Hey guys, welcome back thanks for joining me for another video if you are new to my channel, my name is Stephanie
I am a life and relationship coach. I am super excited about this week's topic because we're gonna talk about
overthinking and being a worrywart
And thinking too much about something and letting that like- tape just like run and run and run until it
Basically causes us complete stress fear and anxiety
So I want to get into not just overthinking but more specifically why someone who is highly sensitive
Tends to be an over-thinker and then I want to give you some tips at the very end to help you to stop overthinking
So much and these are things that you definitely want to listen for because they are really powerful things
that really do help you not just with overthinking but also
Managing your emotional state now before we get into anything if you have not yet subscribed
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so I'm not gonna get into all of the traits that make someone highly sensitive because if you're watching this video chances are you're highly
Sensitive and you know that you are highly sensitive
but what I do want to stress with someone who is highly sensitive is one of the main things that makes
us this way is our depth of processing and what this means is we take in
stimuli and we
Process it on a deeper level
than most people so you might be going about your day and you smell something or you see something or you hear something but
you are different than other people in the sense that your nervous system is wired differently for you to really
Smell it to see it to hear it. So you hear it deeper than most people so that's why someone who is highly sensitive
doesn't really
Love loud noises, or they can hear it to a point where it really disturbs them
Whereas maybe someone else could kind of hear it and it wouldn't affect them as much
You're also someone who is highly empathic and tends to be a perfectionist
This isn't all you know highly sensitive people but most of them really are
because of that tendency to process things deeply you think
really deeply and I'm gonna get into kind of how your mind works and why
you do think on these deep deep levels because I think it's important to understand the why before you can begin to kind of
Change a little bit of what you normally have been doing to help you cope in life
Basically with you know, the way you are made up now with someone who's highly sensitive
You're also someone who's empathetic just to like touch on a few things
You're also someone who's empathetic highly empathetic you tend to be a perfectionist and you can't you tend to
Think about the decisions that you're making
Probably to a point where you're overthinking them and because you don't want to make a bad decision
Right you want you want to basically make the best decision possible?
now with this deep this depth of processing right this deep level of processing with someone who's being
An empath with someone who's being a perfectionist with someone who tends to just you know
Overthink any decision that they make from time to time with all of these things combined
You are already programmed to be a little bit of a worrier
It doesn't mean that your depth of processing and the way you take in information means that you're going to be an over-thinker
But it is a great stepping stone for someone who kind of tiptoe into that
Overthinking worrying too much stressing about all these things that don't need to be thought of in this moment in time
And creating this level of anxiety inside of you now, unfortunately because our society still doesn't know too too much about it
I mean we're way more educated on
Someone who is highly sensitive than we were even 10 years ago or 20 definitely 20 years ago
um
but because most of us grew up in environments where
Our parents and the people around us didn't really know that we were highly sensitive and we didn't really know that we were highly sensitive
At times we might have even thought something was wrong with us
We weren't taught how to kind of cope with the way our brains work the way our bodies work the way we take in information
And how it is different than other people
So now because of all of that
we are over thinkers we go from 0 to 60 and we process things over and over again and we stew in something and
it affects us on such a deeper level than most people and there are so many beautiful traits to
Someone who's highly sensitive
but there are a lot of things that we have to learn how to kind of deal with in cope with so we can have
A good life, right? So we don't have all of this stress all of this anxiety all of this worry
We're not carrying this huge load of worrying stress that we don't really need to be carrying from day to day
so I want to get into a little bit of how our
Minds our brains work and how it's different from other people and I think this is really important especially if you have a child
Who is highly sensitive to?
Teach them why they are the way they are and how they're how their nervous system works how their minds work
To me it kind of helps you to feel less like the outcast and more of an understanding of like, okay
This is how I'm different. It would be no different if you were born and you had diabetes or if you were born with
Some other trait that you have to learn how to cope with because majority of society doesn't have this tree
so in our brains
We have something called the limbic system and the limbic system basically controls your emotions and controls your memory and in control
Stimulation now within your limbic system. You have all of these different kind of sub parts and there's four sub parts
you have the thalamus the cerebrum the
Hypothalamus and the amygdala so we all have these four sub parts. We're gonna go into the thalamus first. So the thalamus
takes in
information like sight smell and it takes all of that information that you're getting and it
communicates it with the cerebrum the cerebrum takes that information from the thalamus and it
Processes it and then it tells your body what to do
So say for example, you smelt smoke that's going to be coming from your thalamus
okay, you're gonna smell the smoke then it's gonna communicate that to your cerebrum and your cerebrum is gonna say
Let's walk and move away from the smoke
The hypothalamus is basically and these are a very general general statements that I'm making right
I'm not gonna get way deep into like every component of your mind. I just want to give you a
basic understanding of how your mind works
so within the olympic system you have or thalamus and your thalamus is
responsible for sending these little messengers out into your body called hormones the primary job of
The thalamus excuse me, the hypothalamus is to create a balance of hormones within your body
So this part maintains things like your sleep cycle
Your heart rate your blood pressure your body temperature your energy levels your appetite
I mean this part really affects a lot of things within your body because like I said, it's trying to create that
Hormone balance within your body and if you're a woman you'll know at times your hormones are not really in the elements
So this is the part of your brain that's basically affecting those things. Now, the amygdala is really really important in
Psychology and mental health because this is the part of your brain that basically controls your emotions
So it controls your anger your fear your sadness your happiness
So this part of your brain the limbic system with all these components there
This is the emotional side of your brain
and now when I talk a lot about
You know learning how to love yourself and how to control your emotional state and all of those types of things
You know self parenting. I talked a lot about your emotional side versus your logical side
So this is the emotional side to your brain the amygdala also
So it since it collects emotion, it's gonna collect fear. It's gonna collect happiness. It's gonna collect joy all of those things
It's gonna collect the emotion. It also is going to link that emotion that you're feeling to the event
That's currently happening and that creates a memory it can create the trauma
So that's where all of this stuff actually begins to happen. So it's gonna store that memory based on the event
That's happening and the emotion that you felt when it happened and so then it just almost
Recycles itself, so it's gonna reiterate that
Hey, when I did this I was really scared and the next time you do it you're gonna feel scared again
so that's why those things happen within your brain now, like I said,
The Olympics system is just to be simple with all of this, right
I'm not gonna get into the depths of it is the emotional side to you
We obviously have a logical cognitive side
But I'm not going to get to that
What's important to understand when this side of your body is each of these sub parts within the limbic system?
