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what is the difference
or what is similarity between a web
programmer a web developer versus
a photographic
before i tell you the answer i want to
ask you a few questions
find your passion
find your purpose
fulfill your potential
how many of you resonate with one out of
these three statements here
majority of you
and these are actually the three
statements that have listened to the
notes from my almost a decade of
coaching experience
i am a life personal performance coach
what i do is i help people to get
clarity and build their confidence to
achieve all that goals in their life and
these are the three statements that i
receive the most from all my clients
from all backgrounds and all walks of
life and i've been doing this for the
past 10 years and this is the three
things that has been always people
coming to me and telling me what they're
looking for they want to look for their
passion because they believe that once
they achieve their passion they'll be
happy they'll be fulfilled they want
them to really live their purpose
because they feel that you know there's
something more
in them that they want to do there's a
bigger purpose in them in their life of
what they want to do and most
importantly they want to deliver to
their potential
they want to live up to what they can
really do they've got to be the person
that they aim to be
and this
is the problem
see you never achieve
or find happiness or fulfillment it's
all
if all that you do
it's finding it
there's no fighting there's only
experiencing
you don't find your passion on purpose
you design them
and what i mean by design them
i mean tell them about this
50 000 people
these are the people that i've coached
trained mentored or spoken to all around
the world in different continents
to different young professionals all
around the world
and these are the three things that i'll
be sharing with you after this
that
i have personally learned
and i think this is an idea of a
multidisciplinary life that every one of
us should live
this by not by all means are not
research based but this is by my own
sample science and my population of
clients or people that i've spoken to
over the past 10 years and 50 000 of
them
some of you might be familiar with this
concept this concept is called ikigai
so this concept came about because
there's this
province in japan called okinawa where
people actually live really long
so there are a lot of researchers who
became curious about why these japanese
live so long
and obviously when you talk about
japanese the first thing that we think
about is is it because of the raw food
that they eat you know the sashimis and
stuff
or is there any other things why they
actually live so long
and based on this research has been done
over the years
there's one thing that they found
that actually contribute to the
longevity and it's called ikigai
ikigai means the reason for being
basically everyone in okinawa actually
state that the reason why they wake up
every morning is the reason why they
continue to live is the reason why they
actually live longer
and in order for you to actually achieve
this reason for being this purpose that
you have there's four things number one
you should be doing what you love
number two you should be doing something
that you're really good at
number three
you should be paid to do all these
things and last but not least you are
doing something that the world needs
that sounds like a perfect purpose for
your life isn't it
when you're really good at it when you
love doing waking up every single day
and you actually get paid for it and the
world actually begging for your services
or your skills and your competencies
but is that
really how we live our passion and
purpose
these are the three things
that i have done my own research that
i've spoken to multi-millionaires
successful people that i coached that i
trained i that i work with one of the
three things that really really make
them have a fulfilling and happy life
and these are the three things number
one their values
number two their core identity and
number three their motivation
now let me break it down to you
number one your values
see
most of the time our values are derived
from some of our most painful
experiences in our life
whatever that you whoever you are right
now
your habits or whatever that you do
right now they are all products of your
past experiences
and most importantly the values that you
have right now are products of
traumatic opinion experiences in your
life
think about it
two siblings can be born to the same
alcoholic parents
one turn up to be exactly the same as
their parents
and the other one wants not to be a
successful billionaire entrepreneur
how can this be
it's because both of them look at the
same painful experience and they decide
on the different values that they want
to have
for the person who became an alcoholic
his values is that i would be the same
it's born in the family i'll be an
alcoholic but for the other person who
became a successful multi-millionaire
his value is that i will take risk i
will not stay where i was i want to go
to where i want to be
and this is your balance
so for you
if you really want to figure out your
values you want to look at your people
experiences ask yourself what have you
learned from your past experiences that
has shaped you who you are today
think about that really going deep
thinking about you know things that
you're doing right now the goals that
you want to have things they want to
achieve in life
are these the values of the past
experiences in your life that is
stopping you from getting there
number two your identity
now this is very interesting because
i've done this a lot and this is the
same thing that i talk to
almost every single one of my clients
most of us believe
in order for us to have a happy
fulfilling life we need to achieve
certain things first you need to have a
job title you need to have the financial
freedom you need to have that big
company that you want to have you want
to have to climb that corporate ladder
you want to work in that specific
companies that everyone in the world
wants to vote for
but that's not how it works
the mind doesn't work in a way
that moves towards something that's
really really far away
but the way the mind works is that it
will get you where you want to be
if you start behaving as if you've
already achieved what you want to
achieve
and this i'm talking about the future
identity
some of you might ask hey
that sounds great but i don't even know
what i want i don't even know what
identity i want to have in my life
that's wrong
every single one this group
has a role model
every single one of you
now then the question is what is the
role model that you actually want to
behave like today
and that brings you this question how
can you be the future self you want to
be right now
see i have years of public speaking 10
years ago
10 years ago i was on stage
in front of 500 people and i was given a
mind
and i actually cried
i was 18.
