Okay. You failed. Well now, you need to learn the next step. How do you deal with
not achieving your goals? Because this had better not stop you.
Watch closely so you can pick that momentum back up.
If you're like me, you've set goals. And in setting your goals what's happened is
you've failed. And you probably have failed miserably.
You maybe have told your friends you're going to accomplish some great act or great
idea. And then the day came and it didn't work. Alright, how do you recover from
this? How do you get back at it? Embarrassments going to sneak in is that?
It's going to sneak in and oh no. What are people going to think about you that you
did not accomplish your goal? Well, I believe there's a way to deal with this
so you don't go into hiding very long. You see we can learn a lot from failure.
But if we don't get back in the game of going towards our goal again or our new
design goal, we're going to lose momentum. Failure does not stop momentum. Failure
is a great teacher. But the most common person out there right now really when
they hit failure, they stop, they pull back, they hide, they avoid. So, here are
some steps about how to really get through those challenges. So, that you can
keep moving towards your goal? Number 1, let's remove the mystery of what's going
on. The mystery of failure is the lack of education. The lack of experience.
That's all failure is. Lack of education, lack of experience. And how could you
know everything? How could you have all experiences in life? So, it's not a
mystery that you're going to fail. It's not a mystery that I'm going to fail. Every
single one of us are going to find where we have exhausted all of our education,
exhausted all of our experiences. And now, we're trying to do something and it's
failing. But that's all it is. Failure is the absence of education and
experience. And and so, what that means is you're not the one messed up. But you
know how we take it personal? Okay well, maybe we should stop taking it
personal and remind ourselves, "Hey look, I failed." And this is an indicator
I need to learn more and learn from people who have experience. Boy, if you
could wrap your head around that, that would totally bust open the mystery of
why we have failures. And not to take it personal and then go hide and you know,
go away in embarrassment. Well come on, everybody fails. Your neighbor fails, your
friends fail, everybody fails. Some people are just better at hiding it, right? Okay,
next. Whenever you have a failure in the moment of the failure. Or shortly after.
Write down what didn't work and write down what did work. Super smart to catch
it in the moment. And record that information. Write it down in a journal
or type it up on a computer. But record that information because if we record it,
and we remember it, we don't have to repeat it. If we record it and we
remember it, we won't have to repeat it. Big, big learning experience right there.
And if you don't write it down and you don't review it remember it, don't
worry. You'll do it again. You'll make the same mistake again. But just follow
this so you don't have to go through that. Next, what is it that you need to
stop and what is it that you need to start? In every failure situation, we're
very aware of things that are going on around us and what we did and what we
didn't do. That's the time to make also the list of, "What do I need to start
doing more of? And what I need to stop doing less of?" Because there's needs to
be some adjustments. Or you're going to repeat that same failure again. So, make
the list. Now, there's also the emotional side. You know when you have a failure,
emotions come up, embarrassment, concern, worry, sad, frustrated, disappointed, angry.
So, what you do is you journal. Either type on your computer write it in a book.
But write out your feelings. Not just only what happened at this point but
number four, but also how you feel. And even if you're a guy, you have feelings.
You have feelings. And if you can write these feelings out on some form, what
happens is you begin to make sense of how you feel. There's a study
that's been done about people who go through a healing process. And there was
two groups of people. One, they all came out of the hospital with some kind of
ailment or injury that they had to recover from. One group didn't do any
journaling. And another group journaled for 30 minutes each day. The group that
journaled for 30 minutes each day, recovered in half the amount of time
than... Most of people in that group recovered half the amount of time than
the other group. Journaling helps us make sense of our life. And it helps us
recover from what just happened. So, if you have a failure and you don't journal,
maybe you're not going to make sense of it. You get to repeat it. I'm the kind of
guy don't like repeating the same mistakes over and over again. So, I'm
going to do some journaling. Simple, simple amounts of journaling will help you have
a deeper understanding. In the moment of failure, ask yourself, "What is it that I
didn't know? What? Where did it happen?" And in that moment, ask yourself, "What
education do I need?" Because for me to advance,
I need education. I got to find it in some form from somebody, from some
organization so that I can progress and not be stuck. And the last one, anytime
you have a failure, own it. Don't blame it. Just own it.
You could blame all you want. You can blame the person on your team, you can
blame your spouse. There's plenty of people to blame. And you'll find that
that's the most common thing to do is to blame somebody because of your failure.
But when you own it, now you can become more aware of your own activities that
you can adjust and improve upon. But if you blame it, now you're waiting for
everybody else to change. You're waiting for them to improve before your life can
improve. And that you can't guarantee. There's no way. You can't wait long
enough for other people. Own it. Don't blame it. And you'll notice your speed
and efficiency of adjusting to create that improvement will improve. It really
will. So here, what I like to do is I like to
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