What is spoon theory I actually didn't know what spoon theory
was until about five minutes ago and as soon as i
realized what it was i actually burst into tears i
i didn't realize how much i had been holding inside
with my lung disability that i was so unaware of
and how much we just tend to do whatever we have to do in order to cope and just
to to live our lives the best way that we
possibly can no matter what circumstances have come into our lives
which of course is tremendously clear right now with the
pandemic everybody's just doing the best that they can
and so a few minutes ago a friend of mine asked me i was
explaining how um i'd taken a shower today because i
was gonna do some videoing and uh that i hadn't taken very many
showers lately or actually in a long time and
how i have to choose what days that i take a shower
and she was like oh i know i'm conserving
water too and and it was so sweet of her to say that
and i saw i wrote her back and i said no yes conserving water is great but what i
mean as i lean here is that i was told when i
came out of a coma back in 2016 my nurses told me look
amanda you're going to have to learn how to
conserve energy on the things that you have to do so
that you have the energy for the things that you want to do and
so my friend sent me a question she says oh have you ever heard about spoon
therapy or and or sorry spoon theory
and so i was like no i've never heard of that what is what's spoon
theory sorry and she was like oh um well here i'll send you a link so
she sent me this link and i i opened up the link it was
through this article all about what spoon theory was and
where it had come from and what it meant and as soon as i read
it said spoon theory is this concept where every morning we
wake up and we have a certain amount of spoons
and they represent how much energy you have that you can use during the day
and some days you might have a certain amount of spoons in the next day you
might have more and another day you might have less it
really just depends on the day and but those are all the spoons that
you have to use for that day and once they're
gone they're just gone and so i was already starting to get
weepy because i was recognizing this and how true it was for me and then i
read this line how we have this fear that if we have to use
more spoons than we're capable of that we just don't have the spoons for
then we're so worried about being seen as being lazy
and and that's when the the words blurred
i couldn't i couldn't read anymore my wife actually came to my rescue
and she read the rest of the article for me because
i hadn't realized how hard that hit me and how
deeply that that particular emotion is for me
that constant internal fear that i'm being seen as this lazy person or this
person not pulling their weight because my entire life i had all the
spoons in the world i had as many spoons as i wanted i could
replenish my spoons i could i could donate my spoons to
others and i did it all the time and after being in a coma um
because of respiratory distress where my lungs actually gave out i i'm an
ards so an acute respiratory distress syndrome um survivor and
i realized that it has been tremendously hard to learn
how to live with a disability and how to accept that you only have so many spoons
and i've always been a never optimist so i
just assumed that well eventually i'll get back up to that
place where i can have as many spoons as i want again and
and i do like to believe that and to tell myself that you know
just keep on working on that mindset working on the physical
abilities do your exercises eat healthy especially keep your mindset in check
because we can be so hard on ourselves and
so anyway i just wanted to share that with you this is not what i intended to
video today for you i'm actually about to do a
series of videos all about groove funnels for you because
i really love helping you find ways that you can work
from home doing something you already love doing
using your own natural talents and passions so
my next couple of videos will be about that but today i just wanted to share
this because it was just so it hit me so hard and for all of my
friends out there who also suffer from a physical or a
mental disability or an emotional disability um
i understand you i appreciate you and use your spoons wisely
thank you for joining me today again my name is amanda van der gulik i know i
didn't introduce myself today sorry if you're new to my channel i
actually teach financial education entrepreneurship
skills for families so if that's something you're
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normally i talk about entrepreneurship ways that you can work from home and if
that's something that i could really help you with
it's my honor it's my honor when i was in a coma
i was earning passive income from the work that i done
years previous to that and when i woke up from a coma
and after struggling to to survive you know
completely blessed to be here it is so rare for people with ards to actually
survive that they don't even have rehab in my
area for it so that's how um yeah that's how special
and how unique i feel that i'm still here to share this with
you so i just wanted to share my journey inspire you and let you know that no
matter what happens in your life no matter how many spoons you have you
can still live the life of your dreams you
might just have to get used to living it at a different pace
and if you're anything like me you won't like that but you know what it's worth
it it's worth it to to be able the fact that i'm even
walking while doing this video is incredible because i could not have
done that and so you just keep on doing the best
you can loving yourself and knowing that i love
you too thank you for being with me here today
um if you are interested in learning more about group funnels
i actually made a review about it so if you
want to find a way to create income for yourself check them out they've saved my
life literally my online business life
hugs to you guys i'll see you in this video all right