i cried in front of 500 people
think about what they do to your
self-esteem and self-contained
and right now
i spoke in stages all around the world
this year i spoke in russia singapore
india
and my biggest crop today is actually
200 500 people to a group of ceos hrc c
suites level
in singapore where they are way way way
older and more experienced than me
so what gives me the confidence is it
because i'm really better than them
no it's because i start to behave
as if my confidence i behave every
single day knowing that every time i get
on stage i will nail stage
i will be the best people on stage
is that a fact i don't know but does it
really matter it doesn't because it
serves me it helps me when i get on
stage to present in front of thousands
and thousands of people so that is my
future identity that's the identity i
want to have and i start behaving and
acting like i am today
and last but not least your motivation
and motivation is extremely important
for you to create
that life that you want
a lot of research has been done and my
personal experience as well
there are two core human motivation that
really really makes people think
number one is growth
and number two is contribution
humans are wired for growth and
contribution we every single day we are
seeking to grow
and the time when you stop growing is a
time when you feel that you are most
unfulfilled unhappy
lost you have no idea what you're doing
in life and trust me this is applicable
to not many unity students young
professionals it also happens to some of
my multi-millionaire clients
when they had achieved
multi-millionaires multi-millions in
their life they when they stopped
growing they wanted to sell up the
businesses they wanted to throw away
everything and start something again
because when they start something again
they start growing and the second one is
contribution when you contribute to
others you have a feeling of fulfillment
happiness
a lot of us are living this life trying
to seek and find happiness and
fulfillment when in an instance you can
get it immediately our break is quiet by
contributing to others we are genuinely
easily happy and be fulfilled
so these are the three pillars that have
a very big difference in order for you
to really find out what motivates you
you can ask yourself this question what
motivates you to keep going when times
are tough
all of us whether how young how old we
are
we have on two down times
and there are things that actually pull
us through
it could be our family it could be our
partner it could be our business it
could be our peers it could be just
an intuition
that keeps you going
and stick to that that is your
motivation
so now going back to ikigai
does that means that every single one of
us actually have one purpose
one passion in our life
maybe the answer is not so
and that's the idea that i want to share
today on multi-passion
a term where i point because i believe
that human and people have different
passion at a single time
you can have different passions in
different areas of your life you can
have different passions at different
stages of your life
i know for me right now my career that
i've been that i've been building in the
past 10 years is one of my most
important thing but i know i know for
sure
two three four five years down the road
when i have my own kids
things will change
because i become a parent
but does that mean i only have one
purpose one passion no
i can have multiple passions at the same
time
and going back to the question
of what's the difference between the web
programmer versus the photographer
this two person are actually the same
person
he's actually one of my coaching clients
what happened was he was actually on the
verge of quitting his web programming
job he does photography on the part-time
earnings of site income doing it for fun
it was on the verge of actually quitting
his job as a web developer that means
him really well he was like you know
what i really don't like this job i want
to pursue my passion
very very massive message right everyone
useful will told pursue your passion and
your money will come
but throughout my coaching with him he
realized that he's actually passionate
with both
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and the reason why is because he finding
the art of problem solving by becoming a
web programmable web developer he became
a web developer to help clients to solve
technological problems that they have
and he has an identity the identity for
him is that he wants to be a creative
person through photography
you want to go out to be able to shoot
anything he likes he likes without being
mutated think about it right if you quit
the full-time job and pursue photography
full-time what does that mean
you have to earn some income
and what does that mean
people pay you your clients pay you to
what they want you to shoot instead of
what you really want to shoot
for him that is the identity that he
wants to give he wants to be the
creative person to shoot and have the
freedom to be creative to play with
photography
and last but not least
is his
motivation
he knows he can grow by problem solving
problems by becoming a web developer and
at the same time he knows he can grow by
growing his creativity through
photography
i've actually coached thousands and
thousands of clients and participants
all around the world in this picture
this picture was taken in estonia where
i've actually coached a group of
multi-millionaires
to from a multi-millionaire to a girl
right here who's actually 17 years old
would drop up from school because she
believed that she wanted to find a
clarity about what she wants to achieve
in her life
and this uh these three
pillars the values the identity and
motivation is something that i
personally have found
that helps
to create a multi-passionate life and
the multidisciplinary life to all of you
so if you are still seeking to find that
one purpose one passion that one
potential that you want to live by
maybe it's time to drop it
because you have a choice
you have a choice to live life by design
not by default you have a choice to
decide and design the life you want to
experience every single day in every
single areas of life and not that one
passion or potential or purpose that
people has been telling you
and with that
i hope
you have a great
evening thank you