Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. On today's video we're
gonna be talking about something that I don't usually bring up on the channel.
We're talking about three questions to ask a girl. Now you're probably thinking
Tripp, I've seen a lot of your videos. There's a ton of videos on what
questions to ask a girl. Yes, I do have those videos but a lot of those videos
are geared towards what do you ask her to actually get her attracted to you?
I have those videos. I'm gonna put those in the description down below so you can
check those out if that's what you're here for. But don't leave because what
I'm about to tell you today are three questions that are crucial to ask a girl
when you are dating her. These are three questions to find out
who she is as a person and what's going on in her life. If you don't have the
answers to these questions and you don't ask her then you'll eventually find out
later down the road and it could cause problems for you in the relationship.
These are three questions to ask her and they're not exactly literal. You might
not ask her the questions I'm about to tell you but you're gonna dig in and
find answers to the questions to find out who she is as a person to see if
this relationship or dating relationship is going to be able to be functional and
it's gonna be successful and really just be awesome for you because that's what
you want. You want to get into a relationship that's gonna be awesome.
What are these three questions? Let's get into them right now. The first question
is this; you want to ask her or find out if she does drugs on a consistent basis.
This is huge. You do not want to be getting into a relationship with anyone
who is an addict of any sort or an alcoholic or does drugs on such a
frequent level that it's messing with their life. You know some people maybe
aren't addicted but they do it enough where it's messing up kind of their
structure of their life and they're not able to accomplish the things they want
to accomplish. What drugs am I talking about? Well we're talking about alcohol. I
don't know if we consider that a drug but either way, I put this in the category.
Frequent alcohol abuse, smoking a lot of weed, things like coke, things
like obviously meth or heroin. We don't want
anyone doing that. Ecstasy I don't know all the other ones. Just look em up.
All the drugs here. Now listen, if she smokes weed a couple times a year,
she has a couple of drinks a week literally or gets drunk once a year, no
big deal. But we're looking for the answer to the question if she is a
frequent abuser does a lot of drugs? Why is this gonna be an issue? Well if you
get into a relationship with this person and it goes far down the road, you're
gonna be basically supporting her and helping her with her problems and her
habit because this habit could get worse and it's gonna cause issues in the
relationship. She's not gonna be able to be as functional as you want her to be.
So really look out for that. Now of course let's not go literal here. We're
not gonna sit on the first date and say hey do you do any drugs? But as
you're dating find out like hey have you ever smoked weed before? Or
have you ever tried this before or maybe you're gonna tell her about oh
this one time you did this crazy and what happened and then she
might reciprocate. Find out if she is an abuser. Let's go to the next question.
The next question is what is her relationship like with her father?
Again, not literal you're not gonna sit on the first date and say so what's your
relationship like with your father? That's kind of a weird question to
ask. But if you're dating her and maybe it does come up on the first date.
Second, third, fourth date, you say oh are you close with your
parents? That's a really great way to ask her. Are you close with your parents?
Or you tell her that you're very close to your parents and see if she
reciprocates and talks about that. Now why we asking her if she's close with
her father? I don't want to get too into psychology here. These are things that
you can look up. Maybe you've heard of daddy issues, when a woman has a lot of
issues with her dad. Maybe her dad abused her or abandoned her or the relationship
isn't tight. Causes a lot of psychological issues
with her as a person. You do not want the responsibility to save her or be the
person to solve her problems. That's something that she she should be doing
on her own. She should be working through those on her
own and not looking to you as this father-type figure because you're not
her father and you never will be although in some weird way when girls
have daddy issues, there can become a weird bond where the partner acts like a
father to her and it causes a very weird dynamic in the relationship.
I'm not gonna go too far into this. You can do your own research about daddy issues
but we want to find out if she's close with her father. Stay tuned by the
way till the end and I'm gonna sum up and explain what I've already
explained how to do it but I'm gonna explain here what to do
if you find out that she does have an alcohol problem, daddy issues and so
forth. Let's go to the third one. Alright the third question that you're
gonna ask is how she feels about her job. This is a big one. Your job pretty
much makes up a large majority of who you are. You're spending a lot
of time at work so this is for the guys who are 22 and older. Obviously 22 and
younger maybe this is not gonna be a question for you to ask. For 22 and
older, find out about her job. If she hates her job this is a red flag.
However she hates her job but she's telling you she's in the process of
finding a new one, okay no big deal she's taking action on it. That's great. But if
she hates her job and she has no plans to do anything else about it,
you can be sure that you're gonna hear a lot about this in the relationship and
she's gonna be a very miserable human being. I don't blame her. Who would it be
a miserable human being if you were working somewhere that you absolutely
hate. So you want to ask her do you like your job or how do you like working
where you're working. That's a pretty easy question. You can just ask them on the
first date. You can tell her about your job and how you feel about it so find
out because if she doesn't like her job, she's not passionate about what
she does, she doesn't enjoy it, this is gonna cause problems. You're gonna be
with a person who's gonna be negative all the time, sad all the time,
unhappy all the time and that idea there goes back to if she is a drug
abuser or if she does have any daddy issues. This is someone who might have
some mental issues because of her
psychology in a relationship with her father and this is gonna cause her to be
maybe irritable, sad, anxious, depressed and we don't want you to get into a
relationship with these girls. Yes, I'm a humanist. I believe that
everyone deserves love and all these women deserve to find a great guy but
hopefully they're working on these issues otherwise why would you ever want
to get into a relationship with someone who has all these issues and they're not
working actively to fix them. So you want to find out if the girl is in
Alcoholics Anonymous a little bit of a red flag. But if she's been sober for
like ten years and she's doing great well that's fantastic. Maybe that's not
such a big deal or if she has daddy issues but hey she has
been in therapy for many years and even though she doesn't have a relationship
with her dad, she's worked through that, that's fantastic. Again if she
hates her job but she's very active at finding a new one, that's great too.
Find these out. Get answers to these questions. I'm gonna put a link
down below for guys who were like wait a minute, I came here because I wanted to
find out questions about attraction. There's links down below to those videos.
Also semi-unrelated but still for those guys who are looking to ask questions to
continue conversation, I have a blog post all about improv comedy techniques that
you can use to continue a conversation with a girl on a date when you first
meet her so on and so forth. Check the description for all those links. Press
like if this resonates with you. Leave a comment below. Let's talk about this.
I want to give you more information about how to be able to find the right woman
for you as you are on your journey. Talk to you soon.