Matt: Tinder, the hottest women, you can find just one swipe away,
but just like in real life, you're still struggling to get quality dates.
So I guess you just got to up your Tinder game, right? Well,
not exactly because Tinder has a little known dark side that
nobody really talks about
And it's up your dating life. As we speak,
you see the number one obstacle in your dating life.
Isn't your lack of likes or money looks or height.
It's neediness. Neediness makes you more desperate, more insecure.
It on your confidence. And more often than not,
it makes you come across as creepy and Tinder can make it even worse.
That's right. Tinder can make your neediness even worse.
Do you understand why this digital block is happening?
You need to understand three things. How neediness works,
the little known paradox at the heart of dating.
And one of the most powerful tools that there is in dating.
Let's start with neediness.
Neediness is where you place her opinion of you above your own opinion of
yourself. It's where you think she's queen of the universe.
And you're not even worth her attention like a Disney movie where she's the
princess. And you're the little farm boy, instead of charming her to like you,
she ends up banging some other dude needing.
This makes you act the way you think she wants you to act,
which for most guys is overly nice or too accommodating.
You say the things she wants you to say,
you look the way she wants you to look and you never, ever risk, big, old,
scary rejection. And the irony is your efforts to make her,
like you only make you come off as someone she would never,
ever want to sleep with.
So your exile back to only fans by nothing but your own screw up that
the only cure for neediness is to allow yourself to be vulnerable.
Allow yourself to get rejected. You act the way you want to act.
Even if she doesn't like it. You say the things that you want to say,
even if she doesn't like it and you risk rejection.
Even if that means blowing your chances with her,
it means you don't try to impress her.
And you just act the way you genuinely want to act.
This is what the guys who got laid a lot as teenagers,
figure it out early on in life on Tinder. You don't get to show yourself.
You don't get to show your vulnerability.
You don't even get a chance before we keep going.
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when it comes down to it,
most guys approach Tinder like a Virgin approaches girls.
They don't know how to succeed.
Other than trying to look and act like the kind of guy they think she would
want.
They're trapped in this teenage state of dating instead of being a man and just
going after what you want in life and being the man.
You want to be you're being who you think she wants you to be.
So ask yourself right now, is this your approach to apps like Tinder?
Because if it is, I got a reality check for you.
Swiping doesn't require any vulnerability, not even a drop of it.
You don't have to risk approaching her.
You don't have to risk getting rejected by her in front of a bunch of people.
You don't have to risk embarrassment or awkwardness.
Worst case is just no match.
Or maybe some girl that you don't even know at all,
not giving you her number or just not replying back. Well, that sounds good.
You think, I mean, that's not scary. So isn't that a lot better? Hell no.
This isn't going to challenge you at all this.
Isn't going to help you manage your neediness and it's definitely not going to
help you grow as a person.
It's just going to keep you as the same needy guy that you've always been that
you probably don't want to be to quote star wars.
Vulnerability might sound scary,
but it's going to give you the greatest tool in dating feedback.
If you try to approach a girl for example, and get rejected, it sucks,
but you're going to get feedback either from her or from reflecting on what you
did wrong. And you're going to spot your mistake and improve.
This is why failure is the best teacher that you'll ever have the.
Greatest teacher.
But failing at online dating and dating apps. You won't learn.
And chances are the little feedback that you get will only make you meteor
either you swipe and she doesn't swipe back or somebody you barely even know
just isn't that into you from which you'll probably think, oh, well,
I guess I got to make my profile look better, or I got to use better lines.
And it's impossible.
Even if the app is working and you're getting dates to actually build confidence
this way, instead of becoming a confident man,
who's good at dating and is naturally attractive. You just become a man.
That's good at marketing that you can do better than that. Now,
if you want to really learn how to become a good data,
who can approach nearly any woman, he sees shows vulnerability in a confident,
charismatic way and can meet, attract, and date the woman of his dreams.
Then schedule a free call with my team right now.
And we'll see if you're a good fit for our high level coaching program,
where we take you by the hand and show you exactly how to attract women and give
you much needed feedback so that you can transform into the most confident,
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