- [Lily] How often do you find yourself saying
or doing things without a second thought?
Are you in control of your emotions
or do you often react immediately to your surroundings?
Emotional maturity is more than a matter of age,
it's about the way you treat yourself and those around you.
It doesn't always come easy
and you may even find yourself struggling with it for years.
If you'd like to start trying to be a better,
more emotionally mature person today,
then here eight things emotionally mature people don't do.
Number one, overreact.
Do you often let your feelings get the best of you?
Do you tend to say or do things
you know you'll regret later?
An aspect of being emotionally immature
is the tendency to overreact to everything
since you don't know how to deal with difficult situations
in a calm and constructive manner.
You may have a short temper, have frequent mood swings,
and are likely to get angry and frustrated
when things don't go your way.
Number two, do you often hold grudges against people
who have upset you?
While it's natural to feel angry, disappointed,
or frustrated with the people you love for doing you wrong,
holding grudges to purposefully punish them
or make them feel guilty in return
is a sign of emotional immaturity.
It takes a lot to forgive someone who has hurt you
and even more to try
and understand from their point of view.
Number three, emotionally blackmail people.
Have you ever given someone the silent treatment
as a form of payback?
Emotional blackmail is a concept popularized
by Psychotherapist Susan Forward.
And it's a common dynamic of many toxic relationships
where one tries to control and manipulate the other
through tactics such as fear, obligation, and guilt.
Other examples of this include withdrawing affection,
acting passive-aggressive,
and threatening to end the relationship
or replace them with someone else.
Number four, deny your problems.
Do you run away from your problems
or live in denial of them?
All those who are more emotionally mature
understand that overcoming their problems,
pushing through their struggles and facing their fears
is the healthiest way to truly grow as a person.
Those who are emotionally immature tend to live in denial
and distract themselves from confronting their problems.
So it may be a sign that you're emotionally immature
if you have the habit of avoiding
and running away from conflict.
Number five, blame others.
Do you take responsibility for your own actions?
People who are quick to play the blame game
and point their finger at everyone but themselves
lack the self-awareness to own up to their mistakes
and take responsibility for their actions.
Always blaming other people
for the things that go wrong in your life
is an unhealthy and immature way of coping
with the shame and guilt you may feel
when you do something wrong.
Number six, beat yourself up.
Do you often get mad at yourself
for even the tiniest mistake or beat yourself up
over the things that are out of your control?
Another way emotional immaturity may manifest itself
is through constant and excessive self-criticism.
Therefore learning to value self-love, self-compassion,
and to learn to forgive yourself for mistakes you make
is a step towards emotional maturity.
Number seven, act self-absorbed.
Do you feel the need to be the center of attention
a lot of the time?
This want for attention or validation from others
may be because you base your self-worth
on how others see you.
As a result, you may end up
constantly putting your own needs before others,
or by demanding that others give in
to what you want and need.
Number eight, always need to be right.
Have you ever found yourself getting really angry
and frustrated with someone
because you insist on being right?
This sign of emotional immaturity
is a refusal to listen to what other people have to say
because you feel the need to always be right.
Refusing to openly discuss, or debate with others,
or to have your opinions be challenged,
may be a sign of emotional immaturity.
Do you relate to any of the signs mentioned here?
If so, what do you plan to do next?
Tell us about it in the comments below.
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