Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com; your personal dating coach.
On today's video I want to talk about how to ask a girl to be your girlfriend.
One of the inspirations of this video is because right now I'm at this
really cool place. It's an Airbnb. It's not a hotel, it's not a
bed-and-breakfast, but it's an Airbnb. It's kind of like a
little romantic getaway that my girlfriend Potter found and I'm a
little bit of a romantic and I think that one of the best ways to ask a girl
to be your girlfriend is by doing something cool and doing some sort of
getaway similar to what we're doing right now. So on this video I'll be
explaining a little bit about what you can say to her, how you can make it
happen, when to ask a girl to be your girlfriend and
and just any kind of other ways that you should be doing it to help you out to
make it so it actually works well.
When do you ask a girl to be your girlfriend? We're not gonna do this
too soon. A lot of guys might do this too soon. I also don't want you to
do it too late. There is a fine little balance when you're gonna be
doing it. I'd say after you've been dating a girl for somewhere about two to
four months and in those two to four months you've seen her and been hanging
out at least 15 times. Nowhere earlier than that, nowhere later than that.
Why? Too early and you might be making a mistake.
I don't think that you should be getting into a relationship if you don't know a
girl well enough. And if she's really pushing for it in the beginning and
you're not ready, that's okay. Getting into a relationship should be on your
terms, really it should be on both your terms when you're both ready to do it.
So not too early. Also not too late. Why not too late? Because if you go too long
and you're thinking like oh okay I'll wait like six months or four or five
months (well four months is okay) but after that if you guys been hanging out
a lot and you're just doing it to play games and you're just doing some
sort of hard to get, this is a bad idea. This is a bad idea.
Why; because you might actually lose her. Because eventually the girl that you're
with probably wants to get into a relationship or maybe you guys haven't
discussed it a little bit. If you wait too long then you might actually
scare her away because she's saying hey this guy is not ready to be in a
relationship. I want to be very clear here this video is not telling you to go
into a relationship. You can do whatever you want but this is for the guys out
there who are looking for it and that's what I'm saying. You don't want to wait
too long. I'm walking in the place right now. Just want you to see this.
This is so cool.
It's just a big jungle and then a hut right in the middle of it.
Amazing. I'm gonna put a link down below for you guys to check it out.
If you ever come to Bali and you want to you want to stay here then there'll be a
link down below and then you can check it out for yourself. I'm gonna give
you the line to say and you can do it in any way you want. You don't have to copy
this line but it's a good line and I think you should take at least the
idea of what I'm saying here and translate it into your own words.
I'm gonna be stating it not as a question but more of a statement and
then you're just gonna be silent and see how she responds. You're gonna say this.
"I just want to let you know that I really like spending
time with you and I don't want to spend time with anybody else." It's a little
romantic but it's not too cheesy and you're basically saying I don't want to
be with anyone else. I don't to be with anyone else right now. Because that's
what a relationship is. That's what relationship is. That's basically saying
that you want to be with her only her. You're not interested in dating, you're
done with dating and you'd like to be just with her. I would say it just like
that "I really like spending time with you and I don't want to spend time with
anyone else." Again it's up to you if you want to take it further
than that but I might just say that and not say another word and see how she
responds. If things are going well she's gonna respond and she's gonna say
"Same here. I don't want to be with anyone else either." That's it, boom. Now
you're in a relationship. I would do it in a cool place like this.
I'm a little bit of romantic like I said so doing it at a get-away, finding a cool air
bnb similar to this. Doing something for the weekend, going somewhere.
It doesn't have to be like you're proposing to her so this doesn't have to be over a
meal or putting roses on the bed. It could just be in a very quiet nice
little moment between you two when you guys are just hanging out and then
you're just relaxing and then you say it to her. It's a good balance between
a little bit of romance but nothing too cheesy. When I asked Potter to
be my girlfriend, I did something very similar to this we did a little getaway
in Santa Barbara and we spent the weekend together and that's where I
asked her to be my girlfriend. Doing a getaway like this, it's nice,
it's romantic. It works like a charm.
I gave you the idea of how to ask her, when to ask her but now I
want to get into the why. Why should you be asking a girl to be
your girlfriend? What makes it so special about this girl that you want
to ask her? I always say that when you spend time with someone and you
spend enough time with someone (that's why I say you don't want to ask a girl
to be your girlfriend within a month) but when you see all sides of them, you see
all of their emotions. You see them when they're sad, when they're angry, when
they're happy, when they're excited, when they're down, every single emotion.
And that takes time. So over the course of the few months that you've
been dating the person, you see all of her emotions, you see all of the types of
reactions she has to certain situations, you get to know her, you get to know her
likes, her dislikes, maybe even you meet her family a little bit if that happens.
You just really get to know the person on a well-rounded level and then
after all of that you still enjoy spending time with them, they still make
you feel good, you still see this as someone that you can spend time with and
they can be very good for you and they can be healthy for you. That's the
point where I think it's good to ask the girl to be your girlfriend and if you
even get to the point where you say "I love you" (I'll put a video down below
when to do that) but it's similar because the idea here is getting to know
the person so well and accepting them for all of who they are. That's another
point I want to make here; accepting her. Accepting her for everything that she is.
I know you're like Tripp can you really know someone that well in
three to four months? No you can't but I think between three to four months,
between that point you can get to know her well enough to say "Hey let's get
into a relationship" then it's continually getting to know her,
understanding her and her by the way getting to know you. This is not just
one-sided here. I know it sounds like it because all my videos are telling you
what to do but it's more than that. You guys getting to know each other on a
deeper level and then saying "Hey let's try this thing
together. Let's go through with this and let's see what it's like for us to be
just us." I'll leave you with one last note. I know this has been kind of a long
video but just make sure that you never go for a girl out of desperation and
then you only go for a girl that you truly connect with. I don't want you ever
getting stepped on. I don't want you ever putting her on a pedestal even
through a relationship. It should be on equal terms and there should be mutual
respect. No desperation. If you want to check out
this Airbnb that is so rad called "The Hideout", I'll put a link down in the
description below. There's another link for the love video. If you like this
video, I know you wanted more relationship type videos, press like.
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and I'll see you tomorrow.