- So if you've watched my videos to the end,
if you're one of those cool people,
you know that at the end of my videos,
I say stay cool and attractive,
and some people have been like Frank,
why do you say something that's so shallow?
Come on, man.
And maybe, admittedly, when I first said it,
it was just a bit of a funny thing to say,
but I keep saying it because I have found some depth to it.
How can that be deep?
You might wonder.
Cool.
If you want to look at being cool in a shallow way,
you could just say oh yeah,
you wear a leather jacket and some sunglasses,
oh, you're cool.
But no, that's not really what I'm getting at
with coolness, with coolosity.
To me, being cool means being unaffected
by the BS on the surface.
You know when you say oh man, that guy's cool
and you mean it and it's not just in a superficial way?
That guy's a cool guy.
That's a cool girl.
What are you really saying?
You're saying that they are not really affected
by the small stuff.
They are secure in themselves,
and they aren't so much concerned
with the waves on the surface.
And also when you say oh man, he's cool,
what you sorta mean is that guy's got my back.
We are friends.
If you wanna get really deep, it's like a stoic kinda thing.
Being a little bit detached from your emotions
and not just letting yourself be knocked around
by day-to-day life,
to be able to retain that coolness
so that you can live life in a more full way.
If you've ever been not cool,
if you've ever been just totally affected
by everything around you all the time
without learning to have some control,
it's not a fun way to live, now is it?
Now stay attractive.
Some people are like yeah,
what if I was already unattractive?
How can I stay attractive?
Being attractive just doesn't mean looking pretty
and dressing up in fancy clothes.
I mean, we've all known people
who we thought were attractive
but maybe weren't necessarily physically that great looking.
It was just people that you wanted to be around.
So that's what I'm hoping to do with a lot of my videos
is to give you some resources to be more attractive
in the sense of having the kind of personality
and being the kind of person that people are attracted to.
That's a fundamental thing in life
that we should be working towards
is improving ourselves so that we can then help others,
and it's easier to help others
when they wanna be around us, when they are attracted to us.
It doesn't mean a physical attraction.
It's an attraction on the level
of seeing value in someone else
and seeing this is a good person to be around,
and also, if you wanna flip it around in another way,
it's like a mindset shift
of attracting good things into your life.
Frank, are you talking about the law of attraction?
I knew you were gonna go there.
I'm not really going hardcore into that,
but I think there is something
to when you set your mind on things
and when your eyes are open
and when you're looking for the good things in life,
you'll find them.
When your mind is all about the bad stuff,
when you're looking for the negative,
if you consider yourself to be unlucky,
what it really is is putting blinders on,
and oh yeah, all I see is the bad stuff.
Cool, but when you shift your mindset
to be more grateful for things,
that's why people talk about keeping gratitude journals
and just writing down what am I thankful for?
Because it's training your mind.
It's opening your eyes to the good things around you
'cause you can focus on whatever you want.
You can focus on the bad, you can focus on the good,
and when you focus on the good,
it will seem as though
you're attracting good things into your life
when maybe all it really is
is they were there the whole time,
and you just never saw them
until you opened your eyes to it.
So that is why I stick with that punchline,
that catchphrase.
Stay cool and attractive.
I feel like it's rather fitting.
Thank you very much for watching.
I appreciate it.
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Wait for it.
Stay cool and attractive.