For you because you're highly sensitive are more active than the normal person
So you have more activity on the emotional side of your brain than you do the logical side
And that's why people tend to call us over emotional too sensitive, etc
Because we are that's not something that we should be offended by or get
You know defensive on that really is the truth
but unfortunately the way it's being presented to us is in a negative way and that's why I feel like sometimes
Someone who is highly sensitive or empathetic will tend to get offended when someone tells them that they're too sensitive or they're too emotional
so since we have an
overactive
Amygdala, for example, your nervous system is going to be wired for sensitivity
That just is so a lot of people who are highly sensitive are sensitive to pain
That's me
It's a pain
You're sensitive to sight you're sensitive to sound you're sensitive to
touch sometimes
Right, if something's too too hot for you or too too cold for me if I run my hands under cold water
It can't be absolutely freezing because I almost can't even take it
So your nervous system is wired for those sensitivities. So you're going to continue to overthink
If number one you don't understand how your mind works and number two how to basically stop yourself from
You know, it's going to be natural for you to that part of the brain to just always be triggered
You're not gonna be able to shut that off. That's just that's that's why you are highly sensitive
That's why you are wired the way you are
But here's how I'm gonna give you some tips on how to begin to
kind of I don't want to say heal that part of you because you can it's gonna continue to happen but to recognize when it
Happens and start taking different action towards feeling good
So number one first thing you have to do is self-awareness. You have to know these things about yourself
You have to know that you're highly sensitive. You have to know that this is how my brain works
um
Most people do most people aren't able to watch the news. Most people aren't able to watch certain movies
Because it really affects them and days later
They could still feel depressed because they saw something on TV that really happened someone so
Knowing yourself very very well and having self-awareness to know
Okay here I go
I'm going down a rabbit hole on something and being able to kind of pull yourself away from the hole before you get too deep
Into something. That's just honestly, that's just you taking care of yourself. That's just self-love right there
That's self-care and it's something that you have to do
That's you being the adult to yourself and taking control of your mind when your mind wants to just run ragged
I don't think people realize the power of just acknowledging. Okay. I'm in this state. Okay, I'm overthinking. Okay, I'm using more
Emotion versus logic the minute you bring that self awareness to the forefront you have now stopped
programming stopped habitual thinking and brought consciousness
To the table and the minute you bring consciousness to the table you get to choose, okay?
What direction do I want to go now?
Because I can keep going down this rabbit hole or I can take a different route because the goal is I want to feel good
I don't want to create a problem that doesn't even exist
So it literally is a practice to be able to like recognize, you know, practice that self-awareness to recognize. Okay. Here we go
Here's the thought and now I'm engaging too much in it, and I don't need to be because in this moment in time
I don't need to think about anything other than where I am right now
That right there in itself is a huge thing to start practicing quite frankly for anyone not just someone who's highly sensitive
But then being able to take it the next step further and say, okay
you know coz that thoughts gonna want to pull you back and pull you back and it's gonna want to seem believable and
recognizing that sometimes we're almost addicted to the pain of overthinking like
You know when you're thinking about something that's causing you pain and you know
You should stop and you're aware of it and you're telling yourself
Okay
I'm gonna stop now like I don't need to be thinking about this and
there's a part of you that goes let's just indulge just like a little bit more on that like crappy plays of
Overthinking about this and that's basically where you're just inflicting more pain upon yourself, right?
and so you have to have that self-awareness and that discipline to say no the goal is I
Want to feel I don't want to create something that doesn't exist right now
Like my goal is I'm trying to be good. Like I'm trying to feel good. And if I'm telling myself something that number one
Isn't happening in this moment
So I don't need to think about it being able to have that discipline and work that mental muscle to stop yourself
Takes practice it absolutely does but it's something that you can start doing right away
So I hope you have enjoyed this video
I hope it gave you some insight as to why you aren't over-thinker and help you to
Begin to kind of like stop that cycle and begin a new cycle really just to take care of yourself
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