Hey guys you're probably here because you want to know all about how to improve your confidence
levels well i'm going to answer that question along with many other different questions in
this week's responding to your comments where we look at fun questions we look at science-based
questions but most importantly we always look at the evidence whomans021 how are you so confident
please do one of your videos on confidence human thank you for your comment this is from the how
to grow taller video and i promise you i'm not actually that confident but i think it's one
of those things that i've developed myself on and as i've got older i probably have got a bit
more confident as well but i'm gonna do my best to give you all the information i possibly know about
improving your confidence and when to seek medical attention as well it's gonna be quite a long video
so what i'm going to do like always is i'm going to chapter it in the description below so if at
any point you want to find a specific piece of information feel free to click on that description
and click on that chapter now let's begin okay so first of all probably the easiest thing that
everyone can do to improve their confidence is body language look it's known it's a fact if i was
to sit here with my arms crossed like this talking to you or my hands in my pocket or looking away
people are going to think that i lack confidence so you need to have an open posture open your arms
let people in smile these kinds of things these easy simple things like not having your hands
in your pockets can make a big difference in your confidence levels and how it's portrayed to other
people as well so first of all open posture okay so now that you've got a confident walk you need
a confident torque and this means that you're not labelling yourself as a shy one so use words like
i can or i will talk with confidence and eagerness to complete a conversation or debate making
yourself accountable will boost your confidence as you're projecting yourself as responsible and
eager to engage so speaking of engagement this leads me on to my next point a very critical one
social engagement don't shy away from it look humans are social creatures we need to hang around
with other people we need to spend time with people and that way we're gonna get feedback from
them as well which again is gonna help improve your confidence are not only gonna get feedback
but you're going to make memories you're going to make good memories together so don't think
of the worst case scenarios that can happen from meeting people never think of that sort of stuff
just think of the good memories that you're going to create together look being liked and
having positive people around you can really help boost your confidence levels especially if they
encourage you to do certain things positive things in your life or if you have shared interests these
can be really helpful and when people ask about yourself project yourself confidently
you are intelligent and you are definitely good at something so talk about what you're good at people
won't know unless you talk about it you may even impress them or you might even find new friends
which is again going to boost those confidence levels and also it's all about sharing experiences
you might even learn about your friend or other people learning about what they like to do as well
now if you're thinking to yourself well that's all good abraham but i'm actually someone who
struggles to pluck up conversation or to socialize because i have quite low self-esteem well the good
news is i do have a video that's quite thorough all about self-esteem and loads of different tips
that you can do to help improve your self-esteem because having low self-esteem as well can drop
your confidence and also if it's really bad it can have negative health implications as well
so if you haven't seen it i will leave a link to up here and in the description below and improving
your self-esteem can really give you a confidence boost as well now the next thing i want to talk
about is being a conversation starter rather than waiting to be asked tell people about yourself
and ask them how they are doing too the confidence to start a conversation will impress them before
going to an event or interview write down a few topics you can talk about being prepared is a
huge confidence boost now when you're talking to people you may have experienced this before if
you are someone who's quite shy sometimes people comment that you're a shy person or why are you
so shy or anything like that they've really got two options for this well first of all i mean
don't let it knock you down or don't let it knock your confidence at all but you can either choose
to dismiss it to just pretend you never heard it or option two talk about it talk about
that person and talk about how you're feeling maybe tell them that you're having an off day
and then ask about them as well and see how they're doing because a little bit of kindness
goes a long way and the reason i'm saying this is because we're all human look we all have bad days
i have bad days you have bad days your friends have bad days and on those bad days they might
end up picking on you a little i'm calling you shy or whatever but the most important thing
is that you see how they're doing as well and ask how they're doing like we just mentioned
and don't label yourself as shy because if you start labelling yourself as that
then you have this downward spiral effect and you start overthinking and then you start thinking oh
maybe i am shy maybe i do lack confidence and it affects your confidence that by the way if you do
overthink if you do tend to be someone who does overthink i do have a video on that topic as well
once again i will link it up here and in the description below but the most important thing is
don't let that labeling happen don't label yourself and don't overthink and don't get that
downward spiral effect because that can really knock your confidence now one thing that i know
a lot of people say is you need to think positive have positive thoughts and improve your confidence
and it's good yeah it's good to do that but it's a lot easier said than done
okay because we all have a lot of positive and negative thoughts and opinions about ourselves
okay but you need to remember these are opinions they're not facts so what you need to do is write
a list we've all got a phone okay write a list write some notes about all the positive things
about yourself i do discuss these in the self-esteem video as well by the way um but
it's really good to do this now and then when you have some free time write a list of what's
positive about yourself and reward yourself you know be nice to yourself and it can make a massive
difference in your confidence and ask your friends ask your friends and your family what do they
like about you what are your positive attributes and write them down too and you'll start to see
actually you have a lot of positive things going you know instead of just focusing on the negatives
which unfortunately a lot of people tend to do now the next thing i want to discuss is thinking
of fears as learning opportunities because we can grow so much from our past experiences and
what we've learned from them and as we get older this is something we tend to do we tend to set
ourselves boundaries so we're not getting close to our fears that we're not going into these fears
and learning from them so you need to remove these boundaries and really go for it so get into good
confidence building habits now to set yourself up to succeed and grow and if you do have a fear
providing it safe go for it do it do whatever it is that you're afraid to do providing it safe
that is and learn from it writing down what you are afraid of and making a plan to overcome your
fears will improve your confidence let me know in the comments below about a fear that you got
over recently what did you do to overcome it i'd love to read about it and i'm sure other people
watching this video would too now when making the plan you need to break it down into small
achievable goals this is really important also involve your friends and your family to help you
they're there to support you and also it's another thing that you can talk about and it'll boost your
confidence in other ways as well because you're socialising now sometimes you might need help from
a healthcare professional to make a plan to help improve your confidence so i think the best way
to explain these is just to go through them one by one giving examples because they may apply to you
or someone that you know and i will leave more information about them in the description below
too so you may have experienced a traumatic event which is making you anxious about making life
decisions or you're struggling to live a normal life because of your negative thoughts these are
all reasons for you to speak to your healthcare professional about another thing is being unable
to sleep having difficulty sleeping or if you had a hobby for example and used to really love it and
then suddenly you just don't enjoy it anymore you see no motivation to do it these are all reasons
again to speak to your healthcare professional so they can have a chat with you and see what's going
on and see if they can help you because remember healthcare professionals are there to help you
they're not there to judge you they're there to help you so if you just take a few moments out
of your time if you're having any of these sort of problems and any further problems which i'm going
to leave in the description below which i'd highly recommend you to read please make an appointment
to speak to your healthcare professional because they're there to help you so who man and anyone
else is watching i hope you found this information helpful i hope you're already feeling more
confident because you now know how to walk the walk you know how to talk the talk and you also
know us about all the development things that you need to do to help improve your confidence as well
and one last thing you also know when to seek medical attention for when your confidence is
low or if you're having any other symptoms which is probably the most important bit now one thing
that i always love to hear back from you guys is if you have any of your own tips please leave a
comment below too because i'd love to read it and i'm sure anyone else watching this video would too
so it looks like we've run out of time again in this week's responding to your comments
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