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hello everyone today I'm here to share
my opinion that parents shall listen to
kids first I will tell you a story of a
monkey prison experiment scientists cut
a monkey from the wild and put it into a
cage made of barbed wire which is really
strong in the beginning the monkey tried
to escape but this hurt every time when
it bumped into the edge of the frame
finally the monkey stayed in the middle
and didn't try to escape anymore and the
scientists changed a barbed wire cage
into an easy broken cage with a similar
appearance but the monkey still stays in
the middle and never tried to break the
frame anymore sometimes I feel just like
this monkey now I will share a story of
mine it's Christmas Christmas I finished
all my homework and want to go out to
play with my friends I asked my mom mom
can I please go out she said no I want
to please her so I washed dishes and I
made breakfast I asked again but they
disagreed so then I fed my cat I clean
my room I even slept before but then no
with the response so finally I had to
agree to do extra homework as they wish
I spent three hours of dark time until 6
p.m. it's time for dinner
my dad said let's go out to eat after
dinner I
my friend so much I just wanted to sit
on the couch and wechat my friends but
my parents had different plans they took
me to see a show about science which I'm
not very interested in after all of that
it's bedtime and it's the end of my day
after all of that I feel like all my
ideas will be rejected my my day was
room my parents this is a typical kind
of parents who always say no and the
always no parents will make kids passive
the passive kids let their parents do
everything for them because they think
that their parents will not let them do
anything they want and will try very
badly just to let their parents agree
with one simple thing but actually
execute a function yeah for sure is the
right way to learn EF is an important
concept in child psychology it's the way
to achieve goals include to let kids
plan by themselves make decisions by
themselves use knowledge well and remove
unwanted thoughts feelings and actions
then shift from one task to another
parents should encourage kids to program
executed functioning it's the only way
how kids learn for example parents
should like kids were from their own
failures when the parent tell the kid
the opening the fire is dangerous even
if the kid says yes I understand
they don't kids will still try and get
hurt until then they know what the
parents mean so even if the parents tell
kids that doing this or that is wrong
the kid will still need to learn from
their own failures
yours those who don't let their kids
learn from their own failures who clear
obstacles and make sure there's only one
hat for their kids the way to success
are called snowplows parents do you know
what a snow plow is a snow plow is a
huge machine that goes out and remove
snow this information is from American
College Health Association this study is
about two hundred ninety seven college
students who have snow plows parents
snow plows parents are parents who fix
kids problems when they are small but
actually they create bigger problems
when the kids grow let's see the result
of their parenting eighty four point
three percent of students so overwhelmed
sixty point five percent felt very sad
fifty seven percent felt very lonely
51.3% experienced anxiety at a percent
even attempted suicide here's my
suggestion for the future parents if you
can discuss your suggestion with us not
just to disagree it will be a lot better
as a kid we should discuss with our
parents our own opinions about why we
want to do this and how we will achieve
our goals parents we need you when we're
feeling down what we feel and when we're
in trouble we want your encouragement to
help us conquer difficulties by
ourselves please trust us if you do
something more than just to suggest your
idea our life will be a lot difficult
because your decision might not be the
same as us sometimes being different is
an advantage and having a strong
personality
he is not a bad thing kids have their
own life why not just give us a chance
to God the giant moon through one use
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