world as an hsp or highly sensitive person
we decided before the time that we want to do this and if you begin to cultivate
an understanding around that and a
compassion around that it also makes it easier for us to kind
of adapt and be flexible in the world
and deal with our sensitive nature in a way that really makes it a
gift and a strength rather than a vulnerability or a weakness
and there really are so many different spiritual practices that you can try and
prayer and meditation or two of these but
find out and explore a little bit with different practices to see what works
for you and see what resonates for you I work
with highly sensitive people I also work with
empaths and those on a spiritual awakening path I can help you to accept
your sensitivity and I can teach you energy tools
to support you and also help you to connect
with your inner wisdom and to connect to your inner guidance
and if you are interested in working with me you can either send me a direct
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