something that we have all tried to do
before but almost always fail is to
change someone else's mind to our way of
thinking and this is the problem because
a lot of relationships actually get
ruined when we try to convince someone
to our way of thinking so I'm going to
give you five tips on how to change
someone's mind the first one is never
turn the conversation into an argument
it should be a conversation where you
show your opinions the facts that you
have in the data that you've collected
anyway that doesn't hinder or hurt the
other person's opinions we think that if
we just proved our point logically the
common sense will tell the other person
that we are right but the problem is
that emotions play a much larger impact
on our decisions than what our brain
logically decides as facts and this is
where most people get confused just
because you may be right technically
correct and have more supporting data
doesn't mean that the other person is
going to think that or they might not
have their ego built in a way that they
will accept that so when you're trying
to change someone's mind try to keep it
as a conversation and not an argument
the second tip is to never say that you
are wrong if you're going to tell
someone that you are wrong you're going
to give them a strong reason to come
back at your argument and just topple
all of your other arguments and
supporting details even if you show them
a whole bunch of logical reasons and
acceptable data after that you've
already said that you are wrong at some
point if you really want to change
someone's mind we have to completely
avoid looking like you're trying to
change their mind because this could
invoke as we mentioned earlier strong
emotions if you're going to prove
anything don't let them know that you're
going to prove it if someone makes a
statement that you think is wrong even
if you know that it is wrong it's better
to point it out by saying I thought
otherwise but I might be wrong let's
look at the facts the key is to say that
you might be wrong not that you are
wrong this opens up the other person to
look at the data again and shows them
that you're not bullheaded and that
you're not going to change your opinion
because nobody will ever object to you
saying I might be wrong let's look at
the facts you're not saying that you are
wrong you're just saying that you're
open to new ideas and this is super
important in convincing someone else to
your way of thinking tip number three is
to get the other person saying yes as
fast as possible so this is like the
foot in the door technique the
by emphasizing and keep on emphasizing
stuff that you agree on when you're
starting the conversation maybe hobbies
that you guys have something that
they're passionate about something that
gets them saying yes because the more
that you get them to say yes the more
likely they are to say yes in the future
it's a little psychological trick that a
lot of salesmen use to sell something
also starting on conversation on
something that they're passionate about
or something that you both have in
common will get them to start to like
you and maybe even more open up to ideas
that you have it establishes trust tip
number four is to let the other person
do a great amount of talking now this is
where most people go wrong what they do
is they try to talk more more and more
to try to convince the other person of
their way of thinking first of all if
you let them talk more you're going to
show that you actually care about their
opinions and ideas which will eventually
earn their respect people love it when
you give them your full attention
because people want to express their own
opinions to you so by listening to them
you're going to create a friendly
relationship and build trust and in
doing so when you express your opinions
and your fact in your data they will
have a higher likelihood of paying more
attention also if you disagree with
something that they're saying never make
the mistake of interrupting them and
this is super dangerous because it's
basically like you're attacking them and
they might take it to their ego this can
change the whole argument from who is
right into I am right and you are wrong
no matter what the data says also they
probably still have a lot more stuff in
their head to keep on talking so just
listen patiently with an open mind
encourage them to talk even more and
more so that when it's your turn to talk
they'll be out of stuff to talk about
the last tip is to let the other person
feel like the idea was theirs so don't
you have a lot more faith in an idea
that you come up with then someone else
that gave that idea to you you can put
that idea into practice with someone
else it's wiser to make suggestions and
let someone else come to the conclusion
than to give them the conclusion because
then they have a sense of pride that
it's their idea and you can do this a
lot in business you can do this a lot in
a workplace giving someone the data and
letting them come to the conclusion lets
them feel like it is their idea and they
take pride in it so these are five
simple tips to help you win someone to
your way of thinking and of course if
you do not have enough facts if you do
not have enough data to convince them
you can do one of two things you can
either get more data to help convince
them or maybe it's youth who is the one
who needs to change their thinking this
content was actually created with the
help of my friend is manof and animated
by him also so go check out his channel
if you want more information like this
thanks for watching guys