You know that almost anything can make our forever glorious Duchess of Sussex start grinding
her non royal teeth.
But it so happens that Camilla could be the current reason Meghan's blood is reaching
boiling point, and you're about to find out why.
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I know, it's not appropriate to make any comparison between two women, but it's hard to resist
that guilty pleasure, because most human beings love, and I mean REALLY love, online polls.
Polls such as, "Which royal matches your personality", or "Which royal should you marry according
to your Sun Sign", or my favorite, "Which royal has the best odds of surviving a Zombie
Apocalypse?"
I think that would be Harry, since he's got nothing that could attract zombies.
So, as soon as any tabloid publishes an online poll like "What is your favorite royal" people
just flock to answer so they can see how their favorite does this time.
This is something primal, wired inside us, that drives us to confirm who 'won' this race.
What you want to confirm is if 'your' favorite royal just beat your least liked royal.
That's it.
You can imagine that the Queen always gets that coveted first place, and it's common
to spot William in the second, closely followed by Catherine.
This happens in most media outlets, so that's how you know that they have a quite large
following and are doing their public image the right way.
And if you want an example of doing public image the wrong way, well... look no further
than Randy Andy and his long streak of headlines.
That's the reason he usually ends up at the bottom of these rankings.
But one that did not have it easy for many years was Camilla, and she had to work her
way to gain respect.
You might think that she's not a royal rockstar yet, but since the Queen has recognized her
hard work and stated that she should be acknowledged as Queen Consort once Charles becomes King,
then that's a huge step.
That's a literal endorsement from the person that is always at the top of the list, so
she, the Queen, is giving away some of her clout to recognize Camilla's work.
And I'm sure this will soon reflect in these polls.
You have to take into account that Her Majesty did not attend Charles and Camilla's wedding,
mostly for religous reasons, but still.
It's fairly known that the relationship between the Queen and Camilla was not the greatest
at first.
But Camilla kept her head down and kept on working.
And I'm sure that the Queen took notice when William and especially Harry, spoke about
her in 2005.
"She's a wonderful woman and she's made our father very, very happy, which is the most
important thing".
Please, save that quote for when Harry publishes his memoirs.
I'm sure it will come in handy.
Now, one has to be careful with whatever is published in these outlets, and that's when
Meghan enters the scene.
I couldn't help but notice this headline, "Meghan Markle dubbed 'ungrateful' and 'minx'
by Camilla"
But, my first question was, what is a... minx?
"An IMpudent, cunning or boldly flirtatious girl or young woman"
Well, to be fair that SOUNDS like Meghan.
But then you have this fight of royal experts.
The claim that Camilla allegedly said this was from Tom Bower, who by the way is writing
an unauthorised biography of Meghan Markle.
But at the same time, Angela Levin, who wrote the book "Harry: Conversations with the Prince",
says that she's got the sources to disprove this.
And this is a good exercise for common sense.
Even if Camilla would have doubted that Meghan was all willing to leave her prior life to
become a full time working royal, I'm sure that she would have given her at least the
benefit of the doubt.
Camilla really needed that benefit of the doubt when her relationship with Charles became
official.
So, just from an empathy standpoint, I'm sure that the Duchess of Cornwall would have known
from day one that Meghan was going to be scrutinized and judged, so she would need all the help
she could get.
But the problem is that once these headlines are out there, it's very difficult to undo
the effect they have on the general public.
It's not hard to guess that whoever is pushing this narrative is trying to make Camilla look
bad, or tarnish her image given that the Queen has given her the ultimate blessing.
And here is where we can actually compare Meghan and Camilla but not in a gossipy way,
but more in a constructive way, so we can understand why there must be more screaming
than usual at Montecito.
When you think of the trajectory of both women, even if Meghan had the usual attacks from
the press, you cannot deny the fact that the UK and most of the world gave her that opportunity.
The opportunity to become an icon inside the royal family, because let's face it.
A lot of people liked her at first.
Just the fact of Meghan being a mixed race American actress, marrying into the royal
family was almost straight out of a JLo movie.
I think I've made that joke before, right?
well, I'm sorry, but it never gets old.
So, Meghan misused that popularity and just bought herself a ticket to villainland.
And the public just followed suit.
She has earned the... unpopularity she strived for.
That's why that word, "infamous", fits so well with the Harkles track record.
But Camilla didn't have that luxury at first, and as I've already said, she's still not
top of mind in likeability, BUT she has earned the respect.
And there is no better way to picture how these two women's paths have overlapped, than
the fact that Camilla replaced Meghan as Royal Patron of the National Theatre, a role that
belonged to the Queen for 45 years before being handed to Meghan in 2019.
I'm sure that it must be hard for Meghan to swallow that Camilla overtook her, not only
on the silly polls, but in the most public displays of loyalty and service.
Now, don't get me wrong.
Both women absolutely deserved what they achieved, because both of them actively looked for it.
In different directions, if you want to put it this way.
And even if you don't like Camilla, you might at least recognize that you can find in her
experience, a valuable lesson.
I always talk about setting goals and work hard to make they happen.
But I don't think that Camilla actively looked to 'become popular' or 'liked by the public'.
Because in reality, she just can't control public perception about her.
She has no say in that.
And one of the most critical realizations in life is acknowledge what you cannot control.
What she could control was, first and foremost, her own work and service.
She could decide how hard she could work as a royal.
And I'm sure that's one of the things that resulted in Charles being happy, and the Queen
finally accepting her.
It's that easy.
Camilla cannot control Charle's feelings, or the Queen's perception, or William and
Harry's opinion.
She could only control her actions and her service.
This is something that is always hard to grasp, understand and even more difficult to apply.
There are hundreds, if not thousands of things that are out of our control.
For example, I cannot control Meghan appearing in public and doing silly things.
That is absolutely up to her.
What I can control is make as many videos as I want about those silly appearances.
And you know I'll be there the next time her public relations advisors play "ridicule roulette."
It's a matter of focus.
Whatever you focus your mind on, it will only grow in your perception.
The longer you focus on the things you CANNOT control, the bigger, more ominous, more difficult
they will seem.
And the problem is that even if you focus in what you CAN control, in your daily activities
and actions, and habits, focus in the NOW, you won't see the results today.
Or tomorrow.
Or next week.
But it doesn't mean that you are not making a dent in your own destiny by focusing on
the things that you can control.
When you feel overwhelmed, try to notice where is your focus.
It will help you see things like they really are.
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